# Would you kiss someone not of your preferred gender under the mistletoe? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 18, 2008, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821 "2008-12-18T22:39:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![rat\_avatar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rat_avatar/32/255_2.png) [@rat\_avatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rat_avatar)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/81 "2018-12-13T17:00:15Z")
I wouldn’t kiss anyone I wasn’t in a relationship with. While I admit to being a 0 Kinsey scale, or an outlier, mostly I don’t enjoy kissing people without romantic attachment. The individuals I am romantically involved with will probably be in my preferred gender is the only reason. Even as a child the mistletoe concept just creeped the heck out of me. ---
**Author:** ![Hermitian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hermitian/32/470_2.png) [@Hermitian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hermitian)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/82 "2018-12-13T18:42:21Z")
> [@gravitycrash](#): > > I have no problem with gay people at all, but the idea of kissing a man is really repulsive to me. I would rather kiss a very ugly woman than Brad Pitt. So the answer for me is just say no under the mistletoe if it is a dude. Put me in this camp as well. I have seen guys online say stuff like “I’m heterosexual, but I might be willing to switch for [insert apparently attractive male actor]!” That is definitely not me. ---
**Author:** ![Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/intergalactic_gladiator/32/112_2.png) [@Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Intergalactic_Gladiator)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/83 "2018-12-13T18:44:53Z")
Would you kiss a zombie? ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/84 "2018-12-13T18:48:07Z")
Hell, I wouldn’t kiss a person of my \*preferred \*gender under the mistletoe unless it was my wife (or daughter). Maybe in my 20s I’d’ve answered differently. ---
**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/85 "2018-12-14T02:36:02Z")
Straight guy here. I can’t imagine the circumstances under which it would arise, but I wouldn’t have a problem kissing a male friend. He’d have to buy me dinner if he wanted the oral sex, though. And I mean someplace classy, like Olive Garden or Red Lobster. ---
**Author:** ![Dickerman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8baadc/32.png) [@Dickerman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dickerman)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/86 "2018-12-14T03:12:22Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/87 "2018-12-14T04:06:30Z")
Euro-style cheek bussing, sure. Lip-to-lip? Ain’t happening. ---
**Author:** ![TSBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/77aa72/32.png) [@TSBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TSBG)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 6:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/88 "2018-12-14T06:12:18Z")
US straight guy. Would definitely do it with a friend, and I have some straight friends who will kiss on the lips as a greeting in everyday circumstances. With a stranger? Not that I’d go EWWWW, but wouldn’t want to inadvertently send a misleading message. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/89 "2018-12-14T06:50:04Z")
NFW. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 8:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/90 "2018-12-14T08:19:19Z")
> [@gravitycrash](#): > > That is hot ladies. Two women going at it. Two men going at it? Who wants to see two hairy male asses going at it? Um… those of us who are sexually attracted to men and not to women? That said - since achieving adulthood the only people I kiss are those I’m in an intimate relationship with. Meaning no, not only would I not kiss someone of my non-preferred gender under the mistletoe, I wouldn’t kiss someone of my preferred gender, either, unless I was in a relationship with that person already. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/91 "2018-12-14T15:04:19Z")
> [@Penfeather](#): > > You smelt of anchovies and cheap Shalimar knockoff when you were 7? And in answer to the OP, sure, why not? Only to turn on Ukulele Ike - and well after I was seven because we don’t want to make poor taste pedophile jokes. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/92 "2018-12-14T19:32:34Z")
> [@Bullitt](#): > > NFW. Not For Work? OK, but would you as a hobby? ---
**Author:** ![Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d9b06d/32.png) [@Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boozahol_Squid_P.I)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2018, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/93 "2018-12-14T19:48:21Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Then what the hell have I been doing, the past 45 years? > > Regarding the OP: I have exactly zero attraction to women, but I’d kiss anyone of any gender under the mistletoe, unless they were terminally repulsive. Kissing men, probably. Sorry: I was a judgy little prick ten years ago, wasn’t I? ---
**Author:** ![NJ\_Kef\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b487fb/32.png) [@NJ\_Kef\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NJ_Kef_1)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2018, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821/94 "2018-12-15T00:32:14Z")
I don’t grok this concept of “preferred gender.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-kiss-someone-not-of-your-preferred-gender-under-the-mistletoe/477821.md?page=4)