# Would you sleep with this man? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 31, 2011, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961 "2011-12-31T17:25:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2012, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/21 "2012-01-02T22:20:31Z")
Never again! I mean…um…Of _course_ not! ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2012, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/22 "2012-01-02T22:27:54Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Never again! > > I mean…um…Of _course_ not! :: sighing :: I’m sending somebody over with a universal STD cure. _Again_. This is your last freebie. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2012, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/23 "2012-01-02T23:00:28Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > …it’s not like any person can just walk into a bar, point to one of the remaining dregs and say “booya! Let’s get it on!” I’m going to try this. I’ll report back. As to the OP- the guy does have a certain “bad boy” quality to him, which \*can \*be sexy, in the right circumstances. However, he also has a certain “wasting away from AIDS” quality to his face, which is _never_ sexy. So, no. ---
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2012, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/24 "2012-01-02T23:45:20Z")
Feel free to look at his [Facebook page](http://www.facebook.com/DeanoDSmith?sk=wall), which is viewable to the public. From this page, at least, he seems relatively normal and likeable. I think it’s hard to say you’d sleep with someone just from seeing their picture. The unlikeliest-looking men can be hugely attractive to women through other qualities…you really never know. ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2012, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/25 "2012-01-03T00:38:10Z")
> [@Argent\_Towers](#): > > I think it’s hard to say you’d sleep with someone just from seeing their picture. The unlikeliest-looking men can be hugely attractive to women through other qualities…you really never know. Second that. I still make the mistake occasionally of seeing an ugly guy with a beautiful women and think “How did he get her?!” when I know from experience that lots of other factors can completely override looks for women. I’ve known 3 or 4 guys in my life who could go from club to club kissing lots of women and take home a girl every night if they wanted to. And honestly they are nothing to look at. One even has teeth like Quark. And there can be a momentum with these things. If a guy beds a lot of women and keeps on good terms with them, he’ll get introduced (and recommended, deliberately or not) to others. He’ll be seen with women all over him, which will tend to make him look more attractive to other women. Meanwhile the rest of us are in Catch-22-ville… ---
**Author:** ![Small\_Hen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ad7895/32.png) [@Small\_Hen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Small_Hen)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2012, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/26 "2012-01-03T00:52:36Z")
No, I wouldn’t, not now - bearded and overly tattooed men are not my type. But, two years and several hundred drunken nights ago, I might have, if he’d talked the right game. I may not have been very ‘prolific’ back then, but I also wasn’t very discriminating. And often, I wasn’t sober enough to be careful, either. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2012, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/27 "2012-01-03T20:57:02Z")
Straight dude here so, obviously no. As an academic matter, though, the ink and bald head w/ pony tail suggest someone with a personality type I would be unlikely to befriend–inasmuch as appearances indicate the person beneath. If I met this look as a stranger I suppose it’s possible my prejudice could prevent me getting to know a deeply thoughtful, well-read man of the world. But I think it’s more likely he’s a self-absorbed punk. Or clueless about what people read into appearances. ---
**Author:** ![Rhythmdvl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85f322/32.png) [@Rhythmdvl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhythmdvl)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2012, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/28 "2012-01-03T21:34:02Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > Very likely all 300, were in some bar, half drunk, at closing time. Toto, I’ve a feeling we’re not in Sparta any more. ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2012, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/29 "2012-01-03T22:43:21Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > All this means is his standards are low, and nothing more. > > Very likely all 300, were in some bar, half drunk, at closing time. Looks have nothing to do with it, nor does smooth or personality. He just needs to target the easy marks, like drunk fat chicks, old fags, the disabled, any of the disenfranchised, actually. Suddenly 300 doesn’t seem so undoable, does it? Here’s one old fag who has better taste than that. Thanks, you (unmentionable body part). Roddy ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/30 "2012-01-04T02:41:37Z")
I am sorry if I offended anyone’s sensibilities. Clearly I did not mean any of you, or the bars you hang in. I just meant every town or city seems to have a couple of dives, where the damaged collect, and that they are very easy targets for this sort of fiend. Just trying to put 300 into an easily doable context. If I was too harsh I apologize, I was only trying to make a point. ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/31 "2012-01-04T03:46:56Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > Where are you partying? > > I spent a lot of time in bars over the years. Maybe I’m just too damn picky, but even though standards tend to lower in direct proximity to closing time, it’s not like any person can just walk into a bar, point to one of the remaining dregs and say “booya! Let’s get it on!” > > The article said over a three year period the guy tried to sleep with as many women as possible. Well, unless he was banging chicks/dudes 3 at a time every night, I don’t see him getting up into the thousands. Basic math. You’re just not going to the right kinds of bars, that’s all. ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/32 "2012-01-04T04:45:37Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > I am sorry if I offended anyone’s sensibilities. Clearly I did not mean any of you, or the bars you hang in. I just meant every town or city seems to have a couple of dives, where the damaged collect, and that they are very easy targets for this sort of fiend. Just trying to put 300 into an easily doable context. > > If I was too harsh I apologize, I was only trying to make a point. If I really wanted my revenge, I would point out to a certain Doper your use of “disabled” as an example of the disenfranchised, or an easy mark. Then you’d get what’s comin’ to ya! Truly, your apology rings a little flat. “Too harsh”? Here’s how you might have made exactly the same (valid) point without unnecessarily specific and offensive examples: Very likely all 300, were in some bar, half drunk, at closing time. Looks have nothing to do with it, nor does smooth or personality. He just needs to target the easy marks, the desperate and needy. See? No-one is offended. Or at least no-one is likely to come in and say “Hey, I’m desperate and needy, and even I have better taste than that!”. Roddy ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/33 "2012-01-04T14:24:13Z")
> [@MsRobyn](#): > > You’re just not going to the right kinds of bars, that’s all. This exactly. There are plenty of after hours bars in any big city where it’s very easy to hook up if that’s your goal. ---
**Author:** ![Roland\_Orzabal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c2a13f/32.png) [@Roland\_Orzabal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roland_Orzabal)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/34 "2012-01-04T15:15:19Z")
Hey, **elbows** , did you mean to type “old fags” in your post? Given the tone of the rest of it I took that as a typo for “old hags.” If so, might save you some hassle to clear that up. As for the subject of the OP, I’ll join the ranks of the unskeptical. Lord knows there’s no lack of hedonists with low standards. ---
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/35 "2012-01-04T21:00:11Z")
“booya! Let’s get it on!” is going to have me laughing all day. I so want for that to work, somewhere, because it’s hysterical. As to the OP: no. Not my type, even without the HIV and sadism and all that. And I’m married. And if I weren’t, I don’t think I’d be up for casual sex/one night stands anyway. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/36 "2012-01-04T21:27:19Z")
No, I did say Old Fags, and it is what I meant. I apologized for it. I’m a little desensitized to this phrase as a have a couple of good friends who self identify this way, toss the phrase off lightly. We use it often, in conversation among ourselves. And clearly, that’s where it should remain. (That’s not an excuse, just an explanation.) There is no excuse, there was no need to make my point so harshly, hence the apology. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2012, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961/37 "2012-01-05T03:05:05Z")
If he had sex with men as well as women, and prior to November of 1987 (when I became monogamous) . . . then there’s a chance I already had sex with him. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-sleep-with-this-man/607961.md?page=1)