# Would you date a perfect man who is a premature ejaculator? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 11, 2014, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382 "2014-11-11T23:17:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/21 "2014-11-12T01:12:02Z")
> [@coremelt](#): > > Actually there are very effective treatments for premature ejaculation. Most SSRI antidepressants have the side effect of making it take much longer to achieve orgasm and they are sometimes prescribed off label to treat premature ejaculation. Actually, if you look a little deeper you will find that SSRIs have a pretty shitty efficacy for treating PE. And SSRIs are basically the ONLY approved treatment for PE. ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/22 "2014-11-12T01:37:00Z")
Can he use his hands? If so, yes. If not, dunno. ---
**Author:** ![brainstall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@brainstall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainstall)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/23 "2014-11-12T01:41:29Z")
If he enjoys whistling through the wheat field, I’m all good with a short and sweet finish on his end, so yeah, I’m in. ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/24 "2014-11-12T02:05:16Z")
> [@brainstall](#): > > If he enjoys whistling through the wheat field, I’m all good with a short and sweet finish on his end, so yeah, I’m in. Is that like yodeling down the canyon? ---
**Author:** ![coremelt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@coremelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coremelt)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/25 "2014-11-12T02:06:59Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Actually, if you look a little deeper you will find that SSRIs have a pretty shitty efficacy for treating PE. And SSRIs are basically the ONLY approved treatment for PE. In this blind randomized study of 3 different SSRI’s 100 percent of the participants had a decrease in premature ejaculation symptoms after 4 weeks: > **[A randomized study examining the effect of 3 SSRI on premature ejaculation...](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2374931/)** > > This study reports the results of a large prospective single-blinded clinical trial of 3 SSRI (paroxetine, fluoxetine and escitalopram) in PE using a validated questionnaire. A total of 100 normally potent men suffering from PE were enrolled in a ... ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/26 "2014-11-12T02:07:01Z")
> [@coremelt](#): > > Actually there are very effective treatments for premature ejaculation. Most SSRI antidepressants have the side effect of making it take much longer to achieve orgasm and they are sometimes prescribed off label to treat premature ejaculation. When I was prescribed antidepressants (for depression/anxiety), not only did it prolong it, sometimes made it impossible, and even caused the erection to have a weird spongy consistency, and yeah- it wasn’t good. My GF at the time, who wanted me to take the meds, was pretty much offended by the non-ejaculation. ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/27 "2014-11-12T02:11:23Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Using two condoms is one of the worst things you can do, at least if you’re using them for protection. They’re much more likely to tear that way. What’s the second one for, the scrotum? ---
**Author:** ![coremelt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@coremelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coremelt)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/28 "2014-11-12T02:11:33Z")
> [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](#): > > When I was prescribed antidepressants (for depression/anxiety), not only did it prolong it, sometimes made it impossible, and even caused the erection to have a weird spongy consistency, and yeah- it wasn’t good. My GF at the time, who wanted me to take the meds, was pretty much offended by the non-ejaculation. treatment for anti depression involves a higher dosage than the treatment for premature ejaculation and yes inability to orgasm is a common problem. When treating for premature ejaculation a lower dosage is used which in theory should make it take longer, but not impossible to finish. ---
**Author:** ![SparkleLilly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/67e7ee/32.png) [@SparkleLilly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SparkleLilly)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/29 "2014-11-12T02:16:49Z")
Probably not. I’m a lesbian. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/30 "2014-11-12T02:24:55Z")
> [@coremelt](#): > > In this blind randomized study of 3 different SSRI’s 100 percent of the participants had a decrease in premature ejaculation symptoms after 4 weeks: > > [A randomized study examining the effect of 3 SSRI on premature ejaculation using a validated questionnaire - PMC](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2374931/) “Decrease in premature ejaculation” does not equal _satisfactory decrease_ in ejaculation. Yes, SSRIs DO cause a delay in ejaculation. Of that there is no dispute. The question is how _well_ do they work for men who suffer from premature ejaculation. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/31 "2014-11-12T02:32:04Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > “Decrease in premature ejaculation” does not equal _satisfactory decrease_ in ejaculation. Yes, SSRIs DO cause a delay in ejaculation. Of that there is no dispute. The question is how _well_ do they work for men who suffer from premature ejaculation. Also, I’d have to say that there are several different causes for PE and SSRI therapy is an effective treatment for some of these causes. For others, it is not. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/32 "2014-11-12T02:43:48Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Yes, this is a way to combat the problem. However, one issue that is frequently found with this method is a decrease in erection strength with each subsequent ejaculation. That’s what cock rings are for. ---
**Author:** ![coremelt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@coremelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coremelt)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/33 "2014-11-12T02:44:51Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > “Decrease in premature ejaculation” does not equal _satisfactory decrease_ in ejaculation. Yes, SSRIs DO cause a delay in ejaculation. Of that there is no dispute. The question is how _well_ do they work for men who suffer from premature ejaculation. In the study I linked 100 percent of participants achieved a significant decrease in symptoms. If you have a study indicating otherwise please provide a link, I can’t find one. While they might not work for everyone to say they have “shitty efficiency” is definitely not true. Heres another study in which a total of 78 percent of men had “very much improved” or “much improved” results: [http://www.nature.com/ijir/journal/v14/n6/full/3900918a.html](http://www.nature.com/ijir/journal/v14/n6/full/3900918a.html) ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/34 "2014-11-12T02:58:48Z")
> [@coremelt](#): > > In the study I linked 100 percent of participants achieved a significant decrease in symptoms. If you have a study indicating otherwise please provide a link, I can’t find one. > While they might not work for everyone to say they have “shitty efficiency” is definitely not true. > > Heres another study in which a total of 78 percent of men had “very much improved” or “much improved” results: > [The efficacy of citalopram in the treatment of premature ejaculation: a placebo-controlled study | International Journal of Impotence Research](http://www.nature.com/ijir/journal/v14/n6/full/3900918a.html) Ok, I should have said SSRIs are a poor overall treatment for PE due to the relatively high level of side effects that accompany the benefit. On top of that, they don’t work for some forms of PE. ---
**Author:** ![coremelt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@coremelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coremelt)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/35 "2014-11-12T03:06:51Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ok, I should have said SSRIs are a poor overall treatment for PE due to the relatively high level of side effects that accompany the benefit. On top of that, they don’t work for some forms of PE. If you’ve got a study to cite that then please link it. Both the studies I have linked showed only mild side effects. Overall SSRI’s are highly effective treatments for the majority of people with PE. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/36 "2014-11-12T03:31:22Z")
> [@coremelt](#): > > Overall SSRI’s are highly effective treatments for the majority of people with PE. From your second link: > [@](#): > > In summary, our results **suggest** that citalopram **may** be effective in treatment of the premature ejaculation with mild side effects. However, \*\*further investigations with large sample \*\*in which long-term effectivity of this drug is taken into consideration are **required** As this summary points out, all that has been shown was a possible effective treatment, in a small sample study. Hardly the evidence needed to be able to make statements like the one you made above. And I’ll dig for info when I get a chance. But I’ll be back. ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/37 "2014-11-12T03:58:57Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Using two condoms is one of the worst things you can do, at least if you’re using them for protection. They’re much more likely to tear that way. They call it ‘double bagging.’ [heh] I looked it up because the mechanics of why this would be doesn’t make sense to me. It still doesn’t. No double bagging seems to be the common wisdom on the subject, but there isn’t good scientific evidence to back it up. Still, most of the medical community seems to be in agreement that it’s not a good practice. > [@](#): > > The reality of this practice – double bagging condoms-- is that there is no good scientific data the backs up this practice, but there is also no great scientific data that disputes it. It is an area where doctors and health educators come up with their best recommendations based on the limited research and what we know about condom failure. [abouthealth](http://contraception.about.com/od/malecondom/f/twocondoms.htm) ---
**Author:** ![coremelt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@coremelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coremelt)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/38 "2014-11-12T04:07:41Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > From your second link: > As this summary points out, all that has been shown was a possible effective treatment, in a small sample study. Hardly the evidence needed to be able to make statements like the one you made above. The first study I linked had 100 participants, more than enough to statistically significant. Heres another study with 77 participants : [http://www.bioline.org.br/pdf?rm10010](http://www.bioline.org.br/pdf?rm10010) Quote: “Our findings indicate that fluoxetine and citalopram efficacies on PE are highly effective” ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/39 "2014-11-12T04:38:06Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > I always had a hard time with the concept as well (no pun intended). It is perfectly understandable to be a premature ejaculator when you are 14 when even brushing against something pretty might set it off but not nearly as understandable at 25 and certainly not at 40. I’ve been a premature ejaculator roughly until 26 yo or so. No amount of masturbation would solve the issue. If I could get it up, then I would ejaculate in no time during intercourse (but not when masturbating). Not willing to share the details of my early sex life, but roughly, it solved itself very quickly (like in 2 months) once I found a partner who didn’t restrict pussy access. Once I had this unlimited access, I stoped ejaculating as soon as I came anywhere near said pussy. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2014, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382/40 "2014-11-12T12:17:13Z")
> [@brainstall](#): > > If he enjoys whistling through the wheat field, I’m all good with a short and sweet finish on his end, so yeah, I’m in. First let’s run the combine through so we can more accurately assess the lay of the land.😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-date-a-perfect-man-who-is-a-premature-ejaculator/704382.md?page=3)