# Would you want to receive flowers from a dead person? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 12, 2018, 7:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986 "2018-12-12T07:37:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Newtosite](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/newtosite/32/8623_2.png) [@Newtosite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Newtosite)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 7:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/1 "2018-12-12T07:37:03Z")
A friend who lives out of the country wants to give roses to a friend whose daughter just passed away. She wants me to deliver them anonymously to the grieving father’s house with a note (that I’ll write) that says “Dear Dad, Remember who you are. I am not gone. I love you and I am always with you.” And I’ll sign it with the daughter’s name. Do any of you think this is creepy? Or will it be a comfort to the father? Thank you for your thoughts! ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/2 "2018-12-12T08:12:41Z")
Jesus. I was thinking of something like a standing order (I’ve known people who had one for a significant date) which hadn’t gotten cancelled, but this is… I don’t think “creepy” begins to describe it. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 8:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/3 "2018-12-12T08:14:19Z")
Bad, bad, bad . Don’t do it. I can’t imagine any one would like that. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 8:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/4 "2018-12-12T08:21:29Z")
Another strong vote for “don’t do it”. It would be cruel. ---
**Author:** ![Dereknocue67](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/6de8d8/32.png) [@Dereknocue67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dereknocue67)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/5 "2018-12-12T08:28:55Z")
The note may offer comfort or perhaps revenge but only if the father actually murdered his daughter. ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/6 "2018-12-12T08:42:28Z")
Good grief, no no. It’s so presumptious, I’d be furious. ---
**Author:** ![Newtosite](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/newtosite/32/8623_2.png) [@Newtosite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Newtosite)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 10:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/7 "2018-12-12T10:13:32Z")
Thanks to all who replied. I agree that it’s a horrible idea! Glad to see that confirmed. ---
**Author:** ![Dead\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@Dead\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dead_Cat)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 11:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/8 "2018-12-12T11:53:00Z")
I think the idea behind it, and the sentiment, are OK, but this could backfire so badly that’s it’s definitely not worth the risk. Just send flowers with similar words from the sender, not ‘from’ the deceased. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/9 "2018-12-12T14:43:43Z")
As someone who lost a daughter, don’t even begin thinking about doing this. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/10 "2018-12-12T14:47:19Z")
The chances it could go well are very very slim. The chances it could go horribly wrong seem to me much better. Don’t do it. ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanub/32/132_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUB)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/11 "2018-12-12T15:47:02Z")
> [@Dereknocue67](#): > > The note may offer comfort or perhaps revenge but only if the father actually murdered his daughter. 😛 Ha! I was thinking it kind of has a Telltale Heart vibe to it. Props to the person for wanting to comfort the man but perhaps the OP can gently steer them away from this course of action. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/12 "2018-12-12T15:47:39Z")
> [@Dereknocue67](#): > > The note may offer comfort or perhaps revenge but only if the father actually murdered his daughter. "Dear Dad, We both know what you did, and I’m gonna tell everyone else. Sweet dreams." ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/13 "2018-12-12T15:53:12Z")
I would not do it. ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/14 "2018-12-12T17:25:39Z")
Oh, god, no. ---
**Author:** ![snfaulkner](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snfaulkner/32/433_2.png) [@snfaulkner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snfaulkner)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/15 "2018-12-12T17:29:06Z")
**Would you want to receive flowers…** No. **…from a dead person?** Fucks no. ---
**Author:** ![Balance](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ccd318/32.png) [@Balance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Balance)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/16 "2018-12-12T17:41:53Z")
Late to the “Oh, hell no” party, but adding mine to the pile. Creepy, wrong, and arguably disrespectful to the memory of the dead in the bargain. ---
**Author:** ![muldoonthief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muldoonthief/32/3188_2.png) [@muldoonthief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/muldoonthief)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/17 "2018-12-12T17:43:26Z")
Only if they were dead flowers. Sent by the U.S. Mail. ---
**Author:** ![Knowed\_Out](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/knowed_out/32/7380_2.png) [@Knowed\_Out](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knowed_Out)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/18 "2018-12-12T18:31:22Z")
Maybe write the message in third person, like “Dear \, Remember who you are. \ is not gone. She loves you and she is always with you.” No, that doesn’t help either. Now he’s being haunted by her ghost. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/19 "2018-12-12T18:40:01Z")
Tell her not to cheap out–[go for the full towel effigy](https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-46475631). ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/20 "2018-12-12T19:21:37Z")
That note would seem to imply suicide to me. :eek: No, don’t. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986.md?page=2)