# Would you have sex with a person who has herpes? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 4, 2005, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942 "2005-06-04T23:18:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2005, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942/41 "2005-06-06T02:17:05Z")
Great post, **lezlers**. [hijack] And YO! Last month I’m reading a really good crime novel and about mid-way through it this really hot, tough, smart, female assistant D.A. enters the cast of characters. After one paragraph about her I’m thinkin’ “It’s **lezlers**! Right here in my book!” So even if you’re not out of law school yet, you are already famous in print. Check out _1st To Die_ by James Patterson. You know, if that library ever gets quiet enough for you to read in it. 😉 [hijack] ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2005, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942/42 "2005-06-06T03:24:20Z")
Well, considering the amount of women I’ve been with and NEVER having a cold sore; I think I may be immune to the disease. So I don’t think I would care. ---
**Author:** ![Kiros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/439d5e/32.png) [@Kiros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiros)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2005, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942/43 "2005-06-06T03:36:12Z")
I get a cold sore on my mouth maybe once or twice a year, and have ever since I was a kid. Pretty sure I got it from my mother as a child. Never kiss anyone when I’ve got one, not that anyone would really want to anyways, they’re decently gross. I mostly wanted to post to second something that was mentioned earlier - there is a definite nerve sensation involved in a cold sore, at least on the lips, that has nothing to do with a pimple. I can pretty much always tell when one is coming at least a day in advance, and if I can get some Abreva on it literally RIGHT AWAY (like, no more than an hour or two after I feel the tingle, and then reapply it a few times a day), it doesn’t even really break out sometimes. The person with the cold sore definitely knows it’s a cold sore - so if it’s someone you know you can trust, and they say it’s a pimple, then it’s probably a pimple. Confusion of the two isn’t really an issue. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2005, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942/44 "2005-06-06T04:00:03Z")
> [@John Carter of Mars](#): > > Great post, **lezlers**. > > [hijack] And YO! Last month I’m reading a really good crime novel and about mid-way through it this really hot, tough, smart, female assistant D.A. enters the cast of characters. After one paragraph about her I’m thinkin’ “It’s **lezlers**! Right here in my book!” > So even if you’re not out of law school yet, you are already famous in print. Check out _1st To Die_ by James Patterson. You know, if that library ever gets quiet enough for you to read in it. 😉 [hijack] Well hot damn, I’m famous! Except I work for the public defender’s office, not the D.A.‘s office. Those tightasses uptairs’ in the D.A’s office will take anyone. The PD office is much more selective. 😉 Still a student but I just won my first motion last Friday. Woot! And compared to the library at work (where us lowly clerks live) the library at school is like a freakin’ tomb. Thank GOD. Thanks for the kind words. ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2005, 10:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942/45 "2005-06-06T10:54:38Z")
> [@SHAKES](#): > > Well, considering the amount of women I’ve been with and NEVER having a cold sore; I think I may be immune to the disease. So I don’t think I would care. None doesn’t count. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![inkleberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f17d59/32.png) [@inkleberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inkleberry)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2005, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942/46 "2005-06-06T16:45:41Z")
1. Married to guy just like you describe. We got him acyclovir supressive therapy, and no more nasty lip outbreaks! I had a “no oral sex during outbreaks” policy though, especially when I was pregnant. If he got a suprise genital outbreak now my reaction would be :smack: , and then off for Valtrex instead of generic acyclovir, because Valtrex does work a bit better, IME. 1. Dated a guy with gential herpes. Didn’t get it. He wasn’t on supressive therapy, and he had three or so outbreaks a year. Now he’s happpily married and in the process of trying to start a family. Meanwhile, I have HPV, another thing people commonly wring their hands over and panic about. It’s more likely I would pass that to my husband than he would pass Mr. Herp onto me. ---
**Author:** ![inkleberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f17d59/32.png) [@inkleberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inkleberry)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2005, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942/47 "2005-06-06T16:57:20Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > If I’m not mistaken, HPV is the genital warts virus, while HSV is the herpes simplex virus. Right you are. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-have-sex-with-a-person-who-has-herpes/306942.md?page=2)