# Would you fuck/date/marry an (ex)stripper/prostitute/phone sex operator/porn actor/other sex worker? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 18, 2011, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911 "2011-06-18T05:09:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2011, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/61 "2011-06-21T05:31:30Z")
Dated a couple strippers, dated one “big bust” model who did some soft core porn, partied in the Hollywood Hills with Porn stars. Strippers are often a bit odd, but it depends, it could work out as a LT relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Khendrask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3e96dc/32.png) [@Khendrask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khendrask)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2011, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/62 "2011-06-21T15:30:37Z")
Absolutely. As lonely as I am? If she was attractive and said yes, I’d marry her in a heartbeat ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2011, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/63 "2011-06-22T00:05:51Z")
Once, as I was getting a lap dance, I told a stripper that I could never date a stripper. It seemed to make her like me more. I could probably date an ex-stripper or nude model. I doubt I could date an ex-prostitute porn star. ---
**Author:** ![Redcup121](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/67e7ee/32.png) [@Redcup121](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Redcup121)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2017, 11:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/64 "2017-09-15T11:17:00Z")
My current Girlfriend is a cam girl on myfreeccams.something. she is smoking hot extreme sexual and a total one man woman who is down for me 100%. She encourages me to come hang out in her room when she is working but i rarely do because i think it makes her kind of nervous. To us it is her job. and she makes a shitload of money doing it. if she is at it 8 hours a day im talking 10 grand a month. And she doesn’t even to all the nasty stuff she shows her tits and might do a shower or oil show. but no fuck machines or giant dildos even though she could double her income if she did. which i still wouldn’t care. She loves me and comes to me every night. Sher is loyal and faithful does all the housework and cooks like no girl her age should know how. only a fool would pass my girl up because of what she does for a living. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2017, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/65 "2017-09-15T15:07:36Z")
Probably not. Too much risk of things like Zombie Outbreaks. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![SandyHook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@SandyHook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SandyHook)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2017, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/66 "2017-09-15T16:11:28Z")
I went with no. Mostly because I’m 70 and happily married for 49 years. Seems a bit late in the game to be making major changes. Were I in my early twenties and single the fuck part would certainly have appeal. ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2017, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/67 "2017-09-15T16:31:10Z")
> [@Redcup121](#): > > My current Girlfriend is a cam girl on myfreeccams.something. she is smoking hot extreme sexual and a total one man woman who is down for me 100%. She encourages me to come hang out in her room when she is working but i rarely do because i think it makes her kind of nervous. To us it is her job. and she makes a shitload of money doing it. if she is at it 8 hours a day im talking 10 grand a month. And she doesn’t even to all the nasty stuff she shows her tits and might do a shower or oil show. but no fuck machines or giant dildos even though she could double her income if she did. which i still wouldn’t care. She loves me and comes to me every night. Sher is loyal and faithful does all the housework and cooks like no girl her age should know how. only a fool would pass my girl up because of what she does for a living. Does she live in Canada? Does she own a liquor store, too? I, too, make over 10K a month, and I get to keep my dignity. I don’t have guys jacking off to my image. At least, I hope not. I have my work computer’s camera covered with tape, just in case. ---
**Author:** ![Redcup121](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/67e7ee/32.png) [@Redcup121](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Redcup121)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 8:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/68 "2018-03-27T08:36:18Z")
> [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](#): > > Does she live in Canada? > > Does she own a liquor store, too? > > I, too, make over 10K a month, and I get to keep my dignity. I don’t have guys jacking off to my image. > > At least, I hope not. I have my work computer’s camera covered with tape, just in case. Nope not Canadian . And she has got more dignity, grace, good manors, and poise. then any woman Ive ever met. So you can say what you like about her but 1 you better never say it in my company 2, Nothing you could ever say will make her less. ---
**Author:** ![Pantastic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3bc359/32.png) [@Pantastic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pantastic)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/69 "2018-03-27T13:46:15Z")
> [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](#): > > One must consider whether they may be diseased due to the nature of their occupation. Yes, but with someone who doesn’t do sex work one must consider whether they may “be diseased” due to the nature of their hobbies. I think it’s much safer to get involved with a current or former sex worker who has some basic knowledge about sexual health and gets tested regularly than someone who tells me that they’re “clean”. The CDC estimates that around 80% of the population is ‘diseased’ with one flavor of herpes, and that everyone who is sexually active has some strain of HPV (though there are no tests for it in general use for men and only a few for women), so anyone claiming to be “clean” or “diseases free” is probably just showing extreme, dangerous ignorance. ---
**Author:** ![Ashtura](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ashtura/32/2963_2.png) [@Ashtura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashtura)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/70 "2018-03-27T15:53:47Z")
I’d fuck her, if the following conditions were met: 1. I wasn’t married or otherwise taken. 2. I Didn’t have to pay for it (it wasn’t prostitution). 3. She was STD-free. Would I go past that? Hell no. ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/71 "2018-03-27T16:04:01Z")
I knew someone who became a stripper at 18 when she was on her own. Eventually got married & had kids. One of her kids got married & now has a baby of her own to give you an idea of how far in her past it was. So if you’re talking in the past, how far in the past? ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/72 "2018-03-27T16:20:35Z")
FYI This one particular study concluded porn stars are no more or less likely to be “damaged goods” than average women. In fact, they found the porn stars were more likely to have higher self-esteem and perceived quality of life. Granted, small sample size (177 female adult movie stars), but the results are somewhat surprising. > **[Are Porn Actresses “Damaged Goods”?](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/homo-consumericus/201212/are-porn-actresses-damaged-goods)** > > Porn actresses: Higher self-esteem and better quality of life! ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/73 "2018-03-27T16:29:34Z")
I would draw the line at zombie prostitute. I could not have answered the poll (either now or vintage-2011) because it assumes one would _marry_ a person or else “not seriously / draw the line” etc. So the only way I could indicate that I wouldn’t find her profession or recreational activities offputting would be to select “I could picture marrying one”, which isn’t at all true but has nothing to do with being a prostitute (etc) and everything to do with not doing marriage with anyone under any circumstances. I would have some concerns. They might not overlap much with the kind of concerns folks anticipate. The most overlappy part would probably be not wanting to be handled & accommodated like an impersonal business transaction —I’d need reassurance that she felt an actual connection to me, more reassurance than from someone else, I suspect. But a bigger worry that probably doesn’t overlap with other folks’ as much would be that someone in those professions might be likely to make generic assumptions about maleness, appetite, how things are for guys, what males want from sex and sexual opportunities, all that stuff. Kind of like how someone who works as a drug dealer might end up thinking everyone wants to obtain a recreational high because it’s true for the people they encounter all the time. If I could be friends with her, if she’d be friends with me, it could totally go on to be something more special as well. ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/74 "2018-03-27T17:05:46Z")
I don’t fuck anyone casually (or, well, at all), and I confess I’d be terrified about being judged for my inexperience and undoubted lack of skill. I mean I’d be scared of that with any woman, but with one that I actually _know_ is so experienced and has known such a wide range of men? I’d be freaked. Again, specifically, I’d be freaked about _me_ and _my_ problems and inadequacies. I’m sure the typical sexually experienced woman is probably reasonably well adjusted and would be a fine person to get to know. And if they’re diseased they’d know and disclose it at the proper time. I wouldn’t expect any problems there. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/75 "2018-03-27T18:28:43Z")
I’d want to get us both STD tested and confirm there’s no problems. I’d consider a serious relationship. If she’s ended her work in the sex trades. ---
**Author:** ![mlees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@mlees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mlees)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/76 "2018-03-27T18:51:01Z")
:smack: I just answered a seven year old poll… ---
**Author:** ![Jennshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Jennshark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennshark)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/77 "2018-03-27T18:51:49Z")
It would squick me out. I’ve been thinking about these kind of questions of late (gee, I wonder why?) and while I have absolutely no problem with what others’ do for a living nor who chooses to do what with other folks (short of child porn, bestiality, etc), I couldn’t do an intimate relationship. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/78 "2018-03-28T15:31:12Z")
> [@mlees](#): > > :smack: > > I just answered a seven year old poll… You and me both. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/79 "2018-03-28T17:57:42Z")
Really, after 7 years someone can’t move on with her life…? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![MonkeyCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@MonkeyCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MonkeyCat)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911/80 "2018-03-28T18:18:49Z")
I think it would depend on the person’s character and whether or not they were clean from drugs. It’s not where the person’s been that makes them worthwhile or not. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-fuck-date-marry-an-ex-stripper-prostitute-phone-sex-operator-porn-actor-other-sex-worker/585911.md?page=5)