# Would you give a relationship a chance under these circumstances? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 26, 2015, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631 "2015-02-26T01:35:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/848f3c/32.png) [@Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuzzy_Dunlop)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/21 "2015-07-30T16:48:28Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > You met on Tinder but she didn’t give it up until the fifth date? Doesn’t that defeat the purpose of Tinder? I thought Tinder was used for hookups with no strings attached? I’m pretty sure in 2015 you could meet a young woman at a church picnic and it’d be surprising if she waited 5 dates to have sex. Ok, I’ve never been to a church picnic in my life, but fucking after 5 days seems normal to slightly slow to me. Not so much slow as slightly longer than average, but really really far from slutty. ---
**Author:** ![Lanzy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/74df32/32.png) [@Lanzy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lanzy)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/22 "2015-07-30T16:50:29Z")
Because of her past you don’t want to see the future? ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/23 "2015-07-30T16:52:46Z")
I think this is the perfect time to ask if she’s a goer. \<[nudge,nudge](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jT3_UCm1A5I)\> ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/24 "2015-07-30T16:59:00Z")
I still hope it works out for the both of you and that it is all still fresh and new at 2-3 times a day 6 months later. And if it isn’t, for one of those 2-3 times try… “…So, have you heard about Windows 10…?” 😉 😃 ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/25 "2015-07-30T17:04:37Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > I still hope it works out for the both of you and that it is all still fresh and new at 2-3 times a day 6 months later. Oh hell no. 6 months from now they’ll be discussing [emotional presence](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=763705) 2-3 times a day. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/26 "2015-07-30T17:13:59Z")
Basically if you are out of highschool every woman you date is pretty much guaranteed to have had other dicks inside of her, as long as she has not STDs it really is none of your business. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/27 "2015-07-30T17:17:44Z")
I think you should break up with her and give me her number. Nothing in what you have described would give me the least bit of pause. ---
**Author:** ![Hector\_St\_Clare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5ac83/32.png) [@Hector\_St\_Clare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hector_St_Clare)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/28 "2015-07-30T17:25:52Z")
> [@Fuzzy\_Dunlop](#): > > I’m pretty sure in 2015 you could meet a young woman at a church picnic and it’d be surprising if she waited 5 dates to have sex. Ok, I’ve never been to a church picnic in my life, but fucking after 5 days seems normal to slightly slow to me. Not so much slow as slightly longer than average, but really really far from slutty. I have a gay friend who used to go to a church in New Haven that was apparently a famous pickup spot. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/29 "2015-07-30T18:16:02Z")
She makes too much good food and wants too much sex which makes you question the viability of the relationship. I’m sorry … I’m having trouble understanding your strange moon language. If I had a chance to ride a magical horse made of lasagna and blow jobs I would not be looking it in the mouth. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/30 "2015-07-30T18:21:01Z")
I think I know what he might be experiencing. I have dated women who liked sex a lot and I would get the impression when having sex that I was merely a tool. If a man or a woman is overly obsessed with sex it can make the partner a little uneasy. If you feel confident that it is you she is attratced to rather than just sex you might feel better. I would just enjoy it while it lasted and take it one day at a time. See where it goes. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/31 "2015-07-30T19:27:01Z")
Folks, the OP bumped the thread after 6 months to say things are still going A-OK. The initial question was answered 6 months ago. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/32 "2015-07-30T19:36:23Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > Folks, the OP bumped the thread after 6 months to say things are still going A-OK. The initial question was answered 6 months ago. :smack: not withstanding, my posts remain apropos. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/33 "2015-07-30T19:51:03Z")
> [@A.James](#): > > Just bumping this thread again to say thanks for all the great input. It’s still early in the relationship, but this is one of the rare times I actually thought all advice was solid, especially the quoted text. Has the 2-3 times a day pace slackened at all? Jealous minds want to know. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/34 "2015-07-30T19:58:27Z")
I am getting to that age where 3 times a week is pushing it! ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2015, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/35 "2015-07-30T20:02:21Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > I am getting to that age where 3 times a week is pushing it! Did we _ask_ you to describe your technique? :dubious: 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2015, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/36 "2015-07-31T16:53:52Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > A lot of girls go through a “slut spiral” after getting out of an 8-year relationship. That’s a very long time to only sleep with one person and she was probably trying to make up for lost time. > > All in all, a girl who **admits to a moral failing** in her past is seeking to build trust through honesty. Whelp, I didn’t see anyone else call you out on this, so… W.T. everlovin. F. A _“moral failing”?_ Would you judge a man who enjoys lots of sex this way? ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2015, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/37 "2015-07-31T18:22:29Z")
I’m still trying to get my head around “gave it up.” ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2015, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/38 "2015-07-31T18:42:16Z")
> [@Kaio](#): > > Whelp, I didn’t see anyone else call you out on this, so… > > W.T. everlovin. F. > > A _“moral failing”?_ Would you judge a man who enjoys lots of sex this way? Yeah. I would. Stop annoying the women folk and get some work done for a change, ya horndog! Seriously, who has time for that kinda thing, three times a day? ---
**Author:** ![usedtobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ec9cab/32.png) [@usedtobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/usedtobe)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2015, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/39 "2015-07-31T21:45:33Z")
Didn’t we just have a thread about a guy who got trapped by the woman who had lots and lots of sex - until the day after the wedding? Then she announced she could go 3 weeks… Then the years go by and she feeds him lots of fattening stufff and he plumps out and can’t find another woman… ? The advice was to RUN!!! Why is this not the case here? It seems the “conniving bitch” is still out there, looking to trap a paycheck aka mealticket… ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2015, 9:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631/40 "2015-08-01T09:43:26Z")
> [@usedtobe](#): > > Didn’t we just have a thread about a guy who got trapped by the woman who had lots and lots of sex - until the day after the wedding? > Then she announced she could go 3 weeks… > Then the years go by and she feeds him lots of fattening stufff and he plumps out and can’t find another woman… > ? > The advice was to RUN!!! > > Why is this not the case here? > > It seems the “conniving bitch” is still out there, looking to trap a paycheck aka mealticket… Numero uno, most people aren’t manipulative like that. Most people just are more or less who and what they are. Numero two-o, I can’t speak for other guys, but for me, the sex could be the greatest in the world, but unless we had a soul-level connection, marriage wouldn’t even be up for discussion. If we’re just too different down deep, or if she’s holding back too much on who she is inside, why would I be even _thinking_ of marriage? Not even sex 2-3 times a day, in ways that satisfy every last kinky fantasy of mine, could change that. And IMHO, a guy who would marry someone he didn’t know down deep because the sex was amazing…well, even if you aren’t marrying someone who’s manipulating you with sex, marriage is about a lot more than sex. And when difficulties hit, if you’re seeing the world in incompatible ways, it’s all gonna come apart. Numero three-o, if the morning after the wedding, your former sexual enthusiast of a bride announces that she’d rather just have sex once every now and then, you go back to the courthouse and have your marriage annulled. Or do that at whatever point you realize you’ve been had. But how often does this scenario happen? I’m sure it does happen, but you can’t spend your life guarding against threats that are extremely unlikely to materialize. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-give-a-relationship-a-chance-under-these-circumstances/713631.md?page=3)