# Would You Donate Sperm/Egg To An Infertile Doper Couple? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 17, 2007, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420 "2007-04-17T02:54:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Hal\_Briston](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a9a28c/32.png) [@Hal\_Briston](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hal_Briston)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/1 "2007-04-17T02:54:03Z")
That’s it – guys, let’s say there was a doper/dopers who were dealing with infertility issues and needed a sperm donor, and they posted here asking for someone in our community to donate. Would you? Female dopers – if the same situation called for it, would you be an egg donor? Notes: 1. 100% Purely hypothetical question. 2. I’d appreciate it if we could go light on the jokes here, at least for a little while (I know, I know, but c’mon – this one is really fish in a barrel). ---
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/2 "2007-04-17T02:57:42Z")
I personally would not because I have severe scoliosis and it can run in families. If it weren’t for that, sure- why not? I’m not using my eggs. As long as they paid for the harvest, it’s a reasonably low risk procedure as far as I’m aware. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/3 "2007-04-17T03:01:36Z")
Female, and no. - If I’m not on oral contraceptives, I have excruciating menstrual cramps that last for the duration of my period, or close to it. - In the last few years, I’ve started getting menstrually-linked migraines - much worse than my usual migraines, and one every day of my period. Thus I’m now on continuous oral contraceptives. I’m loath to think what I would be like off of the pill and on extra hormones; I’d probably be looking for a gun to just end the pain. - My genetics are less than ideal, to say the least. - There’s the issue of child support concerns that might come up. ---
**Author:** ![Fetchund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b2d939/32.png) [@Fetchund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fetchund)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/4 "2007-04-17T03:03:58Z")
No, I would not donate eggs. A few years ago, I would have thought about it, but from what I have heard about the process, it is a nightmare of pain, hormones and trouble. It isn’t quite like what the guys go through! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lochdale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/edb3f5/32.png) [@Lochdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lochdale)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/5 "2007-04-17T03:05:19Z")
I would donate semen with certain conditions: I got to know them personally first. I had some rights vis-a-vis the child. That is, the child knows who I am. ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/6 "2007-04-17T03:06:32Z")
As it stands, I am too old to donate eggs. If I were younger, yes. I’m just wasting them and if it would help someone who really wanted a child to have one, why not? Assuming there is no possible way I would a) ever have to pay child support, or b) have to raise a child. ---
**Author:** ![Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hey_It_s_That_Guy)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/7 "2007-04-17T03:57:32Z")
Nope. Maybe for a friend of mine who I knew personally, but not random people from one of the many message boards I belong to. EDIT: Nah, not at all, if child support could even possibly come up down the line. But being a Doper wouldn’t affect my decision one way or another. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/8 "2007-04-17T04:00:12Z")
Yes I would, if they were okay with accepting eggs from a obese person with a history of depression and anxiety disorders. Not exactly selling it, am I? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![NinjaChick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/71c47a/32.png) [@NinjaChick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinjaChick)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/9 "2007-04-17T04:07:24Z")
Female, and yes, under a few conditions: \*Some degree of financial compensation. \*Legal guarantee that I would not have any financial obligation to the child \*A clear agreement that I would not be a part of the child’s life - I would not be Auntie NinjaChick. \*The couple in question paid, in full, all medical and travel expenses incurred I’m never going to have kids of my own; if the opportunity presented itself I’d at least let my reproductive system earn a bit of cash. ETA - Whether or not they’re a doper would be pretty much irrelevant. If someone met those conditions, sure. I figure the chances of anyone wanting my genes are pretty minimal, though. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/10 "2007-04-17T05:56:42Z")
They can have as much of my sperm as they want. I make a lot more than I need, anyway. But they have to understand that there’s a higher-than-normal chance their kid will be gay. ---
**Author:** ![A.R.Cane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee7513/32.png) [@A.R.Cane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/A.R.Cane)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/11 "2007-04-17T06:06:08Z")
[QUOTE=Lochdale] I would donate semen with certain conditions: I got to know them personally first. I had some rights vis-a-vis the child. That is, the child knows who I am. [/QUOTE] Funny, I would require the opposite. Total anonymity. ---
**Author:** ![anu-la1979](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/47e85d/32.png) [@anu-la1979](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anu-la1979)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/12 "2007-04-17T06:09:43Z")
No, because it’s my genetic material and I want to be able to choose a father and only pass on my genes with someone I feel is optimal for merging DNA with. I would never surrogate either, not even for my sister. ---
**Author:** ![OtakuLoki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ac8455/32.png) [@OtakuLoki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OtakuLoki)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/13 "2007-04-17T07:07:09Z")
[QUOTE=NinjaChick] \*Legal guarantee that I would not have any financial obligation to the child [/QUOTE] Thinking back to **GFactor** ’s [recent article](http://www.straightdope.com/mailbag/mspermdonor.htm) about child support, I don’t think that there’s any way to get a guarantee of no financial obligation. I’m dead broke, but looking over the precedents he mentioned in his articles leaves me thinking it’s still too much to risk. Male, FWIW ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 7:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/14 "2007-04-17T07:24:57Z")
I’m too old to be allowed to. Otherwise, probably. When the procedure first came off, I considered it (my reservations about becoming a parent aren’t about genetic quality), but having to spend four days in a hospital was totally incompatible with my study-500-hr-a-week college. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 8:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/15 "2007-04-17T08:26:27Z")
I would for a close friend or relative, but it sounds like a major pain in the ass, so strangers would be out. I wouldn’t surrogate for anyone. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 8:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/16 "2007-04-17T08:47:47Z")
[QUOTE=Lochdale] I would donate semen with certain conditions: I got to know them personally first. I had some rights vis-a-vis the child. That is, the child knows who I am. [/QUOTE] Like **A.R. Cane** , I would donate sperm only under the exact opposite conditions. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 9:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/17 "2007-04-17T09:18:13Z")
Ditto ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 11:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/18 "2007-04-17T11:42:35Z")
Yes, I would if I wasn’t ancient already. I’d also donate my uterus. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/19 "2007-04-17T11:48:22Z")
Female, and no I wouldn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 12:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/20 "2007-04-17T12:24:26Z")
I’m too old to donate eggs and I have a genetic blood disease. But hey, if they are willing to risk it, why not? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420.md?page=2)