# Yes, I'm pissy. Now go away. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 6, 2004, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553 "2004-04-06T14:53:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/81 "2004-04-08T18:38:27Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > First, I never said it was anyone’s responsibility to make me feel warm and/or fuzzy. I said a negative attitude affects other people. There is a huge difference between the two and I don’t see how you could have mistaken one for the other unless you just feel like arguing to argue. Hm. Maybe it was this: > [@Kalhoun](#): > > And in fact, a person with a negative attitude IS responsible for how others feel. It doesn’t seem too difficult to mistake that statement for, well, what it _says_ (a person with a negative attitude IS responsible for how others feel). > [@](#): > > Second, it’s “Bitch-Puss”, not “Bitch-Pus.” We’re talking about a facial expression (hence, the “puss”) not a vile secretion from an infected wound (i.e., “pus”). Ah, yes. Making a huge deal out of a misspelling. Debating at it’s finest. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/82 "2004-04-08T19:13:12Z")
> [@Venoma](#): > > Wow. You know, I really wish I had worked for someone like Kalhoun. The more I read this thread, the more I realize that for about 1/3 of my life, ie. any day my chronic depression made itself known, I really should have stayed home, instead of going to work or to school. Or I should have ‘bucked up’ or ‘smartened the fuck up’ (the two phrases which are most known to cause homicidal violence in depressives! WE CANNOT BUCK THE FUCK UP. PLEASE TO BE FUCKING OFF NOW.) Oh, please…stop with the “Poor Me, I’m Depressed” routine. I’ve been there. So have millions of other people. Pay attention to the thread. We’re not talking about medically depressed people. We’re talking about MOODY people. We’re talking about people who feel the need to wear every emotion on their sleeve and drag down those around them. How dare you presume I need a lesson in depression. If you spent less time whining about it like you’re the only sufferer, you might have had time to read the thread. > [@](#): > > I did not realize that there are so many people out there who feel the need to be the fucking mood police. For the hundredth time, I’m not interested in telling people to cheer up, cheer down, or chill out. I’m merely stating that it is enormously tiresome to have pissed off, bummed out, “go-away” types at the office. Read the fucking thread. > [@](#): > > If someone brings you down at work, do your business with them and then LEAVE THEM ALONE. If someone irritates you at work, do your business with them and then LEAVE THEM ALONE. If there is someone with whom you do not mesh at work, do your business with them and then LEAVE THEM ALONE. Pretty hard to do your business with someone who stands there whining “Leave me alone!” “Go away!” “You’re waving a red flag at me! I’m like a bull today!” Big fucking deal. Shut up, straighten out your attitude, and do your fucking job (like an adult, to coin a popular phrase here). There are a number of reasons that a certain co-worker might ‘bring you down’. You can either deal with it like an adult… in the manner mentioned above, or you can DEMAND that they make your life more comfortable by conforming to YOUR needs. Kalhoun, you’re an immensely selfish person. Congratulations. [/QUOTE] Fuck you, whiner. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/83 "2004-04-08T19:21:27Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > The OP said, \*\*"Yes, I’m pissy. Now go away. \*\* " > > When some inconsiderate person asks you if you’re in a bad mood, you don’t bark “Yes, I’m Pissy. Now go away.” You make something up. You don’t act like an inconsiderate bitch and share your tale of doom and gloom. _blink_ _blink blink_ You are actually this stupid? You _actually_ think that because she **titled the fucking thread that** that she _actually said_ that to the person? Wow. I’m speechless. I guess it’s to your credit that you don’t really give off that “drooling moron” vibe to that degree, but wow… yeah you really surprised me here. Again I’ll say: the lengths to which you seem willing to go to jump to conclusions are positively staggering. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/84 "2004-04-08T19:28:20Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > _blink_ > > _blink blink_ > > You are actually this stupid? You _actually_ think that because she **titled the fucking thread that** that she _actually said_ that to the person? Wow. I’m speechless. I guess it’s to your credit that you don’t really give off that “drooling moron” vibe to that degree, but wow… yeah you really surprised me here. > > Again I’ll say: the lengths to which you seem willing to go to jump to conclusions are positively staggering. Kisses to you, too! ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/85 "2004-04-08T19:35:18Z")
This thread has truly turned into much ado about nothing. ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/86 "2004-04-08T19:39:58Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > We’re talking about people who feel the need to wear every emotion on their sleeve and drag down those around them. Actually, the OP wasn’t. You’re the one who’s constructed this huge strawwoman in a thread meant to vent about people _who don’t respect other people’s autonomy_. Geez, what’s got you so pissy about this, huh? Why so bitchy that you have to ignore what the OP said and drag in every negative slam you can think of about people who don’t behave the way you insist they should? Whassamatta, Honey? You wanna talk about it? If there’s anything you need to tell me, I’m all ears, right here in the next cubicle. Here, have this inspiring little poem I downloaded from [Glurge.com](http://Glurge.com)! Aw, c’mon, **Kalhoun** – _ **SMILE** _! yOU’D LOOK SO MUCH PRETTIER IF YOU SMILE! 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/87 "2004-04-08T19:51:03Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > Oh, please…stop with the “Poor Me, I’m Depressed” routine. I’ve been there. So have millions of other people. Pay attention to the thread. We’re not talking about medically depressed people. We’re talking about MOODY people. We’re talking about people who feel the need to wear every emotion on their sleeve and drag down those around them. How dare you presume I need a lesson in depression. If you spent less time whining about it like you’re the only sufferer, you might have had time to read the thread. Wow, you can tell the difference between someone with a medical condition and someone who’s just moody merely by casually interacting with them in an office enviroment? That’s amazing! > [@](#): > > For the hundredth time, I’m not interested in telling people to cheer up, cheer down, or chill out. I’m merely stating that it is enormously tiresome to have pissed off, bummed out, “go-away” types at the office. Read the fucking thread. _For you._ Not everyone, not even most people, feel this way. This is entirely _your problem_, not anyone else’s. > [@](#): > > Pretty hard to do your business with someone who stands there whining “Leave me alone!” “Go away!” “You’re waving a red flag at me! I’m like a bull today!” Big fucking deal. Shut up, straighten out your attitude, and do your fucking job (like an adult, to coin a popular phrase here). I still don’t see how being happy is a prerequisite for being a good worker. I can do my job just as well, no matter what my face looks like. If _my_ mood is effecting _your_ performance, once again, that’s _your_ problem. > [@](#): > > Fuck you, whiner. Seems the one doing most of the whining in this thread is _you_, **Kalhoun**. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/88 "2004-04-08T19:53:17Z")
Yes, the thread has taken a bit of a tailspin. I was merely telling the OP that if she behaves the way she SAYS she behaves, she’d be a drag. Opal The Outraged chimes in that there’s no way I could have realistically interpreted the OP to be a true reflection of the OP’s behavior, even though we all know people who behave this way. I also acknowledged that the OP backpedaled on her original stance. Fine! The entire thread took a turn toward _people in general_ who are a drag to be around when they’re just pissed off at the world. And sharing it with everyone. Before I know it, Pissed Off, Inc. is all over me, accusing me of being the Smile Police. Lovely bunch. Goddamnit! If you want to walk around looking like you ate something foul, have at it. But you still suck for it. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/89 "2004-04-08T20:13:38Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > Wow, you can tell the difference between someone with a medical condition and someone who’s just moody merely by casually interacting with them in an office enviroment? That’s amazing! In that case, of course I’d have more sympathy for a sick person. But don’t for a minute think that bitches are often confused with the mentally ill. It just doesn’t happen that often. > [@](#): > > _For you._ Not everyone, not even most people, feel this way. This is entirely _your problem_, not anyone else’s. Read the other thread that was started (IMHO, I believe). Most people don’t like working with a Bitch-Puss. I still don’t see how being happy is a prerequisite for being a good worker. I can do my job just as well, no matter what my face looks like. If _my_ mood is effecting _your_ performance, once again, that’s _your_ problem. No one said people had to be “happy”. Pay a-fucking-tention. The prerequisite is to not be a fucking bitch. It means not talking to people the way the OP originally stated her complaint. Seems the one doing most of the whining in this thread is _you_, **Kalhoun**. [/QUOTE] Yeah, but I don’t do it at work. Key phrase. Learn it. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/90 "2004-04-08T20:52:53Z")
How is not having a smile on your face “sharing your mood with the world?” You’re not making any damn sense, **Kalhoun**. The OP wanted to be left alone. She didn’t burst into the office in a fit of rage screaming “_EVERYONE LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE!!_” now did she? She didn’t slump around the office sharing her tale of woe to anyone who would listen. _She did the exact opposite of that_. She came in, went to her cubicle and proceeded to work. The Smile Police were the ones who were harassing _her_, she wasn’t harrassing _anyone_. But yet, _she’s_ the one sharing her mood with the world. How? By having what you consider to be a pissy expression on her face? You’re kidding, right? So, I’m really confused now. When you’re feeling low, you’re not supposed to let anyone know about it. Heaven forbid you’ve got actual feelings or might be having a bad day. Okay, check. So, you’re sitting in your cubicle, minding your own buisness, not bugging anyone (don’t want to bring down the office, dontchaknow), not letting anyone know you’re seriously bumming. Because everyone knows the entire mood of the office is dependent on the chick in the corner cubicle’s facial expression. So you’re taking great pains to keep to yourself and not deal with people unless you have to. But wait! You’ve got a _SCOWL_ on your face! YOU’RE LETTING THE WHOLE WORLD KNOW YOU’RE IN A BAD MOOD! But you’re not telling anyone that. You just want to be left alone. So, logically, the only way _not_ to share your mood with the world is to walk around with a shit eating grin on your face, right? I mean, it’s a bit much to ask someone to keep their facial expressions in check 100% of the time, even when they’re looking at no one but the computer screen, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/91 "2004-04-08T21:41:52Z")
I can sympathize with the OP, but for the opposite reason. I’m one of those naturally perky happy people that you grumpy folks find so annoying. Listen - if you promise not to mock me when I’m happy and enthusiastic about stuff, I promise not to post happy-face stickers all over your monitor and office phone and sing to cheer you up, OK? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Zabali\_Clawbane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/ecd19e/32.png) [@Zabali\_Clawbane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zabali_Clawbane)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/92 "2004-04-08T21:51:11Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > Listen - if you promise not to mock me when I’m happy and enthusiastic about stuff, I promise not to post happy-face stickers all over your monitor and office phone and sing to cheer you up, OK? 😃 Deal! I won’t hold you responsible for my bad mood either. _Shakes **alice\_in\_wonderland** ’s hand_ That’s all I’ve asked for, the right to have my own feelings, and not be held responsible for the emotions of others. That’s all I’ve tried to say. I’ve been in **alice** ’s shoes as well as the OP’s shoes. What **alice\_in\_wonderland** said is reasonable. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Venoma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/c4cdca/32.png) [@Venoma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Venoma)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2004, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/93 "2004-04-08T22:25:44Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > In that case, of course I’d have more sympathy for a sick person. > [@kalhoun](#): > > Fuck you, whiner _kicks and giggles on the floor_ Hypocrite much? ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2004, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/94 "2004-04-09T00:22:39Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > In that case, of course I’d have more sympathy for a sick person. But don’t for a minute think that bitches are often confused with the mentally ill. It just doesn’t happen that often. How do you know? How _could_ you know? > [@](#): > > Read the other thread that was started (IMHO, I believe). Most people don’t like working with a Bitch-Puss. Got a link? > [@](#): > > No one said people had to be “happy”. Pay a-fucking-tention. The prerequisite is to not be a fucking bitch. It means not talking to people the way the OP originally stated her complaint. Well, since no one here is arguing in favor of talking that way, _including the OP_, why the fuck are you still talking about it? > [@](#): > > Yeah, but I don’t do it at work. Key phrase. Learn it. Yes, and the post you responded to with “Fuck you, whiner” was also not at work. It was here. In the Pit. Along with the OP you’ve been responding so irrationally to. ---
**Author:** ![stretch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a6a055/32.png) [@stretch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stretch)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2004, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553/95 "2004-04-09T01:24:10Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally Posted by_ **Kalhoun** > Oh, please…stop with the “Poor Me, I’m Depressed” routine. I’ve been there. So have millions of other people. Pay attention to the thread. We’re not talking about medically depressed people. We’re talking about MOODY people. We’re talking about people who feel the need to wear every emotion on their sleeve and drag down those around them. How dare you presume I need a lesson in depression. If you spent less time whining about it like you’re the only sufferer, you might have had time to read the thread. and > [@](#): > > _Originally Posted by_ **Kalhoun** > In that case, of course I’d have more sympathy for a sick person. But don’t for a minute think that bitches are often confused with the mentally ill. It just doesn’t happen that often. Although **Miller** has already said what I wanted to say, I gotta add, thanks alot, **Kalhoun**. I really appreciate thinking that someone has already determined that I’m just being MOODY, not that my depression (and my husband’s depression, and every other crap thing that is happening in my life) is affecting my attitude some days. Hey, if I’m feeling pissy/bitchy/depressed/moody/whatever I try to stay the fuck away from everyone else so I won’t affect his/her day. If I have to interact, I try to be as nice as I _can_ be. Unlike the OP, if someone is stupid enough to keep bugging me after I’ve tried to avoid them, I’ll let them know how I feel and why I feel that way. Woe be unto you if you can’t back the fuck off when I’ve already attempted to make it clear–in a professional manner–that I don’t want to interact on any level other than professionally with you right now. I understand that my mood may be having an impact on my co-workers–that’s why I try to stay away from them when I feel, you know, pissy. However, I am fortunate enough to work with people who understand that, at times, life can be shit…sometimes for extended periods. We’ve come to an understanding about the shit attitude I can have, just as I’ve come to terms with the fact that some of them have shit going on in their lives that can impact the way they deal with me on occasions. In case it isn’t clear, I am specifically discussing dealing with co-workers here. Also, **Kalhoun** , as bitchy as this post sounds, I wanted to say that, although I’ve never interacted with you on the board (might be because I mainly lurk 🙂 ), I’ve read many of your posts and found you to be wonderful poster. I hate to be at odds with you on this topic and hope you don’t take this personally even though I’ve sort of called you out by quoting you. jeez, what a suck up I can be–maybe I shouldn’t come to the Pit. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-im-pissy-now-go-away/238553.md?page=4)