# Would you rather have sex with ten partners once, or one partner 20 times? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 10, 2007, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641 "2007-09-10T02:44:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/1 "2007-09-10T02:44:21Z")
Inspired by [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=435941) thread. I’m (unscientifically) testing a hypothesis here: Most men (straight and gay) will prefer the first option, women the second. ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/2 "2007-09-10T02:47:00Z")
Twenty spunks is more than ten, no matter how ya slice it. Sex with a woman is often much better after a few practice sessions. You have to consider that, too. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/3 "2007-09-10T03:02:28Z")
Female here…I’m going for 20 with one partner rather than a boatload of one-night-stands. Practice makes perfect, you know! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/4 "2007-09-10T03:04:19Z")
Do I get to keep one of the ten? Else, I must agree with RickJay. ---
**Author:** ![633squadron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/ee59a6/32.png) [@633squadron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/633squadron)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/5 "2007-09-10T03:05:03Z")
[QUOTE=BrainGlutton] Inspired by [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=435941) thread. I’m (unscientifically) testing a hypothesis here: Most men (straight and gay) will prefer the first option, women the second. [/QUOTE] One partner 20 times. Sex is great, love is better, both together is amazing. ---
**Author:** ![Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d9b06d/32.png) [@Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boozahol_Squid_P.I)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/6 "2007-09-10T03:06:12Z")
[QUOTE=carnivorousplant] Do I get to keep one of the ten? Else, I must agree with RickJay. [/QUOTE] As far as I can tell from the OP, you can keep 'em all. but you only get to have sex with 'em the once. I’m a man with RickJay, too. There’s a simple arithmetic to sex; the more the better. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/7 "2007-09-10T03:21:53Z")
One partner 20 times. Male, non-religious but monogamous. ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/8 "2007-09-10T03:27:04Z")
Can I get four of them, five times each? Or two or three at one time? Can I get slaw with that instead of fries? ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/9 "2007-09-10T03:27:15Z")
[QUOTE=Ruby] Female here…I’m going for 20 with one partner rather than a boatload of one-night-stands. Practice makes perfect, you know! 😉 [/QUOTE] I’m male and I agree with **Ruby** , actually. I’ll be very frank here and say that I’m a crummy lay the first time and a sensational one the tenth time. To go for the “10 x 1” option rather than the “1 x 20” would be denying the girl (and me) the best I have to offer. ---
**Author:** ![dead0man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/edb3f5/32.png) [@dead0man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dead0man)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/10 "2007-09-10T03:32:02Z")
Straight male here that would prefer 1 partner 20 times…I’m going to need at least a week and a half though. ---
**Author:** ![Khampelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Khampelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khampelf)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/11 "2007-09-10T03:32:57Z")
I’m going to continue to bust your hypothesis. I’m male, and I’d go for one partner, 20 times. We don’t have to do it all in one night, do we? Cuz then I might choose the former option. ---
**Author:** ![Khampelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Khampelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khampelf)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/12 "2007-09-10T03:34:28Z")
Nice simulpost, **dead0man**. “Once a king, always a king, but once a night is enough.” ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/13 "2007-09-10T03:40:40Z")
[QUOTE=What Exit?] One partner 20 times. Male, non-religious but monogamous. [/QUOTE] Ditto. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/14 "2007-09-10T03:53:20Z")
Depends entirely on the women. Ideally the former but if the ten women I get to have sex with once are exceptional or the one I’d have sex with twenty times is unremarkable, then the latter. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/15 "2007-09-10T03:58:22Z")
Female here. Twenty times with one, definitely, and I even have someone in mind. Mmmm. I will have to go with **OneCentStamp** and say that the first couple of times with a new person, I definitely am not at my best. I can recall only one lover with whom the first time and the last time were equally terrific, and that was a miracle of chemistry that I do not expect again. ---
**Author:** ![Khampelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Khampelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khampelf)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/16 "2007-09-10T05:15:45Z")
[QUOTE=Aesiron] Depends entirely on the women. Ideally the former but if the ten women I get to have sex with once are exceptional or the one I’d have sex with twenty times is unremarkable, then the latter. [/QUOTE] Are you sure you might not have gotten that backwards? You seem to be declaring a preference for infrequent, unremarkable sex. ---
**Author:** ![Rick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@Rick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 5:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/17 "2007-09-10T05:32:40Z")
[QUOTE=ShibbOleth] Can I get four of them, five times each? Or two or three at one time? Can I get slaw with that instead of fries? [/QUOTE] I like the way you think. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![wolf\_meister](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolf_meister/32/15202_2.png) [@wolf\_meister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolf_meister)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/18 "2007-09-10T05:41:17Z")
**BrainGlutton** Another male destroying your hypothesis - I’ll take 1 woman 20 times. Perhaps this is oversimplifying, but a guy thinks “Sex 20 times or sex 10 times?” Yes, it’s just that simple. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 5:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/19 "2007-09-10T05:48:52Z")
1 person, 20 times. If I’m only going to sleep with 10 guys once, either they’re really disappointing meaning I’d never _want_ to sleep with them again, or I’d have my heart broken 10 times when circumstances keep us from ever sleeping together again. Right? That’s too much angst. ---
**Author:** ![A.R.Cane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee7513/32.png) [@A.R.Cane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/A.R.Cane)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2007, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/20 "2007-09-10T05:57:56Z")
I’ve been involved in a few group gropes, never w/ ten people though. It was interesting, but certainly not emotionally satisfying. I take one woman ten times. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641.md?page=2)