# You get to live in the coolest house on earth, BUT your relatives live with you. Yes or no? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2021, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019 "2021-02-01T23:51:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![blondebear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blondebear/32/1022_2.png) [@blondebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blondebear)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/21 "2021-02-02T01:50:40Z")
I’d only have to share it with my brother. As long as I could have my own private area for media consumption at good volume and not have to interact with any of his guests or visitors apart from the kitchen, I’m cool with it. We’ll be living on the coast with a pool patio/deck with a sunset view and a path down to the beach where I can go jogging and boogie boarding, ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/22 "2021-02-02T01:53:57Z")
Where’s the catch? This sounds like a great deal! I would have been all for it even if you include my chain-smoking ultra-conservative nutball uncle (who has since passed away.) All I have left are two sisters, whom I love dearly and would adore living with. Hey, make it a big house, and I’ll take in some friends who are currently homeless. ---
**Author:** ![SacFly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9fc348/32.png) [@SacFly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SacFly)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/23 "2021-02-02T02:13:34Z")
Small family so it would be an easy yes. If you pushed it out to include second cousins I’d have to think about it. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/24 "2021-02-02T02:16:25Z")
I’m not sure that I could cope with being under the same roof (no matter how amazing the house is) with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law. They are both cantankerous and bullying, and as both of them suffer from emotional disorders (which are barely treated with meds), I would guess that, within a month, I would wind up locking myself in my suite, and refuse to come out, ever. ---
**Author:** ![dalej42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@dalej42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalej42)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/25 "2021-02-02T05:37:01Z")
Never. They get Trumpier by the day. ---
**Author:** ![kitap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b9e5f3/32.png) [@kitap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kitap)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/26 "2021-02-02T08:49:34Z")
In a heartbeat. Bonus: my sister is a better cook than I am. Tasty meals! ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 11:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/27 "2021-02-02T11:05:42Z")
I get to live at the beach! My answer is yes. This isn’t that far from a frequent wish that I used to have anyway in which we all had homes on the same LARGE piece of property with one common area country club sort of thing. This plan may even help me keep my weight under control. ---
**Author:** ![saje](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saje/32/3631_2.png) [@saje](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saje)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/28 "2021-02-02T11:47:02Z")
No. No way in hell. There are a fair number of days when sharing a house with my husband is too much, and he spends much of his time in his office workshop! If I could snap my fingers and live the life I want, I’d have the house to myself. I _might_ be able to share the property … maybe. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/29 "2021-02-02T12:35:05Z")
Hell no. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Hedonia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ann_hedonia/32/319_2.png) [@Ann\_Hedonia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Hedonia)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/30 "2021-02-02T13:19:17Z")
I’d be totally down with that. In fact, it’s not that dissimilar from my current living situation. I have a small family, though and we are close. I currently share a 2000 sq ft, 3 bedroom, 2 bath house with my brother and his daughter. My brother and I own the house jointly - free and clear, we inherited it. The large Master Suite ( bedroom, bathroom, dressing room/ exercise rm) is mine, he and his daughter have the 2 secondary bedrooms and adjoining bath. We both have fridge/ microwave mini-kitchens in our rooms. The two “residence suites” are on the opposite sides of the house. Then we share the large open Living Room Dining Room Kitchen at the center of the house. In order to meet the conditions of the OP, his son, with wife and kid, would need to move in with us. If the place was bigger we’d set it up that way in a minute. I’d love to have them live with us, but the place isn’t big enough. So, my answer to the OP — if I can upgrade to the coolest house ever, with room for everyone…HELL YES! Now, this is because my family is small, and anyone I would’ve had trouble living with has died off. But I really like what left of my family. And my brother is a really good cook. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/31 "2021-02-02T14:11:08Z")
I’m fine with the idea; but is it fighting the hypothetical to point out that this would require people to move to a new location, thereby giving up their jobs, their friends, their social networks, etc.? That would be my reason to turn this down in real life. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/32 "2021-02-02T14:18:37Z")
Absolutely. I have five siblings, and they have spouses, kids, and grandkids. But we all get along pretty well (some more than others, but no really bad blood.) It would have to be a very big house though. All told, including me, my siblings, their spouses, their kids and their kids’ spouses, and their grandkids it would amount to 34 people. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/33 "2021-02-02T14:38:13Z")
That’s only four people on my side and I get along with them fine (mom, sister, two nephews but one is in the military so he won’t be around anyway). My wife’s side is larger but she’d be delighted to have everyone around. And I get along with them all well enough to make it work, especially if we’re in a giant house with separate places to retreat to. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/34 "2021-02-02T14:42:58Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Hell no See, my sister is rather conservative. She and my brother go at it from time to time, she calling him a socialist to which he responds by explaining that he is actually more of a Marxist. I get along fine with either, keeping my mouth shut as far as politics is concerned. I could live _near_ either of them, but I would not live with both in the same dwelling. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/35 "2021-02-02T14:44:07Z")
Nope. I can take family in small doses. I can take a specific BIL in even smaller doses - the closer to nothing, the better. So such proximity as outlined in the OP would be intolerable. I don’t hate my family, but I don’t want to live with them. We are different people with different lifestyles - especially when it comes to alcohol for some and personalities with others. So no thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/36 "2021-02-02T14:51:35Z")
Well, my father needs highly specialized care and lives in a memory care facility, so that’s not possible. And there’s no way in hell I’m living with my sister. Her husband isn’t a bad guy, but I can’t live with her. Too bad, because I know exactly what house (well, actually, it’s an apartment) I’d pick. > **[Clock it to me! Dumbo’s infamous clock tower apartment sells for record $15...](https://www.brooklynpaper.com/clock-it-to-me-dumbos-infamous-clock-tower-apartment-sells-for-record-15-million/)** > > Nine years after a certain editor made a certain video, a certain aparment has certainly been sold. > **[Old Clock Tower Transformed Into a Penthouse On Sale For $18 Million](https://www.boredpanda.com/old-clock-tower-transformed-into-penthouse/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic)** > > Atop One Main Street in Brooklyn, New York, an iconic clock tower was transformed into a stunning triplex penthouse, located in the trendy DUMBO (down under the Manhattan bridge overpass) neighborhood. The penthouse entered the market in 2009 as the... ---
**Author:** ![Ashtura](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ashtura/32/2963_2.png) [@Ashtura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashtura)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/37 "2021-02-02T14:51:41Z")
Eh, as long as it is enormous and they have their own “wing”, sure. I mean, if it’s “the awesomest house ever,” you could have redundant rooms of any function per wing, and we’d never cross paths except for your mandatory kitchen part. Honestly I probably spend 5 minutes a day in the kitchen. I don’t cook much, so, no big deal, or are you saying I HAVE to cook, even if I don’t cook? ---
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/38 "2021-02-02T16:14:07Z")
I’d rather live in a tent in the forest somewhere, eating squirrels for dinner. ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/39 "2021-02-02T17:00:15Z")
Sure, the coolest house on Earth would be massive and have mancaves protected by secret doors. They can’t annoy me if they can’t find me. ---
**Author:** ![Tabco](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tabco/32/7644_2.png) [@Tabco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tabco)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2021, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019/40 "2021-02-02T17:50:47Z")
I’d feel bad for basically making all my extended family relocate. They wouldn’t be particularly thrilled with relocating, even to the most opulent mansion in the world. So no. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-get-to-live-in-the-coolest-house-on-earth-but-your-relatives-live-with-you-yes-or-no/932019.md?page=3)