# Would you feel comfortable bringing otherwise-uninvited guests to such a gathering? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 25, 2014, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475 "2014-08-25T18:13:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2014, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475/41 "2014-08-26T20:09:36Z")
Rude. I would always clarify and never assume. ---
**Author:** ![Shalmanese](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shalmanese](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shalmanese)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2014, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475/42 "2014-08-26T23:52:51Z")
My rule is if I’m going to a party where people are contributing more resources than consuming (eg: a potluck dinner or a house party where people bring a six pack of beer each), then I feel fine inviting friends along without informing the host first. If it’s one where people are consuming more than they’re contributing (eg: Dinner party where the host cooks), then I make sure to ask. ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2014, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475/43 "2014-08-27T17:58:22Z")
Why do you hate your oldest brother? Also, I would not bring someone unless I’d cleared it with the host first. Seems like common courtesy ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2014, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475/44 "2014-08-27T20:18:03Z")
Dietary Restriction guests? They bring their own dishes at first invite (with printed recipes). That way, when you want them again, you know what you can have to one side. Uninvited guests/crashers? Haven’t been there since HS. Host? I’m generous & forgiving. Guest? I follow hosts rules. If somehow I find myself talked into being someplace where I’m not welcome? I leave. If there was some drama someone wanted to munch on? Well, all they’ll have to bite is Me. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2014, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475/45 "2014-08-27T20:53:02Z")
If uninvited guests showed up to my house with special “demands” (dietary or otherwise), they would be immediately walked out the door. “So I invited so-and-so, and they invited you, and you think this allows you to make demands of me? Well, it’s been… interesting, but I think you should be going now. Good day.” Seems to me that uninvited guests should be as pleasant, gracious and non-demanding as possible, or they should be somewhere else. “I said GOOD DAY SIR!” ---
**Author:** ![Jragon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e19b73/32.png) [@Jragon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jragon)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2014, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475/46 "2014-08-27T21:06:24Z")
> [@Aangelica](#): > > - Well for most invitations - there are events to which I would _not_ assume he was invited. Bachelorette parties, baby showers, bridal showers, etc. Those are pretty clearly events to which it’s reasonable to _not_ assume my husband might have an automatic invite 🙂 I see Bachelorette Parties, but area bridal showers and baby showers really considered a woman thing? I’ll admit I’ve seen a grand total of three of these things, and those were when I was a child, but they seemed pretty even gender-wise. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2014, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475/47 "2014-08-27T21:40:08Z")
> [@Doctor\_Jackson](#): > > That goes equal for my current and former wives (except Ethyl, who never did listen to me), … and most of the cousins. Thar you go being redundant agin. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-feel-comfortable-bringing-otherwise-uninvited-guests-to-such-a-gathering/696475.md?page=2)