# "You can't blame me for being oversensitve on my period." Bullshit. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 15, 2006, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835 "2006-09-15T14:39:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Auntbeast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Auntbeast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Auntbeast)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/41 "2006-09-15T18:10:58Z")
I’m a woman, I’ve been having a period for approximately 17 years. (I got one year off for bad behavior, pregnancy/breastfeeding). I have never used PMS or hormones to excuse me being a bitch and I despise women who do. Control your shit. It happens to you once a fucking month, you should be able to control yourself by now, if you can’t, stop making men tremble in fear when dealing with a woman in case she might pull out the “I’m PMS’ing” card. I hate when men feel comfortable attributing me correcting their bad behavior to me possibly PMS’ing, no, it is because you shouldn’t be allowed in public. CONTROL YOUR SHIT LADIES. If it was reversed, blah, blah, blah, it isn’t reversed, it isn’t a surprise, it rarely sneaks up on you and you should fucking develop coping mechanisms so the rest of the world doesn’t have to. Yeah, I’ve had some recent issues with a woman who is blaming her hormones on her excruciatingly bad behavior. ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/42 "2006-09-15T18:11:17Z")
My wife does this, and it makes me crazy sometimes. I’ve learned to recognize the signs of PMS, and I refuse to take any bullshit because of it. I’m sorry she has tender breasts, mood swings, etc. I hate it for her, and as long as she wants love, comfort, and sympathy from me, that’s fine. But the second she directs her feelings AT me, as if I were the cause of her problems and she’s spoiling for a fight, I cut it off immediately. ---
**Author:** ![Caridwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c89c15/32.png) [@Caridwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caridwen)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/43 "2006-09-15T18:14:45Z")
> [@](#): > > I’m a woman, and I don’t think the OP is silly at all. Every time I hear a woman blame poor behavior on PMS, it bothers me because it makes it just a little bit harder to get people to stop thinking “eh, she must be on the rag” and then not take me seriously if I have a legitimate concern or complaint. How do you know the person isn’t suffering from PMS? I do think it’s wrong to use PMS as an excuse to be a bitch. If it really is PMS, see a doctor. I hate when I’m mad about something legitimate and someone makes a PMS crack. No, I’m not on the rag, thank you. I’m just mad because your a jerk. **Jodi** > [@](#): > > If you think the women in your personal life have a legitimate reason for occasional emotionalism and/or irrationality, it might be nice if you could tolerate it sympathetically. If you think the women in your personal life are using some bullshit excuse to treat you badly every month, then talk to them about it. If you think it’s fake and you put up with it, why isn’t that on you? Gotta agree with that. Or maybe they just don’t like you. ---
**Author:** ![Turek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/turek/32/18782_2.png) [@Turek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turek)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/44 "2006-09-15T18:15:11Z")
> [@delphica](#): > > I’m a woman, and I don’t think the OP is silly at all. Every time I hear a woman blame poor behavior on PMS, it bothers _me_ because it makes it just a little bit harder to get people to stop thinking “eh, she must be on the rag” and then not take me seriously if I have a legitimate concern or complaint. Not to derail a good arguement, but I have a similar feeling about folks who say “Oh, I’ve got \*such \* a migraine!” and then go about their day like they have nothing but a headache - which is all they really have in the first place. It totally devalues the truth when someone actually DOES have a migraine. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/45 "2006-09-15T18:20:41Z")
> [@Jodi](#): > > If you think the women in your personal life have a legitimate reason for occasional emotionalism and/or irrationality, it might be nice if you could tolerate it sympathetically. If you think the women in your personal life are using some bullshit excuse to treat you badly every month, then talk to them about it. If you think it’s fake and you put up with it, why isn’t that on you? I’m as sympathetic about it as any man can be. But there comes a time when you know someone is manipulating things, just as I know there are women who are in pain but don’t take it out on anyone else. I’m pitting the former. ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/46 "2006-09-15T18:21:17Z")
> [@Auntbeast](#): > > Yeah, I’ve had some recent issues with a woman who is blaming her hormones on her excruciatingly bad behavior. Or vice versa. ---
**Author:** ![Morelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5e925/32.png) [@Morelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morelin)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/47 "2006-09-15T18:25:29Z")
I don’t really suffer PMS, but before I strated taking BC pills, my period was wildly irregular. The number one clue it was about to descend was if I got really angry for no reason, and then really weepy. So, there are some hormonal changes. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/48 "2006-09-15T18:47:19Z")
> [@Turek](#): > > Not to derail a good arguement, but I have a similar feeling about folks who say “Oh, I’ve got \*such \* a migraine!” and then go about their day like they have nothing but a headache - which is all they really have in the first place. It totally devalues the truth when someone actually DOES have a migraine. Turek - there are times when I have one where I’m somewhat functional thanks to pain medication - so don’t necessarily think that unless someone is in a dark room moaning in pain that they don’t have a migraine. I may be able to cope but don’t for a minute think that I “only have a headache”. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/49 "2006-09-15T19:05:18Z")
**Auntbeast** : > [@](#): > > I’m a woman, I’ve been having a period for approximately 17 years Sure hope you’ve been taking your iron supplements. Wow! ---
**Author:** ![Turek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/turek/32/18782_2.png) [@Turek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turek)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/50 "2006-09-15T19:12:07Z")
> [@Missy2U](#): > > Turek - there are times when I have one where I’m somewhat functional thanks to pain medication - so don’t necessarily think that unless someone is in a dark room moaning in pain that they don’t have a migraine. I may be able to cope but don’t for a minute think that I “only have a headache”. 🙂 Migraines are migraines and headaches are headaches. I have no problem with people who have mild to moderate migraines (which I’ve had - auras and such \*without \* my head feeling like it would split) saying they have migraines. But someone who has a “migraine” every time they’ve had a rough day and their head hurts… that bugs me. ---
**Author:** ![lisacurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/41988e/32.png) [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/51 "2006-09-15T19:21:09Z")
> [@Auntbeast](#): > > CONTROL YOUR SHIT LADIES. > > If it was reversed, blah, blah, blah, it isn’t reversed, it isn’t a surprise, it rarely sneaks up on you and you should fucking develop coping mechanisms so the rest of the world doesn’t have to. I’ll gladly control my shit if people will respect my boundaries when I set them. There is roughly a 3-5 day period once every few months when if I say, “Please leave me alone, I’m not feeling well,” I fucking mean it with all of my heart and soul. ---
**Author:** ![delphica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e9a140/32.png) [@delphica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/delphica)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/52 "2006-09-15T19:49:25Z")
> [@Caridwen](#): > > How do you know the person isn’t suffering from PMS? It’s probably me being obtuse, but I don’t understand the question. I know the person is suffering from PMS because she says “I have PMS.” Now, maybe she is lying or mistaken, but for the purposes of getting through the day, if someone says she is suffering from PMS, I’ll take it at face value. ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/53 "2006-09-15T20:15:04Z")
> [@lisacurl](#): > > I’ll gladly control my shit if people will respect my boundaries when I set them. There is roughly a 3-5 day period once every few months when if I say, “Please leave me alone, I’m not feeling well,” I fucking mean it with all of my heart and soul. Sorry, but you are still needed here on earth for an enterprise we call “human interaction.” I need you to control your rage when I have to ask you something and answer me like a rational person. And quit fucking yelling at me. [/Ogre projecting] ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/54 "2006-09-15T20:59:20Z")
> [@Turek](#): > > Migraines are migraines and headaches are headaches. I have no problem with people who have mild to moderate migraines (which I’ve had - auras and such \*without \* my head feeling like it would split) saying they have migraines. But someone who has a “migraine” every time they’ve had a rough day and their head hurts… that bugs me. Zactly. Anyone who has had both will never refer to their headache as a migrane. A headache is a paper cut. A migrane is losing your limb by sawing it off with a steak knife. Biiiiiiiiig difference. ---
**Author:** ![capybara](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/capybara/32/202_2.png) [@capybara](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/capybara)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/55 "2006-09-15T21:19:34Z")
At least no one’s come in with that ancient, hoary misogynist joke about “never trust anything that bleeds for 5 days.” ---
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/56 "2006-09-15T21:22:25Z")
> [@capybara](#): > > At least no one’s come in with that ancient, hoary misogynist joke about “never trust anything that bleeds for 5 days.” Amen, except that someone [did](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=7779594&postcount=13). ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/57 "2006-09-15T21:45:37Z")
He lies right at you You know you hate this game He slaps you once in a while and you live and love in pain She cries alone at night too often He smokes and drinks and don’t come home at all Only women bleed Only women bleed Only women bleed ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/58 "2006-09-15T21:46:42Z")
Black eyes all of the time Don’t spend a dime Clean up this grime And you there down on your knees begging me please come Watch me bleed Only women bleed Only women bleed Only women bleed […] ---
**Author:** ![flight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbce88/32.png) [@flight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flight)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/59 "2006-09-15T22:04:40Z")
> [@Velma](#): > > I don’t get bad PMS and my husband doesn’t even know I have my period unless I tell him, I don’t notice a big change. Wow, I feel very sorry for your husband. ---
**Author:** ![MLS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/919ad9/32.png) [@MLS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MLS)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2006, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835/60 "2006-09-15T22:08:31Z")
Regarding the Midol issue – Isn’t Midol actually just aspirin and caffeine? Or something similar? IIRC, NSAIDs like Advil or Aleve work much better not only for PMS and cramps, but for any muscle aches. I’ve known persons of the female persuasion who were directed by their doctors to start taking largeish dosed of ibuprofen a day or so before they were due to menstruate. Men get fluctuating moods, too, they just don’t admit it, or recognize that it could be a hormonal issue. My daughters and I have been known to remark to one another, “Dad’s got PMS today.” And we giggle. PMS = Permanent Male Syndrome PMS = Putting up with Men’s Sh!t PMS = Getting to be like men are ALL the time. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-cant-blame-me-for-being-oversensitve-on-my-period-bullshit/372835.md?page=4)