# Yes, Number Six a girl. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 31, 2004, 11:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412 "2004-12-31T11:08:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2005, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412/121 "2005-01-06T12:41:31Z")
**First** , this is absolutely one of the most interesting threads I have read ever. It takes alot of courage and ahem balls to tell things like it is. Your one hellova broad. And so is your wife. **Second** , Congrats at being a woman. We are the superior sex. I suspect your IQ points have jumped considerably 🙂 **Third,** do you find you can multi-task like a woman or have the laser pin-point targetted focus like a man? I gots to know. **Fourth** , and this is the burning Important Questio, is your UPS guy a hottie? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![CandidGamera](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/candidgamera/32/2878_2.png) [@CandidGamera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CandidGamera)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2005, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412/122 "2005-01-06T19:18:07Z")
Well, a belated congrats - I hadn’t popped by the thread before, but then I saw Kytheria’s pit thread, which I followed back here. I can’t begin to imagine what it would feel like to be a stranger in your own body, but you’ve rectified that issue, and hopefully, now, you’re comfier. > [@Kaitlyn](#): > > For example, I don’t know as much about comic books as Fenris or Askia or Candid Gamera, but I can guarantee that in my local comic shop I know more about comics than the huge majority of the guys in there. And, apparently, you recognize me as one of the comic book authorities (no pun intended) on the board! Yay! I got me some props! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2005, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412/123 "2005-01-06T21:46:03Z")
Wow, that was a long slog, but worth the effort. I am now doubly impressed, particularly with how wise Mrs. Six seems to be. Just to toss in a couple of questions and random points: - You alluded to adoption in the newer thread? Are you adopted? If so, can you say a little more about your family, particularly in regards to how you could have such an understanding brother and less than supportive sister? - In the other thread you mention that one of your former student’s parents called with concern that you might be gravely ill. Can you still conciously switch between your more femine and masculine vocal styles, or is this more WYSIWYG\* at this point? - Is your part of Texas near a major metro area? I’m not familiar with Green Lakes . It’s hard to imagine small-town Texas being so supportive (or having two gay bars) but perhaps that’s my own prejudice. - Physically, as the hormone therapy takes affect, do you just “grow” female breasts or is this something that might need to be enhanced later? - You mentioned a couple of times about possible children in the future. Have you “put something aside for later” or would you have to take a different approach? As to the convention and other episodes: First, given how you’ve described you and Mrs. Six I would have been _totally_ smitten; you both sound gorgeous. I guess you’ll just have to deal with being the “beautiful ones” all of the time! 😉 Second, maybe it’s just your marvelous writing style\*\* but these are the sort of things that make great drama/comedy after the fact. I hope you don’t mind I see them that way. Even the sadness imparts a joy in me that you are overcoming these obstacles and really starting to blossom into the real you. Thank you for sharing with us. \*What You Speak Is What You Get \*\*I’d love for you to teach my kids! ---
**Author:** ![kung\_fu\_lola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f4b2a3/32.png) [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2005, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412/124 "2005-01-07T00:01:13Z")
> [@Kaitlyn](#): > > As things stand now I don’t think there really is a convenient label that accurately describes either her or my sexual orientation. I think there is. “Happiness”. 😃 Reading this thread, I get a little frustrated with all the people trying to categorize and pigeonhole and label. My mom always says; “You don’t have any obligation to fulfill anyone else’s roles. Just go where the happiness is.” Congrats, Kaitlyn, on going where your happiness is. And bless your wife for going there with you. She sounds like a faaaabulous lady (and so do you!). ---
**Author:** ![Kaitlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/73ab20/32.png) [@Kaitlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaitlyn)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2005, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412/125 "2005-01-07T07:43:36Z")
> [@Shirley Ujest](#): > > **Third,** do you find you can multi-task like a woman or have the laser pin-point targetted focus like a man? I gots to know. I always could multi-task well, it’s part of the job description for being an elementary school teacher. The prevailing theory of transsexuality is that there are female brains and male brains, and that a MTF transsexual is a person with a female brain in a male body. Assuming this to be true, my brain already had the function of a woman before I began treatment. > [@](#): > > **Fourth** , and this is the burning Important Questio, is your UPS guy a hottie? Absolutely not. Mrs. Six thinks so, but you can’t really trust the judgement of a woman who’s into guys. ---
**Author:** ![Kaitlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/73ab20/32.png) [@Kaitlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaitlyn)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2005, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412/126 "2005-01-07T08:42:29Z")
Please follow the link to the other thread, and ask your questions there. It’s much easier for me to follow the questions in one thread than two. [Link](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=5690636#post5690636). ---
**Author:** ![Terrorcotta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dbc845/32.png) [@Terrorcotta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Terrorcotta)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2005, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412/127 "2005-01-07T16:53:26Z")
I would just like to add my thanks and congrats to this fascintating thread Miss Kaitlyn! The humour and warmth have made for a great read. It also ties into a dialog I’ve been having with a girlfriend since I discovered a bi streak in myself. I will follow this and the other thread with great interest. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![The\_Chao\_Goes\_Mu](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_chao_goes_mu/32/3191_2.png) [@The\_Chao\_Goes\_Mu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Chao_Goes_Mu)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2005, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412/128 "2005-01-07T19:32:24Z")
> [@Kaitlyn](#): > > Mrs. Six and I visited a gay bar once, thinking that, hey, we’re lesbian lovers, this is a place where we’ll be accepted and wont have to put up with unwanted advances from men. > > When we revealed that I was transsexual, we were made to feel _very_ unwelcome. I wasn’t a “real” lesbian, I was a sick, physically disfigured man, and she was just as sick as I was because she was with me. > > Mrs. Six’s take was that they were just jealous because our being with each other meant that the two best looking women in the place were taken. > > That’s not really an answer to your question, though, its it? > > One of the other couples in our neighborhood actively avoids us–they’ll cross the street rather than walk past us on the sidewalk–and their teenage boys have on occasion yelled profanities at us when their parents aren’t around. We tried to talk to the parents, but they refused to acknowledge us. > > Some of the neighbors know (it wouldn’t be hard to figure out), but others assume that we’re sisters, even though we don’t really look much alike. > > Mrs. Six has been, on occasion, treated differently, at work since she “turned lesbian”. No actual harrassment, but a small number of the other women there are suddenly uncomfortable around her and tend to avoid her. Unfortunately some gays and lesbians are not immune to ignorance and bigotry. It boggles the mind really that folks that want acceptance and equal treatment cannot look beyond their own sphere of existence and try to understand what transgendered men and women go through. But fear not, in my circle, there are plenty of us dykes that would welcome you and your wife with open arms. I willing to bet if you look a little harder you will find those accepting people out there. Congratulations and good luck to you and your wife in discovering yourselves and each other. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yes-number-six-a-girl/282412.md?page=6)