# You down with OPP? (Old People's Problems) Then post them here **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 13, 2021, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-down-with-opp-old-peoples-problems-then-post-them-here/956002 "2021-12-13T19:20:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 78
**Author:** ![pullin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c57346/32.png) [@pullin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pullin)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2021, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-down-with-opp-old-peoples-problems-then-post-them-here/956002/78 "2021-12-16T18:04:15Z")
The originating thread from @Unintentionally_Blank began with a problem I’d like to commiserate about… > [@Where do you go to talk about 'Old People's Problems'?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-you-go-to-talk-about-old-peoples-problems/955986/1): > > An Example: WTH did I end up inheriting money AFTER I got my shit together and don’t really have anything I need to spend it on? > > This will result in responses along the line of: > > Boo Hoo, you have too much money, let me play you a song on my tiny violin. > > or > > You could give it to me, I’d manage it for you, or you can donate it to %cause%, otherwise you’re a blight on humanity and all that is wrong with it. > > Which really doesn’t help with the angst and subtle unsaid things like ‘a parent died, and I’d love to have them back and the only thing that I’ve got at this point is slightly different numbers in the checkbook.’ I’ve recently discovered I’m joining you. The short version is that 2021 seriously pruned our family tree. And I (already retired in my 60s) was shown some statements with really big numbers and informed they’re now headed to me. This was unexpected, I didn’t really know about it (not much anyway), and I’m a little overwhelmed. spoilered for length I don’t like the reasons for this, and would gladly trade it to have all my family back. It’s a strange feeling, but at least I know with certainty how my heart feels about it. I’ve known people in my situation who I suspected were happy about the trade-off, and had wondered what my own reactions would be. There’s some comfort in knowing my values remain where they should. But it’s still a strange feeling. And like the OP, part of me is at sea, wondering “what now?”. If I had known this future, I could have retired decades earlier – to sail around the world, or whatever grand event was in my bucket list. But now age and medical issues restrict me considerably – and I don’t want a Ferrari or a rocket ride. In addition, I will probably be assuming responsibility for a handicapped family member and need to ensure they’re well provided for, but not allowed to squander their portion (long story). My real complaint is, except for my wife there is literally no one I can talk with about this. My few friends would react like Unintentionally\_Blank predicts above, and although I’m keeping several bartenders in silk shirts, they hardly qualify as a sympathetic ear. I guess my real OPP is I’ve reached a point where deep discussions IRL are simply impossible. All conversations in the last few years are like the gun threads; all participants have predetermined answers, and are crouching behind figurative trebuchets awaiting an excuse to launch them. Lots of people to talk to but none who listen. I wonder how widespread this is among other oldsters. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-down-with-opp-old-peoples-problems-then-post-them-here/956002)._