# Would you be comfortable sharing a dressing room with a gay person?? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 27, 2013, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005 "2013-06-27T01:58:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 12
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/221 "2013-06-28T15:54:36Z")
You seriously need to get over yourself. Not only are you NOT the only Canadian on this board, you are NOT even the only aspiring athlete to have ever had hopes of breaking into professional arena. I think you think that makes you superior in some way. I assure you, it does not. People are being quite patient with you, actually, trying to get you to realize why you’re being wrong-headed in your homophobia - separate shower stalls idea notwithstanding. Your only defense (so far) is that you know others who are homophobic so it’s not just you. Oh, and your _feelings_. None of that makes you right so don’t act all shocked when people point out that racists use the same defensive argument and they are equally in the wrong. ---
**Author:** ![LawMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@LawMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LawMonkey)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/222 "2013-06-28T15:59:41Z")
Also, what gives you this idea that gay/bi dudes are so narrowly focused on the penis? I hate to break it to you, but every gay/bi dude out there has seen a penis before (except for blind guys, I guess, but they’re not going to be checking you out in the locker room anyway). I see and touch a penis every single day of my life; I am intimately familiar with what one looks like. Don’t get me wrong, I love me some man meat, but there is more to being attracted to dudes than penis. So, even if you carefully insure that no gay/bi eye should ever spy your junk, we might very well be looking at your chest. Or your arms. Or your legs. Or your face. All of which are commonly exposed in public, never mind locker rooms. Do you propose spending the rest of your life behind a pixellated screen, save for when you are in the presence of only women or men who can certify that they have never had so much as a passing gay thought? ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/223 "2013-06-28T15:59:57Z")
p.s. You really ought to try to address the questions **Czarcasm** has been asking you repeatedly. Try to use more descriptive and thoughtful explanations than just “straight rights” and “feelings”. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/224 "2013-06-28T16:03:23Z")
Clearly the correct approach is to stand in the middle of the locker room and announce loudly “OKAY, I’M GOING TO GO TAKE A SHOWER NOW AND I DON’T WANT ANY OF YOU QUEERS LOOKING AT MY PENIS, ALL RIGHT?!?” That should solve your problem. ---
**Author:** ![Esco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9de053/32.png) [@Esco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esco)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/225 "2013-06-28T16:03:40Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > And yet you still can’t answer this simple question I just did, smartypants. You just didnt like my answer > [@Procrustus](#): > > I’m a straight male, and you don’t have a problem showering with me? Ding…ding. We have a winner > [@QuickSilver](#): > > You seriously need to get over yourself I’m not the one who’s butthurt over all this, you guys are. I also wouldnt be offended if a woman demanded separate changing rooms from me. I would respect her wish, and go along with separate rooms. Why is this so difficult for you gays to accept?? ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/226 "2013-06-28T16:07:56Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > Jeezus Christ you’re thick in the head. > > I’m not comfortable with some homo checking out my pecker in the shower. How many times do I have to allude to this?! > > Same way many women wouldnt be comfortable with that in a unisex change room No. Your imagination making you uncomfortable does not justify segregating anyone. If your daydreams make you so uncomfortable, either get professional help or avoid situations where you are tempted to imagine unwanted sexual attention. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/227 "2013-06-28T16:09:06Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > I also wouldnt be offended if a woman demanded separate changing rooms from me. I would respect her wish, and go along with separate rooms. Why is this so difficult for you gays to accept?? I accept your argument and you should get your way because you’re being a complete skirt\*. (My sincere apologies to all the women on this board.) ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/228 "2013-06-28T16:14:17Z")
> [@](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > Quote: > > Originally Posted by Procrustus View Post > > I’m a straight male, and you don’t have a problem showering with me? > > Ding…ding. We have a winner you ignored my next question. The one where I ask if you mind that I, as straight male, might be checking out your pecker. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/229 "2013-06-28T16:15:36Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > you ignored my next question. The one where I ask if you mind that I, as straight male, might be checking out your pecker. Gaaaaaaaaaaay. ---
**Author:** ![Macca26](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/13edae/32.png) [@Macca26](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Macca26)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/230 "2013-06-28T16:18:41Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > I just did, smartypants. You just didnt like my answer > Ding…ding. We have a winner > I’m not the one who’s butthurt over all this, you guys are. > > I also wouldnt be offended if a woman demanded separate changing rooms from me. I would respect her wish, and go along with separate rooms. Why is this so difficult for you gays to accept?? Well, if anyone asked to be away from you, I wouldn’t really blame them… And, of course, it’s entirely different when a social minority asks for something to help them out because they have legitimate harassment complaints vs someone in a social majority demanding minorities to do things because feelings. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/231 "2013-06-28T16:24:29Z")
(Mostly straight) woman here, I have never felt threatened by a sexual/romantic advance from a lesbian. I figure that anyone checking me out naked would also check me out in clothes. To me it’s no big difference. I don’t associated nudity with sexuality, nor do I find most people’s nude bodies sexually attractive, and while I know some other people feel differently, I mostly pay attention to my own feelings while in a state of undress. The only thing that makes me feel awkward about being naked in front of others is when other people are awkward about it, or act inappropriately. Thankfully those times have been few, for me (which is good, because I’ve been naked in front of other people much more than the average). Gawping is rude, no matter whether the person doing it is attracted, disgusted, or just a clueless stare-r gazing slack-jawed at someone with an appearance outside of what they might usually see. It doesn’t matter if I’m wearing food-stained sweats, in a heels and dress, or nude. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/232 "2013-06-28T16:33:18Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > Jeezus Christ you’re thick in the head. > > I’m not comfortable with some homo checking out my pecker in the shower. How many times do I have to allude to this?! > > Same way many women wouldnt be comfortable with that in a unisex change room Let’s tone it down please. You can disagree with people without insulting them. ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/233 "2013-06-28T16:33:21Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > I wish this was the pit. Feel free to join us over [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=694988). Roddy ---
**Author:** ![miss\_elizabeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@miss\_elizabeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/miss_elizabeth)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/234 "2013-06-28T18:00:22Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > This is exactly the way I feel also. > > And I cant believe so many posters in this thread are butthurt over my stance on all this. Get over yourself, you act like your feelings are hurt and you may never recover from this emotionally. > > You gays want equal rights, thats fine. But also have some compassion for straight people who also want **their** rights. In this case, my right is simply the same luxury that women have right now, which is separate shower stalls and separate dressing rooms Women do not have rooms separated from other gay women, so you are, in fact, asking for a special right. > [@Esco](#): > > Aboot is the Canadian way of saying about. I spell it wrong on purpose, its meant as a joke. > > Sorry you dont have a sense of humor I have a great sense of humor! That’s how I know you aren’t funny. For example, this: > [@Gyrate](#): > > Clearly the correct approach is to stand in the middle of the locker room and announce loudly “OKAY, I’M GOING TO GO TAKE A SHOWER NOW AND I DON’T WANT ANY OF YOU QUEERS LOOKING AT MY PENIS, ALL RIGHT?!?” > > That should solve your problem. is HILARIOUS!! Look homophobe, as I said in the first reply- there have been gay men in every locker room, changing room, bathroom, whatever, since forever. You’ve already changed with gay people, and you’re just fine. This proves that your fear is stupid and unfounded, and we don’t restrict other people’s movements based on stupid unfounded fears. If you can’t be around other people, stay home. Trust me, no one will miss you. I mean, I don’t like clowns, so you know what? I stay out of the fucking circus. I don’t go and then throw a little fit like a baby because some dude with a red nose looked at me. Grown-ups manage their shit. Grow up. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/235 "2013-06-28T18:52:21Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > Jeezus Christ you’re thick in the head. > > I’m not comfortable with some homo checking out my pecker in the shower. How many times do I have to allude to this?! > > Same way many women wouldnt be comfortable with that in a unisex change room Speaking as a homo who has been in the locker room of a number of gyms, I don’t give a rats ass about your pecker. I just want to shower, change clothes and get on with my day. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/236 "2013-06-28T18:53:50Z")
> [@miss\_elizabeth](#): > > Women do not have rooms separated from other gay women, so you are, in fact, asking for a special right. > I have a great sense of humor! That’s how I know you aren’t funny. > For example, this: > > is HILARIOUS!! > > Look homophobe, as I said in the first reply- there have been gay men in every locker room, changing room, bathroom, whatever, since forever. You’ve already changed with gay people, and you’re just fine. This proves that your fear is stupid and unfounded, and we don’t restrict other people’s movements based on stupid unfounded fears. If you can’t be around other people, stay home. Trust me, no one will miss you. > > I mean, I don’t like clowns, so you know what? I stay out of the fucking circus. I don’t go and then throw a little fit like a baby because some dude with a red nose looked at me. Grown-ups manage their shit. Grow up. I sort of have a crush on Miss Elizabeth. And we are both Memphians too.. ---
**Author:** ![LawMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@LawMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LawMonkey)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/237 "2013-06-28T18:55:16Z")
> [@miss\_elizabeth](#): > > I mean, I don’t like clowns, so you know what? I stay out of the fucking circus. I don’t go and then throw a little fit like a baby because some dude with a red nose looked at me. Grown-ups manage their shit. Grow up. **miss elizabeth** , you should stand up for your rights as a clownophobe. Go to that circus, and demand a special section that will be shrouded each and every time a clown is visible in the ring. I mean, there’s no reason that you, as a clownophobe, should have to miss out on the joy of the circus, is there! ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/238 "2013-06-28T19:02:21Z")
I like how we’re all “you gays” because we don’t agree with Esco. > [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > I sort of have a crush on Miss Elizabeth. And we are both Memphians too.. So, how would you feel about sharing a dressing room with her? ---
**Author:** ![Tracijo67](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@Tracijo67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tracijo67)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/239 "2013-06-28T19:24:01Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > Jeezus Christ you’re thick in the head. > > I’m not comfortable with some homo checking out my pecker in the shower. How many times do I have to allude to this?! > > Same way many women wouldnt be comfortable with that in a unisex change room Since this is NOT the pit, I’d like to know if hate speech like this is allowed. Subtract “gay” and insert “black”. Do the rules here prohibit racist/inflammatory hate rants (outside the Pit)? I’m asking – newer poster here, and don’t know. Also don’t know if it would be appropriate for me to call Esco out for being an angry, narrow-minded, possibly closeted, hate-filled bag of vomitus verbosus, but I’m taking the chance anyway. ---
**Author:** ![miss\_elizabeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@miss\_elizabeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/miss_elizabeth)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/240 "2013-06-28T19:29:30Z")
> [@Tracijo67](#): > > Since this is NOT the pit, I’d like to know if hate speech like this is allowed. > > Subtract “gay” and insert “black”. Do the rules here prohibit racist/inflammatory hate rants (outside the Pit)? I’m asking – newer poster here, and don’t know. > > Also don’t know if it would be appropriate for me to call Esco out for being an angry, narrow-minded, possibly closeted, hate-filled bag of vomitus verbosus, but I’m taking the chance anyway. If you believe that a post is against the rules, click the little red exclamation point thingy in the upper right corner of the post. You’ll be taken to a page where you can leave a note for the moderators about why you think the post is against the rules. It will be looked at and dealt with by the mods. You aren’t really supposed to post about it in a thread like that; it’s considered junior modding. But this post kinda is too, so I’m going to stop now. Best of luck on the boards! 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005.md?page=11) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005.md?page=13)