# Yo lezlers- if you got something to say to me, just say it. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 17, 2010, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yo-lezlers-if-you-got-something-to-say-to-me-just-say-it/536460 "2010-04-17T16:08:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 4
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2010, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yo-lezlers-if-you-got-something-to-say-to-me-just-say-it/536460/4 "2010-04-17T16:24:54Z")
In case you didn’t want to bother reading it: > [@Is this "hostess" totally out of line?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-hostess-totally-out-of-line/536290/146): > > Thanks, **BigT** , that was exactly it. There was a bit of residual resentment from prior threads mixed in there too. I realize I was asking for people’s opinions. There is, however, a difference between giving your own opinion and telling someone else they shouldn’t be feeling what they’re feeling in a certain situation. Especially when it’s done in a condescending way, such as giving anctedotes about people who live lives of bitterness because they aren’t enlightened enough to magically avoid getting irritated by anything in life. :rolleyes: You can offer advice about what to _do_ in a situation, but telling someone thier feelings are “silly” or wrong because you don’t agree with them is indeed condescending and far from productive. If it bothers you that much that someone thinks this about you, maybe you should change the way you “give advice” on the boards. _shrug_ --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/yo-lezlers-if-you-got-something-to-say-to-me-just-say-it/536460)._