# Would you rather have sex with ten partners once, or one partner 20 times? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 10, 2007, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641 "2007-09-10T02:44:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Sleel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/73ab20/32.png) [@Sleel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleel)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/81 "2007-09-20T04:33:00Z")
I find long-term relationships to be fulfilling, but I like variety too. Since I’m now married and looking at an indefinitely long period (between 5 years and forever) of having sex with only my wife, I’ll tell you that the 10 different women sound a lot more appealing than more of the same thing I’ve got right now. It’s been about 5 years since I had sex with another woman and while I’m not unhappy with my wife, I am a guy and I do frequently want to have sex with someone else. If it came to a choice between having sex with 10 women and staying with my wife, well, I make that kind of choice every day when I pass up whatever opportunities I have for pursuing sex with the women I meet in daily life. I’ve been a good boy for years and haven’t been tempted enough to risk even the slightest chance of losing my wife over another woman. I doubt that’ll change for a long time. But if we’re talking about being able to nail 10 babes and keeping my wife, guaranteed, I don’t know that I’d be able to pass up that kind of deal. If I were single, I’d probably still pick the 10 one-offs. Besides, I’ve very rarely had a woman I’ve had sex with once who didn’t want a repeat performance. Who’s to say I wouldn’t end up with a few new girlfriends? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ForumBot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ee59a6/32.png) [@ForumBot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ForumBot)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/82 "2007-09-20T04:42:48Z")
Ten, all at the same time. ---
**Author:** ![Whack-a-Mole](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/whack-a-mole/32/141_2.png) [@Whack-a-Mole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whack-a-Mole)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/83 "2007-09-20T05:03:13Z")
I’ll also bust the hypothesis. Male here and I’d definitely rather be with one woman 20 times than 10 different women one time each. I know 20 is more than 10 which doesn’t hurt the decision but I’d still opt for one woman ten times than 10 women one time each. ---
**Author:** ![Whack-a-Mole](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/whack-a-mole/32/141_2.png) [@Whack-a-Mole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whack-a-Mole)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/84 "2007-09-20T05:04:54Z")
[QUOTE=ForumBot] Ten, all at the same time. [/QUOTE] If you can service ten women in one night you are a God! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![ForumBot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ee59a6/32.png) [@ForumBot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ForumBot)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/85 "2007-09-20T05:18:49Z")
If you shut the door, the night could last forever. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/86 "2007-09-20T05:27:23Z")
[QUOTE=ForumBot] If you shut the door, the night could last forever. 😃 [/QUOTE] Ooohh. I love Moe Tucker references. You can be one of my next ten. Anyway, I don’t know why I have choose. Can’t I have both? ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/87 "2007-09-20T07:28:03Z")
Sure, you’ve got my permission. ---
**Author:** ![Eolbo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d07c76/32.png) [@Eolbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eolbo)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/88 "2007-09-21T02:52:58Z")
I’d take the ten different partners. Twenty times with one partner implies a short fling of a week or so, and doesn’t offer the emotional satisfaction of a long term relationship. So I’d go for the variety and excitement of new partners. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/89 "2007-09-21T05:40:14Z")
But it doesn’t have to be a whole week. Just a long weekend, if you’ve got enough stamin. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/90 "2007-09-21T05:46:04Z")
or stamina, if you miss the edit window. ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/91 "2007-09-21T05:55:51Z")
Straight single male: Do I get to pick the partner?: Within reason 1x20 please Any real female living or dead? Might go for the 10x1 ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/92 "2007-09-21T06:09:07Z")
How about just one partner one time? How about sex isn’t even in the survey? How about just a fucking date? That would be a radical departure… god sorry I’m just bitter today I guess… ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/93 "2007-09-21T06:40:01Z")
[QUOTE=outlierrn] Any real female living or dead? Might go for the 10x1 [/QUOTE] You want to have sex with ten dead females :eek: . 😃 ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 7:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/94 "2007-09-21T07:01:46Z")
How Noirish of you! No I was rather thinking of pulling some historic babes into the mix ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/95 "2007-09-21T14:53:47Z")
[QUOTE=Autolycus] How about just one partner one time? How about sex isn’t even in the survey? How about just a fucking date? That would be a radical departure… god sorry I’m just bitter today I guess… [/QUOTE] Eh? What’ve you got a [del]spoon[/del] stick up your ass about? ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/96 "2007-09-21T16:29:19Z")
10 different women. That’s my choice. Been monogamous for over 20 years so variety has its appeal. Now if I can just get Mrs. Bubbadog to go along with it, Im good. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2007, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/97 "2007-09-21T21:58:21Z")
[QUOTE=outlierrn] How Noirish of you! No I was rather thinking of pulling some historic babes into the mix [/QUOTE] Well I’m sure we can dig some up for you. (And I’m definatly going to start dropping Noirish into casual conversation.) ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2007, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/98 "2007-09-22T00:02:11Z")
20 is more than 10, so 20. 😃 Why not level the question, 10 times (or 20!) with one person, or one time with 10 (or 20!) different people? Then it would be harder to answer… ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2007, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/99 "2007-09-22T06:33:16Z")
I’m just saying that if it’s a choice between the best partner I ever had 20x, and 10 random, albeit willing and attractive somebodies I’d be all over the 20x. Ricci, are you reading this thread? You know my birthday’s coming up, do you remember the time we …_okay, okay_. Anyhoo, if you want to talk about a historic action figure thread, nudge nudge wink wink, then it gets a little more dicey. Cleopatra, Bathsheba, Katherine Hepburn the year she filmed **The Little MInister**? Much tougher choice. ---
**Author:** ![Z.R.Test](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a5b964/32.png) [@Z.R.Test](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Z.R.Test)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2007, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641/100 "2007-09-22T06:47:08Z")
How about 2 women at once 10 times… oh, someone covered that. But I think **_bec_** might enjoy it, too. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-rather-have-sex-with-ten-partners-once-or-one-partner-20-times/418641.md?page=6)