# Would You Donate Sperm/Egg To An Infertile Doper Couple? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 17, 2007, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420 "2007-04-17T02:54:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/21 "2007-04-17T12:28:58Z")
I had fertility issues of my own which were never explained. I’d be a poor candidate. ---
**Author:** ![MizGrand](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cdc98d/32.png) [@MizGrand](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MizGrand)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/22 "2007-04-17T12:33:17Z")
If I were more healthy and younger, I most certainly would. There are some people who so desperately wish for a child and I can’t even imagine the ache associated with being unable to conceive one. I don’t even think that I’d need contact, wouldn’t be MY kid. Oh, and of course the entire procedure/recovery would have to be paid in advance. Along with a stipend for my trouble. ---
**Author:** ![zuma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e9c0ed/32.png) [@zuma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zuma)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/23 "2007-04-17T12:34:35Z")
[QUOTE=OtakuLoki] Thinking back to **GFactor** ’s [recent article](http://www.straightdope.com/mailbag/mspermdonor.htm) about child support, I don’t think that there’s any way to get a guarantee of no financial obligation. I’m dead broke, but looking over the precedents he mentioned in his articles leaves me thinking it’s still too much to risk. Male, FWIW [/QUOTE] My answer would have been “probably not” as I’d like complete privacy. After reading that article, the answer now is never, no matter what the situation. Talk about the road to hell behing paved with good intentions… ---
**Author:** ![goldenmean1975](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@goldenmean1975](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/goldenmean1975)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/24 "2007-04-17T13:10:14Z")
Yes I’d donate eggs. I’d do it for a friend, family member or stranger. My only stipulations would be that they pay for the cost of treatment, of course and keep me anonymous. ---
**Author:** ![Eureka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/74df32/32.png) [@Eureka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eureka)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 1:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/25 "2007-04-17T13:24:01Z")
Female, No. Not too old, yet, not too genetically risky, not too attached to my hormonal birth control. But at this point in my life, if I don’t get to put my eggs to good use, nobody else gets to either. That’s my gut instinct. I think I’d be more likely to budge on the issue for someone who I was already emotionally close to–such that a role as Auntie Eureka was logical and likely–rather than a near total stranger. While there are many Dopers for whom “near total stranger” is not a good descriptor, there are none for whom I truly feel “emotionally close.” ---
**Author:** ![Fretful\_Porpentine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fretful_porpentine/32/2873_2.png) [@Fretful\_Porpentine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fretful_Porpentine)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/26 "2007-04-17T13:55:45Z")
I might consider donating eggs if there were some financial compensation involved – from what I understand, it’s a painful, time-consuming, and invasive procedure, and I enjoy doctor’s visits even less than the average person. (If I were male, I might be willing to do it for free.) ---
**Author:** ![Jayn\_Newell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Jayn\_Newell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jayn_Newell)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/27 "2007-04-17T14:22:32Z")
Female, and no. On principle I’d be up for it, but as others have said, I’ve heard it’s painful, time-consuming and invasive, and I don’t think I could bring myself to go through with it. Besides, do you really want half your kids genes to come from someone who’s half-inbred? ---
**Author:** ![Shecky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@Shecky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shecky)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/28 "2007-04-17T14:30:32Z")
Absolutely. It’s not just for vanity (I have genes that I’d like to pass on), but more for helping a couple to resolve their anguish. Realisitically though, sperm donors are a dime a dozen, really. There are way more sperm banks that egg banks, and a lot of the donors are better educated/more fit/ masterbate more than I do. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/29 "2007-04-17T14:36:08Z")
Hell no. i would never bring a child into this world that I could not take care of. This is not to say it’s a moral judgement on anyone else! Rather due to a large chip on my shoulder - I was abandoned by both my parents, and thus don’t care to do it to a child. So - never-never-never. ---
**Author:** ![Baldwin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/baldwin/32/7264_2.png) [@Baldwin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baldwin)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/30 "2007-04-17T14:40:20Z")
No. I don’t approve of people reproducing, and certainly don’t want to help them do it. If they want a kid so much, they should adopt one. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/31 "2007-04-17T14:45:53Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] Hell no. i would never bring a child into this world that I could not take care of. [/QUOTE] I agree with this comment. I could not know I have a child that I did not have an active role in his life as his mother. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/32 "2007-04-17T15:15:25Z")
Yup. Under some conditions. I have no tie to the child, ever - not financially, not as family. They’d pay for any costs incurred. That’s about it. If I’ve got other spare parts they might need, they can have them too. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/33 "2007-04-17T15:35:56Z")
[QUOTE=Ferret Herder] Female, and no. - If I’m not on oral contraceptives, I have excruciating menstrual cramps that last for the duration of my period, or close to it. - In the last few years, I’ve started getting menstrually-linked migraines - much worse than my usual migraines, and one every day of my period. Thus I’m now on continuous oral contraceptives. I’m loath to think what I would be like off of the pill and on extra hormones; I’d probably be looking for a gun to just end the pain. - My genetics are less than ideal, to say the least. - There’s the issue of child support concerns that might come up. [/QUOTE] Can’t they grab an egg from inside the ovary, regardless of pill use? Oh, and I wouldn’t. I’ve got the same sparkling resume as \*\*WhyNot \*\* 😉 and wouldn’t want to pass that on, plus I’m not sure I consider it moral. ---
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/34 "2007-04-17T15:40:02Z")
I think this is more of an IMHO thread. I’ll donate it there. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/35 "2007-04-17T15:49:12Z")
A few years ago I would have said yes. With the condition that I would have no parental responsibility at all. Lately I’ve been pondering the issue (not a lot, but it crosses my mind at times) and am not entirely convinced that AI is right. So at this point in life I would say no. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/36 "2007-04-17T16:03:13Z")
I would not donate eggs. The main reason is that I feel that it is more ethical to adopt children who already exist rather than using artificial reproductive technology to create new ones. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/37 "2007-04-17T16:05:41Z")
I don’t know. I have no problem with the general idea of donating an egg (I wouldn’t consider the resulting child to be mine at all, seeing as how the sperm and womb involved would have nothing to do with me), and I certainly won’t be using any of mine myself, but I agree with those who feel that people who want kids should adopt whenever possible. [QUOTE=SnakesCatLady] I am too old to donate eggs. [/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Nava] I’m too old to be allowed to. [/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Annie-Xmas] I’m too old to donate eggs [/QUOTE] What’s the cutoff age? ---
**Author:** ![MissMossie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f6c823/32.png) [@MissMossie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MissMossie)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/38 "2007-04-17T16:29:57Z")
If I could donate eggs by just masturbating and having them pop out, I might. As it is, the [process](http://eggdonor.com/?section=donor&page=process) seems a bit more involved than that. I’m not sure how would feel about going through all of it for strangers. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/39 "2007-04-17T16:31:47Z")
[QUOTE=NinjaChick] Female, and yes, under a few conditions: \*Some degree of financial compensation. \*Legal guarantee that I would not have any financial obligation to the child \*A clear agreement that I would not be a part of the child’s life - I would not be Auntie NinjaChick. \*The couple in question paid, in full, all medical and travel expenses incurred I’m never going to have kids of my own; if the opportunity presented itself I’d at least let my reproductive system earn a bit of cash. ETA - Whether or not they’re a doper would be pretty much irrelevant. If someone met those conditions, sure. I figure the chances of anyone wanting my genes are pretty minimal, though. [/QUOTE] Me too. ---
**Author:** ![Boggette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/858c86/32.png) [@Boggette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boggette)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420/40 "2007-04-17T16:51:08Z")
I’d donate eggs and I have references! 😃 I think I’m slightly too old now, but if the recipient was willing to pay for the medical treatments necessary (no additional compensation), I’d do it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-donate-sperm-egg-to-an-infertile-doper-couple/400420.md?page=3)