# Would you want to receive flowers from a dead person? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 12, 2018, 7:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986 "2018-12-12T07:37:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/21 "2018-12-12T19:27:56Z")
Christ on a cracker. The idea could only come from someone who has never lost a close loved one. My Other Shoe died a couple of weeks before our wedding anniversary. If something like this had been sent to me, during those hellish days … I would have cracked. Even more than I was already mentally broken down at the time. Please. If anyone else out there has a similar idea: do not do this. ---
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/22 "2018-12-12T20:30:48Z")
[Jack Benny](https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/posthumous-roses/) managed to make it work ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/23 "2018-12-12T20:45:33Z")
> [@Darren\_Garrison](#): > > Tell her not to cheap out–[go for the full towel effigy](https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-46475631). Saw the pic, now going to stare at the picture of the bronchial blood clot. It’s less horrifying. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/24 "2018-12-12T21:19:46Z")
Oh, my. Oh, my. Oh, my. Just no. ---
**Author:** ![The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_King_of_Soup)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/25 "2018-12-12T22:05:43Z")
As another father who lost a daughter, there is so much unforgivably wrong with this, from roses as the symbol of condolence to the quite-possibly unwelcome supernatural message, to that message attributed to someone who may not have agreed with it, to pretending his recently-deceased daughter is a puppet for someone else to speak through, and that’s just on the surface. Don’t do it. Find out, through the father or the daughter’s friends, what her interests were, and make an appropriate charitable contribution in her name. Or send a card. But for pity’s sake, not this. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/26 "2018-12-12T22:09:26Z")
> [@xizor](#): > > [Jack Benny](https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/posthumous-roses/) managed to make it work Completely different situation. ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/27 "2018-12-12T23:44:51Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > Completely different situation. And even in the poem she allegedly reacted in shock and made a presumably outraged call to the florist. The only saving grace would be that in this case the deceased actually did send the flowers - the proposal described in the OP could (and would) be construed as a very hurtful case of identity theft! ---
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/28 "2018-12-13T00:19:55Z")
Where does your out of country friend live? Is there some kind of cultural quirk that would explain this idea? Because, yeah, way creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Newtosite](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/newtosite/32/8623_2.png) [@Newtosite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Newtosite)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/29 "2018-12-13T01:20:57Z")
Thank you for all of your thoughtful responses. I’m very sorry if I stirred up any of your own painful memories. The idea struck me as wrong and morbid – and you’ve articulated it perfectly. My friend is from the U.S, so no cultural differences whatsoever. She recently moved to Ecuador. Thank you again! ---
**Author:** ![lingyi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@lingyi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lingyi)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/30 "2018-12-13T03:07:06Z")
Dear Dad, I’m always with you. P.S. DON"T TURN AROUND! :eek: I’ve read some creepy things…but the original message is up in the top five! ---
**Author:** ![nightshadea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ba0ec/32.png) [@nightshadea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nightshadea)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986/31 "2018-12-13T03:23:26Z")
I thought this was one of those perpetual flower orders like a husband sends flowers every week to his wife and they still get sent after he passes on …… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-you-want-to-receive-flowers-from-a-dead-person/825986.md?page=1)