# You asked for it, BossK. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 7, 2001, 12:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991 "2001-11-07T12:26:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![DMC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dmc/32/18049_2.png) [@DMC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DMC)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/61 "2001-11-09T00:38:28Z")
While I’m certainly a fan of brevity, would everyone do me a favor and stop abbreviating Devil May Care’s username, or at least pick a different abbreviation? 😉 Considering the fact that BossK is my current LFP (least favorite poster), a spot formerly held by Autumn Wind Chick, I’d hate to be confused with someone who actually defends him. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![freshmeat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c4cdca/32.png) [@freshmeat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freshmeat)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/62 "2001-11-09T01:22:01Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by TubaDiva_ > If you got a problem with someone on this board, DON’T air it here, even by > reference. Take your trash out. ALL of it. > > Take it to email, write a letter to the editor, rent a concert hall and sing > about it. Just don’t do it here, especially in backhanded fashion. Need I say more? FM ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/63 "2001-11-09T01:24:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by freshmeat \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > _Originally posted by TubaDiva_ > > If you got a problem with someone on this board, DON’T air it here, even by > > reference. Take your trash out. ALL of it. > > > > Take it to email, write a letter to the editor, rent a concert hall and sing > > about it. Just don’t do it here, especially in backhanded fashion. > > Need I say more? > > FM \*\* Actually, I think you do need to say more. This sort of thread is common in the Pit, and I’d like to see the context in which **Tuba Diva** made that statement. ---
**Author:** ![freshmeat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c4cdca/32.png) [@freshmeat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freshmeat)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/64 "2001-11-09T01:34:42Z")
> [@](#): > > _Crunchy Frog_ > Actually, I think you do need to say more. This sort of thread is common in the Pit, and I’d like to see the context in which Tuba Diva made that statement. According to TubaDiva, this post should have occured via email between the two parties concerned. I think Tuba’s words are pretty clear regarding this, Crunchy. But since it is common for this sort of thing to occur on the board, it must be OK, right? :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/65 "2001-11-09T01:34:55Z")
Helpful [link](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=97453&pagenumber=2), **Crunchy** ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/66 "2001-11-09T01:42:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by freshmeat \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > _Crunchy Frog_ > > Actually, I think you do need to say more. This sort of thread is common in the Pit, and I’d like to see the context in which Tuba Diva made that statement. > > According to TubaDiva, this post should have occured via email between the two parties concerned. I think Tuba’s words are pretty clear regarding this, Crunchy. > > But since it is common for this sort of thing to occur on the board, it must be OK, right? :rolleyes: \*\* I wasn’t picking a fight or saying it was ok, I was asking for the cite where you picked this quote up. My point was, since it’s so common, why don’t the mods simply close the threads about other posters and berate the posters who start them? You posted a quote which I have not seen and was simply asking for context, which you didn’t give. **Ginger** was helpful though. And in the context of that quote, it looks as if **Tuba** is referring to _personal_ problems with other Dopers, not because of board behavior. Of course, only **Tuba** can clarify this for us. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/67 "2001-11-09T01:42:47Z")
I would just like to take this opportunity to apologize for having been around long enough to have made some friends on the boards. Sorry. I’ll go back to pretending I don’t know anyone. In the meantime, I’ll be over here in the corner, wearing sackcloth and ashes and flagellating myself. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/68 "2001-11-09T01:43:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by freshmeat \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > _Crunchy Frog_ > > Actually, I think you do need to say more. This sort of thread is common in the Pit, and I’d like to see the context in which Tuba Diva made that statement. > > According to TubaDiva, this post should have occured via email between the two parties concerned. I think Tuba’s words are pretty clear regarding this, Crunchy. > > But since it is common for this sort of thing to occur on the board, it must be OK, right? :rolleyes: \*\* **Freshmeat** , I think that Tuba’s issue stems from the fact that the comments in question were posted in MPSIMS - a big fat no-no, if I’m not mistaken. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/69 "2001-11-09T02:43:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by freshmeat \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > _Originally posted by TubaDiva_ > > If you got a problem with someone on this board, DON’T air it here, even by > > reference. Take your trash out. ALL of it. > > > > Take it to email, write a letter to the editor, rent a concert hall and sing > > about it. Just don’t do it here, especially in backhanded fashion.\*\* > > Need I say more? > > FM From the forum description: > [@](#): > > **If you gotta flame, do it here.** This is the place for all complaints and other discussion regarding administration of the SDMB. Bolding mine. Need I say more? ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/70 "2001-11-09T02:51:36Z")
Actually, **Tuba** was referring to a specific incident that I referenced from quite some time ago. I got unintentionally close to crossing a line, and she let me know, that’s all. It really has no reference to flaming or bitching _in general_. Esprix ---
**Author:** ![freshmeat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c4cdca/32.png) [@freshmeat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freshmeat)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/71 "2001-11-09T03:18:43Z")
This board is getting more confusing than Christianity, with as many contradictions, to boot. 😉 Thanks for clearing things up, Biggirl. FM ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/72 "2001-11-09T03:24:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by freshmeat \* > \*\*This board is getting more confusing than Christianity, with as many contradictions, to boot. 😉 > > Thanks for clearing things up, Biggirl.\*\* You know, as a Christian, I could really chew you out for that unnecessary for dig at my religion, but… eh, a joke’s a joke and I’ve said far worse. Stick around, it’ll make sense after you’ve been properly brainwashed - just like Christianity! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/73 "2001-11-09T04:54:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Weirddave \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Devil May Care \* > > **\And thanks for stooping to a level below mine by telling me to kill myself. _That_ was very classy.** > > [Hamlet] > > Oh, I am slain! > > [/Hamlet]\*\* I just went back and re-read this. I hadn’t seen this the first time **weirddave** , and I really have nothing against you, but this bit: > [@](#): > > I hope that the next time you are hiding in the bushes next to the local elementary school, looking for that vulernable 5 year old boy you can lure away to fuck in the ass, just so you can use your sexual abilities, that you remember this: You may feel good abusing that child for the moment, but you are still a pathetic example of a “human”. You would be better off just eating a gun. None of us would miss you, and many of us would rejoyce. Throw us a bone, why doncha, and eat that gun. Accusing someone of paedophilia and suggesting he kill himself just for a bit of mild flaming seems over the top to me. I really think **Devil May Care** didn’t say anything deserving of that harsh of a response and after seeing this I’m not surprised he doesn’t show in this thread again. ---
**Author:** ![TwistofFate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@TwistofFate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwistofFate)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 10:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/74 "2001-11-09T10:01:52Z")
Freshmeat. Bossk has been making some insulting personal attacks on this board. I called him on it on this board. This is not a situation, in my understanding, to be taken to e-mail. Lynn, Tuba, if I am wrong, feel free to inform me. ---
**Author:** ![SPOOFE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c5a1d2/32.png) [@SPOOFE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SPOOFE)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 10:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/75 "2001-11-09T10:53:46Z")
Okay, I guess some people still don’t understand why Bossk is considered by some to be behaving badly. Well, let’s see some recent examples: [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=97871](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=97871) - A thread started after this one, which tells us that _even though he is fully aware that his behavior is unacceptable, he continues doing it_. Further, take a look at how he attacks someone who _dislikes the practice of misusing a word_. Let me repeat that: _ **He attacks someone who dislikes the practice of misusing a word** _. Please, **howgoesit** and **Devil May Care** , explain why this type of action should be encouraged or even permitted. [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=94544](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=94544) - Remember this thread? He posed a question, awkwardly and a bit bluntly, but that is forgiveable. His question was, basically, “Do you see attractive people read romance novels?” He got many answers in the affirmative, and a few criticisms for the lack of tact in the OP, and one reference of an earlier thread where he did a similar stunt - posting a rather rude OP. What was his reaction? He began turning that reference into another attack. What a surprise? In fact, for the rest of the thread, he began insulting people based solely on their appearance, making assumptions out the yin-yang about how people look (nevermind that he never worked up the gumption to show the world how _he_ looked). The bottom line? He wants to act like an ass. Apparently, he thinks he has free reign in the Pit. A foolish notion if there ever was one, but there you go. ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/76 "2001-11-09T22:28:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SPOOFE \* > \*\*The bottom line? He wants to act like an ass. Apparently, he thinks he has free reign in the Pit. \*\* What really bugs me about this particular ass, is he’ll take pot-shots at other posters but when you shoot back, he just leaves the thread. Take this thread for example. He made one completely non-sequitor post and hasn’t returned. I don’t think he will either. Classic case of dishing it out but not taking it. ---
**Author:** ![Bossk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7feea3/32.png) [@Bossk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bossk)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2001, 7:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/77 "2001-11-10T07:33:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Crunchy Frog \* > \*\*What really bugs me about this particular ass, is he’ll take pot-shots at other posters but when you shoot back, he just leaves the thread. Take this thread for example. He made one completely non-sequitor post and hasn’t returned. I don’t think he will either. Classic case of dishing it out but not taking it. \*\* Oh, sorry. I never knew how these celebrity roast things were supposed to work. So, as guest of honor, I would like to say: Today, I am the luckiest man on the face of the earth. I may have been given a bad flame, but I have an awful lot to life for. Thank you. Thank you, Crunchy, SPOOFE, punha, Ginger, Eprix, Slip, BiGirl, and most of all, Weirddave for this classy barb directed at DMC: \*\* > [@](#): > > I pity you. I hope that the next time you are hiding in the bushes next to the local elementary school, looking for that vulernable 5 year old boy you can lure away to fuck in the ass, just so you can use your sexual abilities, that you remember this: You may feel good abusing that child for the moment, but you are still a pathetic example of a “human”. You would be better off just eating a gun. None of us would miss you, and many of us would rejoyce. Throw us a bone, why doncha, and eat that gun. \*\* Way to keep your emotions in check, guy. It’s funny SPOOFE hasn’t attacked you. I guess that accusing posters of pedo-rape doesn’t fit his “Don’t be a jerk” enforcement policy. While I’m a little hurt that Muffin and TechChick didn’t come out to the event, I’m sure the roses and fruitbasket are already on their way. So again, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Thank you all. ---
**Author:** ![kabbes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e99b99/32.png) [@kabbes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kabbes)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2001, 10:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/78 "2001-11-12T10:10:08Z")
I should apologise for being overly harsh in my post towards **howgoesit**. My attacking him obviously caused him to miss the spirit of what I was trying to say. **Smeghead** put it much better, since he did it with sarcasm rather than vitriol. You’re right, **hgit**. It was out of character. No excuses. So try this instead: We get a lot of Trolls Or Idiots (henceforth referred to as TOIs) on this board. 2/3 of people never make more than 10 posts. 50% never even make more than 1 or 2 posts. And yet a staggeringly high proportion of these microposters feel able to pass judgement on the relationships and dynamics that have existed for _years_ on this board. Those who do this are given short shrift simply because we see it _so_ often and - well - because it is rather offensive. Would you barge into a party of people who know eachother well and immediately start criticising them and their relationships to eachother? Would you put up with it if it happened to you? Or would you think “who the hell is this person and how are they qualified to pass judgement on me and my friends?” Now, because such a high proportion of brand new posters are TOIs, there tends to be a natural suspicion. We do generally give the benefit of the doubt - and there are many **many** examples of warm welcomes to newbies - but when _in the first ten posts they make_ somebody having a go at us then that benefit of the doubt evaporates pretty damn quick. We’ve simply seen it all before. And it’s tedious. Better? pan ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2001, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/79 "2001-11-12T16:25:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Bossk \* > Thank you, Crunchy, SPOOFE, punha, Ginger, Eprix, Slip, BiGirl, and most of all, Weirddave for this classy barb directed at DMC: You might want to check your sources, **Bossk** , as I didn’t write that. And furthermore I wouldn’t write that sort of thing. Flaming like that ain’t my style. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2001, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991/80 "2001-11-12T17:34:18Z")
[QUOTE] \*Originally posted by Bossk \* Thank you, Crunchy, SPOOFE, punha, Ginger, Eprix, Slip, BiGirl, and most of all, Weirddave for this classy barb directed at DMC: \*\* > [@](#): > > I pity you. I hope that the next time you are hiding in the bushes next to the local elementary school, looking for that vulernable 5 year old boy you can lure away to fuck in the ass, just so you can use your sexual abilities, that you remember this: You may feel good abusing that child for the moment, but you are still a pathetic example of a “human”. You would be better off just eating a gun. None of us would miss you, and many of us would rejoyce. Throw us a bone, why doncha, and eat that gun. \*\* You’re quite welcome, Bossie babe. But you’re thanking the wrong people for the most part. Now if you want to thank me for calling you a fucking stupid wannabe troll and that your mother would be ashamed for you, then you’d be perfectly right. See, I told youse guys he was stupid. Reading comprehension is FundaMental. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-asked-for-it-bossk/91991.md?page=5)