# YET ANOTHER If you were the opposite sex for awhile... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 31, 2010, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190 "2010-08-31T22:26:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/21 "2010-09-02T02:08:23Z")
As a straight male who has been writing male-dominant/female-submissive spanking and BDSM fiction for many years, I would want to experience the things I’ve written from the female-submissive perspective. In addition to being spanked and otherwise punished in all the ways I’ve written, I’d also want to be subjected to all the various and sundry sex acts I’ve written, including “forced” girl-girl sex. My only caveats: I would want the “punishment” be more realistic than the punishments I’ve described in my stories; since my stories are purely written fiction, with no real people involved, I’ve felt at liberty to make the punishments far more severe and go on for much longer than most real people would be able to endure. (In my writing I don’t describe punishments that break the skin or do any kind of permanent damage, i.e. “torture”, I merely describe, say, hard spankings administered with multiple implements that go on for a very long time.) I would want to go into each “scenario” completely fresh (that is, each “scenario” would be self-contained and separate from all the others, with no memory of previous “scenarios”) and not knowing what I was in for, so that I could fully experience all the resulting emotions. I would want to _remember_ everything once I turned back into a man. Holy crap, being completely aware of exactly how my female characters feel would take my writing up several levels! ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/22 "2010-09-02T02:08:31Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > I’d like to know what it feels like to have someone else inside you. I mean, in a hole that’s _supposed_ to have something going in and out of it. And I want to know how it’s possible to be sexually aroused by having one’s nipples played with. As a man, I guess it’s kinda fun, but not nearly at the level at which women enjoy it. > > Non-sexually, I want to know what a period is like. I’d like to know if it lives up to the hype or if it’s just like really bad cramps. Then I’d know if I should really be sympathetic or just brush off complaints as simple whining. My cramps feel like a bad bout of diarrhea that doesn’t produce poo. Well…sometimes it does toward the end. Anyway, just imagine that on top of swollen feet and legs, a tension headache, and about 24 kicks to the kidneys. Oh yes, and sore nipples! You can imagine all that can’t you? ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/23 "2010-09-02T02:31:12Z")
> [@davekhps](#): > > I’d suffer from my period just for the frame of reference. But only if women-who-are-now-men get to enjoy constantly getting pinched, kicked and smacked in the junk. Constantly? Outside a S&M themed male brothel I doubt there’s a man on earth whose “junk” is abused often enough in the same week to have any idea what having cramps during a whole period is like. But yeah, if I were a guy temporarily, I’d totally let someone kick me in the balls - men describing it sound just like bad period cramps but not for _days_ at a time, so I want to see if that’s true. I have trouble wrapping my mind around the idea that not only would I be attracted to females, I’d also be not-me enough to work up the nerve to try to get a girl to come home with me, so I don’t think I’d try to unless I swapped bodies with a guy I was involved with. Otherwise, I’d probably fail in the attempt and come here to whine about it 😉 First, though, before I could get someone to kick me or fail to pick a girl up, I’d have to figure out how you manage to _walk_ with those things. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/24 "2010-09-02T02:51:21Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > And I want to know how it’s possible to be sexually aroused by having one’s nipples played with. As a man, I guess it’s kinda fun, but not nearly at the level at which women enjoy it. Heh, you apparently don’t know the same men I know. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/25 "2010-09-02T03:57:03Z")
I’ve tried a vibrator as a male and if I’m really patient and persistent with it I can get some pleasure out of it but it definitely doesn’t seem to be geared towards a guy’s anatomy. Trying out a wand vibrator would be on the list were I to be female for a while. ---
**Author:** ![Grumman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/43a26b/32.png) [@Grumman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grumman)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/26 "2010-09-02T04:28:19Z")
> [@CandidGamera](#): > > Pfft. Way to suck the fun out of a hypothetical. What good is being a woman if I can’t pick up women? 😃 What he said. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 10:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/27 "2010-09-02T10:07:24Z")
I’d want to pick up guys, I’d want to look sexy, I’d want to notice people noticing that I’m sexy, and I’d like to be pounded into submission until I’m a drooling, quivering mess. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/28 "2010-09-02T13:39:14Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > Non-sexually, I want to know what a period is like. I’d like to know if it lives up to the hype or if it’s just like really bad cramps. Then I’d know if I should really be sympathetic or just brush off complaints as simple whining. It totally varies from woman to woman and month to month, so there’s no guarantee you’d get the universal feeling, anyway, but at least you could deal with tampons/pads for a few days and have that lovely feeling. 🙂 I was also going to say, I’d love to have a look at the emotional infrastructure of a man. Does a man, truly, love? Does he ever feel giddy with it? Or is it all termed in somewhat more practical ways? Etc. ---
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/29 "2010-09-02T14:48:19Z")
I’m right with Auto here and the ladies here. In addition to having a penchant for skirts/dresses (hey, if kilts were socially appropriate I’d be in one all the time), I’d absolutely love to see what it was like to be on the receiving end of what I’m currently delivering. It’d also be nice to not have to be the aggressor all the time in romance, I could get used to that. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/30 "2010-09-02T15:10:21Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I’d love to have a look at the emotional infrastructure of a man. Does a man, truly, love? Does he ever feel giddy with it? Or is it all termed in somewhat more practical ways? Etc. We’re not remotely practical. Hmm, I haven’t been designated to speak for my sex or anything, so make your own observations, but seriously, it’s practically a cliche that when males are in love we retain very little sense of perspective and will often jeopardize everything else in our lives to be with the person for whom we have developed these feelings. You could cynically ask (with more than a shred of justification) about males who don’t tend to like females in general very much, and whose common _sexual_ pattern is quite pragmatic and doesn’t involve loving or falling in love at all, just falling into bed. (Liking the bodily containers that female people walk around in is not the same as liking women). You could ask about males who when they _do_ fall in love are sort of promoting one woman to personhood (of a special and attenuated sort) while continuing to harbor some rather contemptuous and dismissive attitudes towards your sex in general. But do we get giddy and become spectacularly impractical? Seriously, do you need to ask? I’d say the question is more often aimed at YOUR sex. I don’t ascribe to that myself but you’ll find evidence of it in extant threads on this very board (What aphrodisiacs work on women? Fat wallets and expensive cars and power) as well as echoed in many other places (It’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as to fall in love with a poor man). Anyway I’ll personally testify to yes on the giddy. The withdrawal effects are truly awful if it goes sour but I love being in love and feeling that rush of tenderness and that burst of joy. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/31 "2010-09-02T15:12:23Z")
> [@Autolycus](#): > > I’d want to pick up guys, I’d want to look sexy, I’d want to notice people noticing that I’m sexy, and I’d like to be pounded into submission until I’m a drooling, quivering mess. Well, I think I have _my_ weekend planned out now. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/32 "2010-09-02T15:21:25Z")
> [@Dogzilla](#): > > So what was his problem? I don’t have any idea. I don’t know how any man gets to 40 years old, has experience with multiple partners, and _still_ can’t quite figure it out, _with coaching, verbal directions, and hand-placement assistance_. Honey, there’s a difference between not knowing and not caring. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/33 "2010-09-02T17:50:26Z")
I’m a straight woman who would be a straight man. [ul] [li]I think the first thing I would do is masturbate, because I’d _really_ like to know what a male orgasm feels like. Of course I’d have to try to experience as many different kinds of orgasms as possible.[/li][li]I’m also with those who want to know what it feels like to be inside a woman/to be the one doing the fucking. [/li][li]I’d want to try sex both with and without a condom. Probably various kinds of condoms, too.[/li][li]And I’d _have_ to find out what a blowjob felt like. Even if I were a short, fat dude (I’m a short, fat chick) and had to pay for it.[/li][/ul] Those are just at the top of the list. Basically I’d want to do anything sexual that I could. 🙂 [QUOTE=Anaamika] I was also going to say, I’d love to have a look at the emotional infrastructure of a man. Does a man, truly, love? Does he ever feel giddy with it? Or is it all termed in somewhat more practical ways? Etc. [/QUOTE] How could you expect your emotional infrastructure to reflect that of all men, any more than your period reflects the experience of all women? ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/34 "2010-09-02T18:08:54Z")
> [@](#): > > Even if I were a short, fat dude (I’m a short, fat chick) and had to pay for it. This is another issue. Everyone assumes that they’re going to be a stunning-looking example of the opposite sex. But how do you know? If minimal changes were made, I suspect I wouldn’t be considered a great catch.\* That, besides the issues of infidelity, is a factor that shapes my fantasy of this sort one in which my wife takes an active part. \*I’ve said it before – I’d make a singularly ugly woman. But I have to admit that my daughter, burdened with half my chromosomes, isn’t a bad-looking girl. So possibly a sex-switched me wouldn’t be abysmal-looking. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/35 "2010-09-02T19:37:26Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > [QUOTE=Anaamika] > I was also going to say, I’d love to have a look at the emotional infrastructure of a man. Does a man, truly, love? Does he ever feel giddy with it? Or is it all termed in somewhat more practical ways? Etc. How could you expect your emotional infrastructure to reflect that of all men, any more than your period reflects the experience of all women? [/QUOTE] Of course it wouldn’t…but at least I’d get a taste of it. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/36 "2010-09-02T19:56:13Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > > [@Misnomer](#): > > > > How could you expect your emotional infrastructure to reflect that of all men, any more than your period reflects the experience of all women? > > Of course it wouldn’t…but at least I’d get a taste of it. I still don’t understand what you think you’d be getting a taste _of_. There is no “men feel x about love” or “men experience love like x,” any more than there is “women experience love like x.” You’ve already gotten a taste of how _people_ love. Are you just saying that you’re curious about what it’s like to experience love differently? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/37 "2010-09-02T20:27:29Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > I still don’t understand what you think you’d be getting a taste _of_. Dunno. I hadn’t thought about it in that much detail, really. ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/38 "2010-09-02T20:49:42Z")
First of all, I’d love to know what it feels like to ejaculate. Other than that, I’d love to go to a sports bar and watch the game without people thinking I’m a) just in it to flirt with guys or b) a lesbian, or at least a big tomboy. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2010, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/39 "2010-09-02T20:51:05Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > > [@Misnomer](#): > > > > I still don’t understand what you think you’d be getting a taste _of_. > > Dunno. I hadn’t thought about it in that much detail, really. Fair 'nuff. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Crackrat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/919ad9/32.png) [@Crackrat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crackrat)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2010, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190/40 "2010-09-03T01:35:53Z")
Bi-curious male here. I would probably spend a lot of time trying on clothes. I’ve been a closet crossdresser since I was about 15, and I love all kinds of female clothing. I would just go nuts with everything from the mundane to the very sexy. Then I’d probably see what I could arrange, sex-wise, with at least one person of each gender. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yet-another-if-you-were-the-opposite-sex-for-awhile/552190.md?page=3)