# Would you rather have sex with ten partners once, or one partner 20 times? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 10, 2007, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641 "2007-09-10T02:44:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2007, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/61 "2007-09-11T18:16:17Z")
Male. 10 partners. Without further data, I’d have to say that that’s what I’d “rather” do. (Let’s keep this between us, okay, folks?) 😉 I guess I can keep my membership card! But, now that I’m doing the other option, I’m sure glad that the one person happens to be Mrs. Map. ---
**Author:** ![vibrotronica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a9a28c/32.png) [@vibrotronica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vibrotronica)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2007, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/62 "2007-09-11T18:22:49Z")
So, 10 partners 20 times each is out, right? I’m not voting. ---
**Author:** ![Kalypso](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/df705f/32.png) [@Kalypso](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalypso)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2007, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/63 "2007-09-11T18:51:59Z")
I’m female. I’ll have 10 partners once each please. (If I weren’t already in a monogomous relationship with **Z. R. Test** , of course.) ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2007, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/64 "2007-09-11T18:57:55Z")
[QUOTE=633squadron] One partner 20 times. Sex is great, love is better, both together is amazing. [/QUOTE] What he/she (sorry, I don’t know) said. And I’m female, if you’re keeping track. ---
**Author:** ![Bobotheoptimist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/919ad9/32.png) [@Bobotheoptimist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bobotheoptimist)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2007, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/65 "2007-09-11T19:22:18Z")
Ok, trying to remember what life was like 15 years ago… Ten partners once each - over what time span? Because if you’re talking 10 years, that’s not very good. 5 weeks? Woohoo! Much better than I did back in the day, but… Figure half of them are pretty bland and if some real fireballs are included that’ll make the others much less satisfying. One partner 20 times? Why only 20? Hell, I’ve done that with one partner in a month. At age 25 I decided that I liked one partner to the exclusion of all others. I don’t regret that decision and can’t imagine trying to deal with 10 total unknowns (even if something terrible were to happen and I was single again). As fun as the first time is, the second is usually better. Also, being rather antisocial, I must ask from whence come these mythical 10 partners? I’ve spent a lot of my life with my social circle consisting of my lovely wife and a single drinking buddy. Nine other people would unnecessarily complicate things. What if they wanted to talk about stuff? One partner 20 times. To keep my man-card, I’m going to finish with a sentiment expressed by others - It’s twice as many times! Sex 10 times or sex 20 times? I’ll take 20 thankyouverymuch. Now, 20 times with 5 different partners? ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/66 "2007-09-12T03:40:35Z")
Since the OP didn’t stick around to referee, let’s add the condition that this is just for one three-day weekend. But it’s 10 partners, one at a time. ---
**Author:** ![SailedTheOceanBlue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85f322/32.png) [@SailedTheOceanBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SailedTheOceanBlue)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/67 "2007-09-12T03:55:13Z")
Female, 10 partners 1 time each. I miss getting my clothes ripped off by a virtual stranger that I want so badly I can barely breathe. Unless, as **TokyoPlayer** says, all 10 take place over a three day weekend. My girl parts couldn’t handle that kind of trauma. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/68 "2007-09-12T04:04:18Z")
So I take it that 20 times in a three-day period, would be right out? ---
**Author:** ![SailedTheOceanBlue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85f322/32.png) [@SailedTheOceanBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SailedTheOceanBlue)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/69 "2007-09-12T04:56:50Z")
[QUOTE=TokyoPlayer] So I take it that 20 times in a three-day period, would be right out? [/QUOTE] Even a porn star needs rest. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/70 "2007-09-12T05:46:05Z")
You’re a porn star? Cite? ---
**Author:** ![GomiBoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b2d939/32.png) [@GomiBoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GomiBoy)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 8:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/71 "2007-09-12T08:11:33Z")
Yeah, put me in the ‘I only get 20?!?’ camp. If I shag her 20 times, I’m pretty sure I’m gonna want to shag her a bunch more. As for the 10 girls 1 time each, though, I doubt that would be much fun. Even living in London, where the taking ain’t that hard, I don’t do that and never really have. Guess I’m just not the type to get off on one night stands, never have been. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 9:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/72 "2007-09-12T09:55:33Z")
You’re complaining about only 20 times in one weekend? Have pity on the poor peter. ---
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/73 "2007-09-12T13:49:13Z")
Hey, Brain Glutton, ain’t it time to tally up the results? (I would, but I’m on a deadline.) ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/74 "2007-09-12T18:19:08Z")
[QUOTE=TokyoPlayer] So I take it that 20 times in a three-day period, would be right out? [/QUOTE] Let’s call it four. And to answer the OP, rather with one, many, than many, once. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 6:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/75 "2007-09-13T06:49:11Z")
20 times in a four day period is not that difficult, over three days would be more of a challange. Still not as difficult as the logistics of 10 women in three days, unless they’re professionals. ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/76 "2007-09-13T10:11:24Z")
[QUOTE=WhyNot] Well, alright, I’ll break the chain. Ideally, I’d like **Shibboleth** ’s plan - 4 people 5 times or 5 4 times or something like that. And I wouldn’t like 10 people AT ONCE - too many elbows and knees. But 10 people sequentially (well, 10 people, 1 at a time over a two month span, let’s say, otherwise we’ve overwhelmed my poor libido) vs. 1 person (that I _don’t_ love any more or less than the 10 - only way to make it a fair comparison) 20 times? Oh, yeah. I’ll take the sampler plate! Female, 32, polyamorous. And fond of qualifiers. [/QUOTE] Thank you for signing up for our plan. Once we’ve located another 3-4 interested folks, membership cards will be distributed and you’ll be given instructions on where to meet… ---
**Author:** ![Khampelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Khampelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khampelf)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2007, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/77 "2007-09-16T05:05:09Z")
I know this is a hypothetical and all, but another reason I’m sticking with my one person, twenty times is that it is inconcievable to me that any woman would be satisfied having sex with me only once, and I don’t care to spread that sort of suffering. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2007, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/78 "2007-09-16T05:07:02Z")
One partner, 20 times, assuming an emotional connection. I don’t think I’m confident enought to handle random sex. ---
**Author:** ![InLucemEdita](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7ab992/32.png) [@InLucemEdita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InLucemEdita)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2007, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/79 "2007-09-16T18:02:05Z")
First reaction, 10 partners, once each please. After reflection on all the possible “depends” options, and dismissing them since A) they are not specified in the OP, and B) there are good and bad “depends” for each option… 10 partners, once each please. Variety is the spice of life. I’m male. ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2007, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/80 "2007-09-16T18:55:04Z")
[QUOTE=The Sonoran Lizard King] I know this is a hypothetical and all, but another reason I’m sticking with my one person, twenty times is that it is inconcievable to me that any woman would be satisfied having sex with me only once, and I don’t care to spread that sort of suffering. 🙂 [/QUOTE] \ Because two minutes in heaven is better than … one minute in heaven. \ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641.md?page=5)