# WTF? Ex-boyfriend inventory on a Saturday morning? (TMI warning) **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 8, 2002, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028 "2002-06-08T23:09:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/21 "2002-06-10T00:46:23Z")
> [@](#): > > you should know better than to use the term “fucking breeders” in the above post. Especially in conjunction with a phrase like “disease-ridden homos”, which lets everyone know perfectly clearly that the post was a perfectly serious expression of heterophobia and not bitter sarcasm. (Much like this one.) ---
**Author:** ![The\_Ryan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7feea3/32.png) [@The\_Ryan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Ryan)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/22 "2002-06-10T00:52:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > It’s practi **s** e if it’s a verb. Look, what you do in your own bedroom is none of my business, but going onto a public message board to prosyletize your immoral Canadian lifestyle is something else entirely. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![hardygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a3d4f5/32.png) [@hardygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hardygrrl)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/23 "2002-06-10T00:52:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\* > Then I get all these HIV/AIDS warnings and scoldings from people who quite possibly go out and have “legitimate” str8 sex and never get lectured about it. Like I stated above, I, as well as other Dopers, have received the **same lecture**. Where you around for the **KayKay** Pit threads? (lost in the server crash) She talked about having casual heterosexual sex and got the same lecture. > [@](#): > > - Sue Dunhnym said\*Gobear, in every thread I’ve ever read on this board about casual sex, someone has jumped in with a safe sex warning. Trust me, it’s equal opportunity lecturing. > [@](#): > > **Obviously you don’t realize how deeply this plague has affected our community. If anyone’s in the dark, it’s people like you.** Generalize much? ---
**Author:** ![CnoteChris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/278dde/32.png) [@CnoteChris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CnoteChris)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/24 "2002-06-10T00:55:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > **Was I fucking born yesterday? Do you think I’m fucking stupid? Jesus Christ, this plague has been a part of my life long before I was sexually active.** Huh? > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Scott Evil_ > **So I post something about a weird occurence that may or may not have involved (cover your eyes) gay sex.** Where have I written, here or otherwise, that I give a flying fuck about your sexual preference? - > [@](#): > > Originally posted by Scott Evil\* > **Then I get all these HIV/AIDS warnings and scoldings from people who quite possibly go out and have “legitimate” str8 sex and never get lectured about it.** HIV/AIDS warnings and scoldings? I didn’t see any. What I saw was a poster saying, ‘Geez, if you’re going to be boffing people you just meet out and about, I hope you’re carefull.’. Same damn thing friends and aquaintances have told me time and time again. The only difference is that I didn’t jump all over their shit for saying so. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Scott Evil_ > **Did I once mention sex in my OP? No. It may have been implied, but never mentioned. If you want the details, ask me.** Again, did I, or the other poster, ever say we gave a shit about your preference? - > [@](#): > > Originally posted by Scott Evil\* > **And I won’t “fucking relax” until fuckwits stop hijacking my threads - or those of others - with grim HIV/AIDS warnings. Do you think we’re fucking stupid? Do you think we all have a deathwish? Do you think we don’t care and tra la la we just do whatever, not thinking of the possible consequences?** For all I know you’re the most carefull person that ever lived. Good for you. Doesn’t give you the right to jump all over someone’s shit for saying, or stating, the obvious. Like I said, you need to relax and stop reading into things. What you’re saying _we_, or I, said, simply wasn’t said. ---
**Author:** ![LolaCocaCola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7cd45c/32.png) [@LolaCocaCola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaCocaCola)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/25 "2002-06-10T01:20:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\* > > It’s practi **s** e if it’s a verb. And yes, I do. Sexually active with men :eek: for 13 years now and still HIV- and STD-free. Do you really fucking think I’d go home with someone I’d just met - or even someone I’d known for some time - and bareback him? I do a lot of stupid things, but that’s not one of them. \*\* Main Entry: [1]prac·tice Variant(s): or prac.tise /'prak-t&s/ Function: verb Inflected Form(s): prac·ticed or prac·tised; prac·tic·ing or prac·tis·ing Etymology: Middle English practisen, from Middle French practiser, from practique, pratique practice, noun, from Late Latin practice, from Greek praktikE, from feminine of praktikos Date: 14th century transitive senses 1 a : CARRY OUT, APPLY \ b : to do or perform often, customarily, or habitually \ c : to be professionally engaged in \ 2 a : to perform or work at repeatedly so as to become proficient \ b : to train by repeated exercises \ 3 : obsolete : PLOT intransitive senses 1 : to do repeated exercises for proficiency 2 : to pursue a profession actively 3 : archaic : INTRIGUE 4 : to do something customarily 5 : to take advantage of someone \ - prac·tic·er noun ---
**Author:** ![Francesca](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9fc348/32.png) [@Francesca](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Francesca)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/26 "2002-06-10T01:21:06Z")
**Matt** - because generalised insults are okay within the context of bitter sarcasm? Or just because someone else started it? ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/27 "2002-06-10T01:31:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CnoteChris \* > \*\* > For all I know you’re the most carefull person that ever lived. Good for you. Doesn’t give you the right to jump all over someone’s shit for saying, or stating, the obvious. > > Like I said, you need to relax and stop reading into things. What you’re saying _we_, or I, said, simply wasn’t said. \*\* Ok, Cnote, I am nmot singling you out, but as many others have made the same comment, I thought I would use your remarks as the example. _clears throat_ It seems, and obviously not just to me, that when a gay poster says ANYTHING about his sex life, SOMEONE just HAS TO warn them about safe sex/AIDS. Y’know what? YOU DON’T. It is insulting and demeaning, not to mention COMPLETELY presumptuous. It is IMPOSSIBLE for any sexually active gay man in North America to be clueless about the existence of AIDS or any other STD. What straight people may not understand is that gay people are BARRAGED with information not only about HIV and AIDS, but what strain of the week might be going around of syphilis, gonnoreah, or anything else. In this case, I think that when it comes to people who are gay and posting a thread they should post a disclaimer saying how damn safe they are to ward off the doofi(plural of doofus). 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/28 "2002-06-10T01:31:29Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by scott evil_ > **It’s practise if it’s a verb.** [Since when?](http://www.dictionary.com/search?q=practice) > [@](#): > > **Do you think we’re fucking stupid? Do you think we all have a deathwish? Do you think we don’t care and tra la la we just do whatever, not thinking of the possible consequences? If you do, you’re a fucking idiot.** Why’ve you turned this into an us-against-them thing? Gay or straight, if you mention that you go home wasted with someone that you’ve just meet at a bar and get naked with him or her, people are going to give the obligatory safe-sex speech. No one’s accusing you of anything or being stupid. And for the record, the first poster to say anything about it did not say “Hope you practice your gay sex safely.” No-- you’re the one who made this an issue of your sexual orientation. > [@](#): > > **Obviously you don’t realize how deeply this plague has affected our community.** Yeah, cuz we str8s really can’t get HIV. It’s only a “gay thing.” :rolleyes: But for what it’s worth, the locks most definitely should be changed post-breakup. Not doing so is absolutely fucking stupid. At least nothing got interrupted. 😉 stv ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/29 "2002-06-10T01:31:52Z")
No; because contrasting “fucking breeders” and “disease-ridden homos” is just good parallel structure. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/30 "2002-06-10T01:36:55Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by scott evil_ > **It’s practise if it’s a verb.** [Since when?](http://www.dictionary.com/search?q=practice) > [@](#): > > **Do you think we’re fucking stupid? Do you think we all have a deathwish? Do you think we don’t care and tra la la we just do whatever, not thinking of the possible consequences? If you do, you’re a fucking idiot.** Why’ve you turned this into an us-against-them thing? Gay or straight, if you mention that you go home wasted with someone that you’ve just meet at a bar and get naked with him or her, people are going to give the obligatory safe-sex speech. No one’s accusing you of anything or being stupid. And for the record, the first poster to say anything about it did not say “Hope you practice your gay sex safely.” No-- you’re the one who made this an issue of your sexual orientation. > [@](#): > > **Obviously you don’t realize how deeply this plague has affected our community.** Yeah, cuz we str8s really can’t get HIV. It’s only a “gay thing.” :rolleyes: But for what it’s worth, the locks most definitely should be changed post-breakup. Not doing so is absolutely fucking stupid. At least nothing got interrupted. 😉 stv ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/31 "2002-06-10T01:37:33Z")
No; because contrasting “fucking breeders” and “disease-ridden homos” is just good parallel structure. ---
**Author:** ![capacitor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e47774/32.png) [@capacitor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/capacitor)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/32 "2002-06-10T02:07:17Z")
I can do one better. My relatives were telling me all the virtues of seduction and of practising safe sex, while my girriend and I never had any sex in the first place! ---
**Author:** ![Buck\_The\_Diver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Buck\_The\_Diver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Buck_The_Diver)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/33 "2002-06-10T02:20:00Z")
As a practicing (practising?) heterosexual, should I be offended if some cocksucker calls me a “fucking breeder”? Oh, yeah…what’s a “chyck”? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Darwins\_Finch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darwins_finch/32/20304_2.png) [@Darwins\_Finch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darwins_Finch)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/34 "2002-06-10T02:26:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > **Did I once mention sex in my OP? No.** Are we to assume, then, that your “Weird Sexual Experience[s]” don’t typically involve _sex_? ---
**Author:** ![hardygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a3d4f5/32.png) [@hardygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hardygrrl)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/35 "2002-06-10T02:36:01Z")
Here’s the part that pisses me off > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\* > Obviously you don’t realize how deeply this plague has affected our community. If anyone’s in the dark, it’s people like you. > \*\* In a word, horseshit. First off, define “people like you”. I watched one of my best friends die of AIDS in 1994. By your inclusive comment, I don’t know how AIDS affected the gay community?:rolleyes: Another Doper watched his uncle die of AIDS. (If he wants to name himself here, he can. I will respect his privacy.) By your logic, since I am heterosexual, and so is the other Doper, we have no ability to understand how this plague works. It has been **repeatedly** stated that any Doper who mentions having casual sex, gay or straight, gets the same safe sex warnings. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/36 "2002-06-10T03:10:03Z")
Hardygrrl: It’s been stated. Has it been shown? Furthermore, is it as immediate a reaction? And are the warnings of the same variety (I’ve gotten “you’re fucking stupid - must you perpetuate the stereotype?”, and from someone who was trying to be _supportive_.) > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Buck The Diver \* > **ShouldI be offended if some cocksucker calls me a “fucking breeder”?** See? Parallel structure! ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/37 "2002-06-10T03:11:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Darwin’s Finch \* > \*\* > > Are we to assume, then, that your “Weird Sexual Experience[s]” don’t typically involve _sex_? \*\* Actually, if you read the OP, he specifically says he didn’t have sex with him that night. ---
**Author:** ![CnoteChris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/278dde/32.png) [@CnoteChris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CnoteChris)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/38 "2002-06-10T03:21:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > **Obviously you don’t realize how deeply this plague has affected our community. If anyone’s in the dark, it’s people like you.** Wow. I was so busy responding to the other comments that I completely missed this little nugget. In a nutshell, fuck off. ---
**Author:** ![Melandry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Melandry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melandry)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/39 "2002-06-10T03:36:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by matt\_mcl \* > \*\* > > Actually, if you read the OP, he specifically says he didn’t have sex with him that night. \*\* Where, exactly? Quote it to me, Cause I sure can’t find it. Or was it in one of his later posts? ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2002, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028/40 "2002-06-10T03:43:32Z")
With pleasure. > [@](#): > > Anyway, we were on his couch, and I tried to rouse him and get him into bed, but he was in some kind of coma. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wtf-ex-boyfriend-inventory-on-a-saturday-morning-tmi-warning/113028.md?page=3)