# Would you be comfortable sharing a dressing room with a gay person?? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 27, 2013, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005 "2013-06-27T01:58:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/41 "2013-06-27T05:18:42Z")
:eek: Of course! ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/42 "2013-06-27T05:20:15Z")
> [@Magiver](#): > > You just got done admitting that you look at men in the locker room and then went on to make fun of fat,furry, bald men. I’m a fat hairy bald straight man myself, who goes to a gym with a lot of obvious openly gay patrons, and I didn’t take any offense at **Valteron’s** post. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/43 "2013-06-27T06:01:08Z")
I’ve never not had to share a dressing room with a gay guy. It’s really annoying because he insists on coming home with me every night, eats all my food, sleeps in my bed and never gets out of the way when I’m trying to comb my hair in the bathroom mirror. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/44 "2013-06-27T06:09:47Z")
Gay guy here. > [@Valteron](#): > > What really makes gay men laugh is when some straight guy 30 lbs. overweight with a pot belly, hair on his back, a bald spot on his head and a face like an old tire says about gays: “They better stay away from ME!!!” as if he contemplates having to beat us off with a stick. I am more than 30 lbs. overweight, I have more than a pot belly, a little hair on my back, not too far from having a bald spot on my head, and even a face that may slightly resemble an old tire. And in addition to that, I’m 67 years old. Believe it or not, there are quite a few gay guys who may prefer me to you. Oh, and by the way, how many of you guys had to take showers after gym class . . . and had nude swimming classes? ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 6:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/45 "2013-06-27T06:24:54Z")
Female, 52 years old, bi oriented towards men more than women. I did theatrics as an undergrad and shared dressing rooms with every gender combination available [though never found a true hermaphrodite, _sigh_] and we were all more interested in getting our makeup finished and dressed in time for our cues. Shared a dorm room with a lesbian and a straight, no wild sex went on there either. Shared hotel space at conventions with pretty much every gender combination there, no wild sex went on except with the person who I was already living with. No particular body modesty, spent too much time with medical issues in hospitals and medical offices to be able to spend time getting twitchy about needing to strip down and expose naked body parts. After you have been helped use a bedpan for more than a day you pretty much can crap anywhere at any time in front of an audience. ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 9:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/46 "2013-06-27T09:00:27Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > I guess this question is mostly for you heterosexual guys out there, but I suppose it could be asked of heterosexual women also, relating to Lesbians. > Would you be comfortable sharing a dressing room with a gay person?? > > I’m a heterosexual male, and I will admit I’m a bit homophobic. I can honestly say I would not be comfortable sharing a dressing room with a gay person. > > How do you guys feel aboot this?? > > . I loathe attitudes like this, the implication being that gay people are sexually driven predators. The reality is that I, a gay woman, am probably MORE self conscious changing amongst straight women than they are, precisely because of the thoughts demonstrated by the OP - I am paranoid that they might think I’m ogling them. I go about my business and keep my eyes firmly averted. The reality is I’m just the same as everyone else, worrying about exposing my back fat to public ridicule. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 9:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/47 "2013-06-27T09:12:29Z")
I played Rugby and soccer at various times with gay guys and neither I nor any of the other heterosexual guys ever said anything about it. No-one cared at all. ---
**Author:** ![Esco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9de053/32.png) [@Esco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esco)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 11:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/48 "2013-06-27T11:17:42Z")
> [@Valteron](#): > > I am a gay man and I have changed in locker rooms with other men for decades. If a guy is really good looking I don’t deny that I sneak a quick, discrete look. So what? Most men, gay or straight, look at the bodies of other men when they get a chance. It is partly sexual, partly just curiosity. > > But I am curious about you, Esco. How old are you? Is your body sexy, do you work out, do you have a big one? How would you rate yourself in male sexiness, on a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest)? > > What really makes gay men laugh is when some straight guy 30 lbs. overweight with a pot belly, hair on his back, a bald spot on his head and a face like an old tire says about gays: “They better stay away from ME!!!” as if he contemplates having to beat us off with a stick. > > The funny thing about straight men is that they think gays are just drooling for sex 24/7 with any male they can get their hands on. Occasionally, a bi guy will decide to “take a walk on the wild side” and tries to get picked up at a gay spot. There is nothing sadder than his realization that gays are NOT drooling after him and that getting laid is not easy, unless you happen to be a Channing Tatum look-alike. > > Do you have a pic of yourself you can show me, Esco? Because I might have good news and bad news. The good news is that you need not be uncomfortable with gays in the locker room. The bad news is that it’s because they are not very attracted to you. Are you ready for the truth and let the chips fall where they may? I’ve actually been hit on by gay guys before in the past (such is life in Toronto which has a huge gay population). And yup, it made me uncomfortable. In the same way a woman is uncomfortable with unwanted advances > [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > Sharing a dressing room with anyone bothers me a great deal; their orientation isn’t going to even be on the radar, just the simple fact that they are there Yup, I’m the same. I’m not really comfortable taking group showers at end of games in a locker room. Its just that I’m _extra_ uncomfortable having gay people around . ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/49 "2013-06-27T11:35:50Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > Probably. And thats exactly what I’m not comfortable with. > > We have separate change rooms for men and women, and its for that exact same reason. Women arent comfortable changing in front of drooling guys checking out their bodies I’m not comfortable changing in front of senile grandmas who blurt out “my god lass you’re really fat!” at a third person either, but as a shy, awkward, early-developer teen I was perfectly comfortable doing “the towel dance” on a beach full of people of both sexes. Any person who drools while looking at another needs to have that checked, any senile old grandmas should be accompanied. I’ve got no problem with the idea that some of the chicks who go to the same gym I go might be lesbians. I’ve also got no problem with a lesbian hitting on me, so long as she’s ok with getting a “no”; same as my reaction to “guy I don’t find attractive or whose timing just sucks hitting on me”. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 11:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/50 "2013-06-27T11:38:54Z")
It doesn’t bother me for the most part but I have had guys come on to me in locker rooms both at work and at the gym. In the few cases it has happened it has always been a friend I did not suspect as being gay or bi. Similar method also, they wanted to make sure I saw thier hard dicks. I never outed them just instructed them to put it away because I had no interest. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/51 "2013-06-27T11:58:26Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > It doesn’t bother me for the most part but I have had guys come on to me in locker rooms both at work and at the gym. In the few cases it has happened it has always been a friend I did not suspect as being gay or bi. Similar method also, they wanted to make sure I saw thier hard dicks. I never outed them just instructed them to put it away because I had no interest. You have got to go somewhere where you can meet some classier guys. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/52 "2013-06-27T12:01:22Z")
No problem at all, and I find the argument to be silly. ---
**Author:** ![Esco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9de053/32.png) [@Esco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esco)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/53 "2013-06-27T12:09:32Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > No problem at all, and I find the argument to be silly You realize we’re not all the same, dont you?! Whats silly in your world may not be so silly in someone elses world ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/54 "2013-06-27T12:15:26Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > You realize we’re not all the same, dont you?! Whats silly in your world may not be so silly in someone elses world Right, and vice versa, which is why he’s sharing his opinion. I’ve done it before (straight woman here) and don’t really give a shit. Lots of straight women quietly check each other anyway to compare yourself to others and see how you measure up. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/55 "2013-06-27T12:25:25Z")
> [@Ferret\_Herder](#): > > Lots of straight women quietly check each other anyway to compare yourself to others and see how you measure up. Straight woman checking in to confirm I do this, as well. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/56 "2013-06-27T12:26:33Z")
> [@Rachellelogram](#): > > Straight woman checking in to confirm I do this, as well. Oh sure, you all do that but I put up ONE little webcam and suddenly I’m the pervert. ---
**Author:** ![Esco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9de053/32.png) [@Esco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esco)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/57 "2013-06-27T12:31:23Z")
So can we have men and women sharing showers and dressing rooms then?! It seems many of you ladies seem to be OK with lesbians (and possibly checking out your bodies), why cant we have men and women sharing dressing rooms also?? . ---
**Author:** ![Red\_Wiggler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/red_wiggler/32/13190_2.png) [@Red\_Wiggler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Red_Wiggler)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/58 "2013-06-27T12:39:33Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > So can we have men and women sharing showers and dressing rooms then?! It seems many of you ladies seem to be OK with lesbians (and possibly checking out your bodies), why cant we have men and women sharing dressing rooms also?? > > . Paul Verhoeven portrayed that very scenario for the future in _Starship Troopers._ My college roommate for my first two years was gay. He knew I wasn’t. It was no issue, ever. We were friends until his death. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/59 "2013-06-27T12:40:07Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > So can we have men and women sharing showers and dressing rooms then?! It seems many of you ladies seem to be OK with lesbians (and possibly checking out your bodies), why cant we have men and women sharing dressing rooms also?? > . Why not? That might help Americans get over their obsession with sex, or their unhealthy body images. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2013, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005/60 "2013-06-27T12:40:55Z")
> [@Esco](#): > > So can we have men and women sharing showers and dressing rooms then?! It seems many of you ladies seem to be OK with lesbians (and possibly checking out your bodies), why cant we have men and women sharing dressing rooms also?? In my subculture, we do. Campground showers are often open to view, coed and clothing optional. Why can’t the rest of the world get on board? Probably because there are still lots of people like you in it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-be-comfortable-sharing-a-dressing-room-with-a-gay-person/662005.md?page=4)