# Yep, another thread about sex... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 23, 2003, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022 "2003-10-23T01:40:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![GregE625](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b77776/32.png) [@GregE625](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GregE625)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2003, 11:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/41 "2003-10-25T11:22:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lisa-go-Blind \* > \*\*Obviously, the second would be Mr _Sm_ithers. šŸ˜ƒ \*\* Wow, I must have been out of it for THAT one! Just smashed ā€œWaylonā€ and ā€œSmithersā€ into ā€œWithersā€. LOL Iā€™m glad you figured it out and explained it to everyone. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/42 "2003-10-27T06:44:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Badtz Maru \* > \*\*If you count number of sex acts, a vast majority of my sex has been with committed partners in a monogamous relationship. If you count number of sex partners, only 2 out of 9 were committed relationships. \*\* Woo-hoo! 2 out of **10**! Goodbye dry spell! Over 13 months of involuntary celibacy is over! That may even change to 3 out of 10 if Iā€™m right about her. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 11:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/43 "2003-10-27T11:06:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GregE625 \* > \*\*And am I the only one who thinks itā€™s funny that we had two women answer for their men, and BOTH think their man has been totally faithful? Not only that, but one was even faithful to his ex! And not only that they were faithful, but they were celibate at every other moment of their lives! I sure hope you are both right, but I also have to think you are assuming a lot. \*\* I was friendā€™s with my boyfriendā€™s ex before I even met my boyfriend, and still am friends with her. I KNOW she never slept with him, because she told me. Even though they dated for 8 months she just wasnā€™t ready. Her best friend has also told me they never slept together. When I told my boyfriend I knew he was a virgin he was embarrased, but admitted it was true. (This was before we were dateing, we were friends first). ---
**Author:** ![Kayeby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de0a6/32.png) [@Kayeby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kayeby)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 11:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/44 "2003-10-27T11:27:14Z")
Iā€™ve only ever had sex inside a relationship (although Iā€™ve fooled around without being in a relationship), and my boyfriend has only had sex with, well, me. He was 17 when we started dating over three years ago - I was his first kiss and his first girlfriend. ---
**Author:** ![calm\_kiwi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9fc348/32.png) [@calm\_kiwi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/calm_kiwi)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/45 "2003-10-27T12:40:11Z")
Well I was going to answer this threadā€¦only now I feel like a tart. Who knew there were so many ā€œgoodā€ people out there. ---
**Author:** ![maleinblack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e5b9ba/32.png) [@maleinblack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maleinblack)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 1:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/46 "2003-10-27T13:12:25Z")
23 y/o male here.I have been going around with my girlfriend since the last 4 years.She is the only girlfriend I ever had and I am her first boyfriend. Still havent had sex yet and dont plan to until we get married.Marriage is still around 3-4 years away but that shouldnt be a problem. Definetly will NEVER had sex outside of a commited and monogamous relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/47 "2003-10-27T14:19:54Z")
Well I had a one night stand. I wasnā€™t in any sort of relationship but does a ONS count in this case. ---
**Author:** ![Single\_Serving\_Friend](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5fc32e/32.png) [@Single\_Serving\_Friend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Single_Serving_Friend)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/48 "2003-10-27T14:52:42Z")
How does sex with an ex-SO rate in this question? Iā€™ve had sexual encounters with 3 exes _after_ we terminated our longterm monogamous relationship. So they were 1 night stands, but I tend to think of it as a bit more than the average non-commited sexual encounter. Still disqualified though. [sub]Darn that 19-year old model that took ā€˜advantageā€™ of me when I was just a 15 year old lad. šŸ˜ƒ [/sub] > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Badtz Maru \* > \*\*Woo-hoo! 2 out of **10**! > > Goodbye dry spell! Over 13 months of involuntary celibacy is over! > > That may even change to 3 out of 10 if Iā€™m right about her. \*\* Good for you! Make that 3rd one count, and may your crops flourish with this sudden change of weather. ---
**Author:** ![Montgomery\_Burns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/db5fbb/32.png) [@Montgomery\_Burns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Montgomery_Burns)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/49 "2003-10-27T16:03:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lisa-go-Blind \* > \*\*Obviously, the second would be Mr _Sm_ithers. šŸ˜ƒ \*\* What are you saying about Smithers? Are you trying to tell me something? ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/50 "2003-10-27T16:38:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Zebra \* > \*\*Well I had a one night stand. > > I wasnā€™t in any sort of relationship but does a ONS count in this case. \*\* One night stands disqualify you from the question in my OP. I posted this to find out how many people have never had sex outside of a commited, monogamous relationship. A one night stand is not commitment, hence you HAVE had sex outside the context I specified. ---
**Author:** ![cowgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8c91f0/32.png) [@cowgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cowgirl)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/51 "2003-10-27T17:54:53Z")
I have never been unfaithful to a partner who expected faithfulness of me. Again, though, I canā€™t say the same is true for some of the partners I have had (ie they had partners who may have been expecting faithfulness, despite their assurances to the contrary). And I have had partnerships where neither of us has expected faithfulness of anyone. So I guess the answer is yes, many times. ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/52 "2003-10-27T19:30:56Z")
I donā€™t mean faithfulness in the confines of A relationship, Iā€™m referring to faithfulness and commitment in ALL relationships. I know Iā€™d feel incredibly uncomfortable with a woman who has a past of promiscuity and one night stands. It would raise to many trust and jealousy issues. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/53 "2003-10-27T20:03:21Z")
Wouldnā€™t bother me any. Iā€™d figure sheā€™s had the opportunity to get it out of her system. And if not, then at the worst that makes us a pair of sluts who really like each other. I could live with that. ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/54 "2003-10-27T21:04:32Z")
Then good for you. Being a virgin, minimal experience would be preferable in my partner. ---
**Author:** ![Ryle\_Dup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Ryle\_Dup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryle_Dup)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/55 "2003-10-27T22:27:39Z")
> [@](#): > > Being a virgin, minimal experience would be preferable in my partner. Oh for the love of godā€¦ how many times have people told you that this is ridiculous? You need to listen to some of the advice out there. ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/56 "2003-10-27T23:18:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Soapbox Monkey \* > \*\* > Being a virgin, minimal experience would be preferable in my partner. \*\* People are a lot more than the the sum of their sexual experiences (or lack thereof.) If you find someone who rocks your world out of bed to dismiss them because theyā€™ve a different sexual background than you is going to severely limit your pool of available partners and most likely leave you a lonely, frustrated and bitter soul. I had a lot of experience with sex before I met my husband. It was all horrible and I hadnā€™t wanted or asked for any of it. My father started my sex ed when I was a toddler. I thought all sex was scary and painful. Then I met someone who loved me and didnā€™t enjoy hurting me. I think maybe you need to deemphasize sex and concentrate on forming a relationship with someone who means more to you than your insecurities. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022/57 "2003-10-28T00:29:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by niblet\_head \* > \*\*Heh. Too bad for you then, **rhinostylee** , that I moved out of Omaha just this last summerā€¦ > > And I have 24 verrrrrrrrrrry close, intimate, hot female friendsā€¦ \*\* Didnā€™t move to Florida did you? šŸ˜‰ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yep-another-thread-about-sex/209022.md?page=2)