# Would you be comfortable sharing a dressing room with a gay person?? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 27, 2013, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005 "2013-06-27T01:58:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 19
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2013, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/361 "2013-07-01T17:23:18Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > No, you just divide change room into two parts, one is for the guys who are comfortable showering with gays, and the other for the ones who are not. There are several practical, legal, and philosophical problems with your plan. [ul] [li]You would have to ask people if they are gay or not, and then somehow restrict them from going somewhere[/li][li]State laws may prevent any of this questioning[/li][li]Many folks will answer wrongly for any number of reasons[/li][li]Logically if a gay man doesn’t want to change with other gay men who might be interested in then you have to send him over to the women’s locker room[/li][li]Requiring seperate but equal facilities has a long, poor history in this country[/li][li]You’re adding increased cost, management hassles, legal issues, and annoyance to every business that has a bathroom[/li][li]Appeasing bigotry is never a good approach[/li][li]Where do you put bisexual men and women[/li][li]It’s a giant step backwards for everyone involved, and societal trends are moving in the opposite direction[/li][/ul] ---
**Author:** ![pancakes3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@pancakes3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pancakes3)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2013, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/362 "2013-07-01T17:41:23Z")
Maybe to conserve space, gay men and straight women get 1 room and lesbians and straight men get another room? Seriously. This thread is beyond the pale stupid. ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2013, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/363 "2013-07-01T17:42:25Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > [ul] > [li]Logically if a gay man doesn’t want to change with other gay men who might be interested in then you have to send him over to the women’s locker room[/li][/ul] Even that won’t work if the goal is to prevent anyone from sharing a locker room with someone who might find them sexually attractive, as straight or bisexual women might consider the gay man a total hottie. One gay man and one lesbian could “safely” share a locker room without the “danger” of either being attracted to the other, but the addition of a third person (regardless of sex or sexual orientation) means someone in the locker room might conceivably be attracted to someone else. The only way to be certain that no one must suffer the grave indignity of possibly being considered attractive is to provide private stalls for everyone. ---
**Author:** ![LawMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@LawMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LawMonkey)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2013, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/364 "2013-07-01T17:42:50Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > There are several practical, legal, and philosophical problems with your plan. > > [ul] > [li]You would have to ask people if they are gay or not, and then somehow restrict them from going somewhere[/li][li]State laws may prevent any of this questioning[/li][li]Many folks will answer wrongly for any number of reasons[/li][li]Logically if a gay man doesn’t want to change with other gay men who might be interested in then you have to send him over to the women’s locker room[/li][li]Requiring seperate but equal facilities has a long, poor history in this country[/li][li]You’re adding increased cost, management hassles, legal issues, and annoyance to every business that has a bathroom[/li][li]Appeasing bigotry is never a good approach[/li][li]Where do you put bisexual men and women[/li][li]It’s a giant step backwards for everyone involved, and societal trends are moving in the opposite direction[/li][/ul] And on the other side we have: [ul] [li]Gay homosexuals might be checking out my wee-wee and that totally makes me feel icky![/li][/ul] Clearly, you’re going to have to admit defeat. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2013, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/365 "2013-07-01T17:48:15Z")
> [@Lamia](#): > > Even that won’t work if the goal is to prevent anyone from sharing a locker room with someone who might find them sexually attractive, as straight or bisexual women might consider the gay man a total hottie. Only if he’s making out with another gay man, or so I’ve heard. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2013, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/366 "2013-07-01T17:57:14Z")
Yeah, it’s always kind of gross when you can hear them macking on each other. ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2013, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/367 "2013-07-01T21:47:35Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > There are several practical, legal, and philosophical problems with your plan. > > [ul] > [li]You would have to ask people if they are gay or not, and then somehow restrict them from going somewhere[/li][li]State laws may prevent any of this questioning[/li][li]Many folks will answer wrongly for any number of reasons[/li][li]Logically if a gay man doesn’t want to change with other gay men who might be interested in then you have to send him over to the women’s locker room[/li][li]Requiring seperate but equal facilities has a long, poor history in this country[/li][li]You’re adding increased cost, management hassles, legal issues, and annoyance to every business that has a bathroom[/li][li]Appeasing bigotry is never a good approach[/li][li]Where do you put bisexual men and women[/li][li]It’s a giant step backwards for everyone involved, and societal trends are moving in the opposite direction[/li][/ul] That’s a good list. I predict \*\*Esco \*\*will not be back to answer it. Roddy ---
**Author:** ![Esco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9de053/32.png) [@Esco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esco)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/368 "2013-07-04T14:10:01Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > There are several practical, legal, and philosophical problems with your plan. > > [ul] > [li]You would have to ask people if they are gay or not, and then somehow restrict them from going somewhere[/li][li]State laws may prevent any of this questioning[/li][li]Many folks will answer wrongly for any number of reasons[/li][li]Logically if a gay man doesn’t want to change with other gay men who might be interested in then you have to send him over to the women’s locker room[/li][li]Requiring seperate but equal facilities has a long, poor history in this country[/li][li]You’re adding increased cost, management hassles, legal issues, and annoyance to every business that has a bathroom[/li][li]Appeasing bigotry is never a good approach[/li][li]Where do you put bisexual men and women[/li][li]It’s a giant step backwards for everyone involved, and societal trends are moving in the opposite direction[/li][/ul] There’s an alternate simple solution, just install a dozen or so private shower stalls for those who are not comfortable showering with other people. And not just gays, showering with other people in general. The funny thing aboot all this is I get the feeling from reactions in this thread that some gays (and ultra liberals) would still be offended with this, and demand I shower naked with them. This retarded gay movement is getting to the point where if you dont have some gay guy humping your leg 24/7 you’re a homophobe. Hey, maybe I’m just into girls. Ever thought of that?! Or is that bigoted too :rolleyes: 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/369 "2013-07-04T14:38:23Z")
Hey, if gyms want to provide private changing stalls, I’m all for it. I’d be happy to have a stall to myself. The problem is that you want to mandate it by law for ridiculous and bigoted reasons. That’s the stupid part. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/370 "2013-07-04T14:57:21Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > This retarded gay movement is getting to the point where if you dont have some gay guy humping your leg 24/7 you’re a homophobe. You claim that you are only _slightly_ homophobic? :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/371 "2013-07-04T15:42:18Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > The funny thing aboot all this is I get the feeling from reactions in this thread that some gays (and ultra liberals) would still be offended with this, and demand I shower naked with them. > > p Youre misreading if you interpret the pushback as a demand that you shower naked with us. I’m not hearing anyone express such a desire. Personally, I’d rather shower with the entire gay pride parade than with you. ---
**Author:** ![Tequila\_Party](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a6a055/32.png) [@Tequila\_Party](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tequila_Party)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/372 "2013-07-04T15:49:18Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > This retarded gay movement is getting to the point where if you dont have some gay guy humping your leg 24/7 you’re a homophobe. This tells everyone here exactly what your true “slightly homophobic” views are and _what_ you are; totally dismissable. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/373 "2013-07-04T15:58:06Z")
> [@Tequila\_Party](#): > > This tells everyone here exactly what your true “slightly homophobic” views are and _what_ you are; totally dismissable. Y’all are gonna _love_ his latest explanation: > [@Would you be uncomfortable sharing meat space with troglodyte homophobes?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-uncomfortable-sharing-meat-space-with-troglodyte-homophobes/662073/108): > > How do you know I’m not born that way?? ---
**Author:** ![Crafter\_Man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crafter_man/32/458_2.png) [@Crafter\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crafter_Man)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/374 "2013-07-04T16:07:58Z")
> [@](#): > > Would you be comfortable sharing a dressing room with a gay person?? Short answer: No. We have a locker room in my complex at work. I don’t know the sexual orientation of everyone in the locker room, and I would rather \*not \*know, to be honest. Because if I _knew_ I was sitting naked next to a gay male, it would definitely make me feel uncomfortable. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/375 "2013-07-04T18:45:39Z")
But you know teh gays have no sexual self-control, so if you gave them any sort of privacy (like a separate shower stall) they would be all over each other faster than frat boys on a drunken housekeeper. ---
**Author:** ![Esco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9de053/32.png) [@Esco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esco)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/376 "2013-07-04T20:25:06Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > Youre misreading if you interpret the pushback as a demand that you shower naked with us. I’m not hearing anyone express such a desire. Personally, I’d rather shower with the entire gay pride parade than with you Oh good, today is my lucky day ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/377 "2013-07-04T20:26:44Z")
> [@miss\_elizabeth](#): > > Yes I would. > > And if you’ve ever been in a dressing room or locker with a group of people, you’ve already done it so you shouldn’t worry over it. This. I actually shared a cabin at Boy Scout summer camp with a gay guy. He saw me naked many times. He’s a good friend, and I know I’m not his type, so no worries. ---
**Author:** ![Esco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9de053/32.png) [@Esco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esco)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/378 "2013-07-04T20:28:28Z")
> [@Crafter\_Man](#): > > Short answer: No. > > We have a locker room in my complex at work. I don’t know the sexual orientation of everyone in the locker room, and I would rather \*not \*know, to be honest. Because if I _knew_ I was sitting naked next to a gay male, it would definitely make me feel uncomfortable I feel the same. The problem I have (and some of my teammates also have) is that with this gay movement, they’re all starting to come out of the closet. It wont be long before every gay pro athlete comes out, and then what are we gonna do??! Shower with these guys??! I dont think so!! I really dont care if people are gay, I’d rather not know. Its none of my business anyways what people do in privacy of their own home, and what gender they sleep with. I really dont wanna know how many times people masturbate at home either. Like I said, its none of my business . ---
**Author:** ![amanset](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8dc957/32.png) [@amanset](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amanset)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2013, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/379 "2013-07-04T22:11:48Z")
Why wouldn’t I be? ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2013, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/380 "2013-07-05T05:12:27Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > …I really dont wanna know how many times people masturbate at home either… I’ll tell you if you ask nicely. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005.md?page=18) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005.md?page=20)