# You know who your real friends are when ... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 22, 2011, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938 "2011-07-22T02:45:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![RaftPeople](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6f9a4e/32.png) [@RaftPeople](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RaftPeople)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/21 "2011-07-22T20:01:26Z")
> [@Rand\_Rover](#): > > 3 . . . you accidentally kill a hooker. +1 I like the cut of your jib. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/22 "2011-07-22T21:28:02Z")
Phone call I recieved this morning Drach, would you be willing to go down to the police dept to take possession of my handgun that was confiscated like 3 years ago. Apparently It can be released to a friend or relative who can legally possess a handgun, but since her gun rights will not be restored for another 4 years, SHE cannot pick it up personally. So I have to go down to the police dept, probably fill out a dozen odd forms, to take possession of a friends handgun, so it can be transferred back in 4 years or so. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/23 "2011-07-22T21:30:49Z")
> [@Kolga](#): > > People who not only help you move, but help you move knowing that you have about 100 heavy boxes of books to move (not an exaggeration). Hell, that was a slow day at one of my old jobs (Scholastic book fairs). ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/24 "2011-07-22T21:40:47Z")
As a teen, my best friend saved me from drowning. Doesn’t get much better than that. ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/25 "2011-07-22T21:47:55Z")
The moving thing, yeah. Also - a real friend is someone who you can trust with your house key to water plants/feed cats/care for the dogs when you are out of town. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/26 "2011-07-22T21:59:11Z")
When they’re willing to suffer around you. We went over to a friend’s house and she was having an argument with her boyfriend. Once we had some private space she told me all about it, and she started crying. Then she apologized and they both asked us to leave because it was such a hard night for them. She contacted me later to apologize profusely for being such a downer, but personally I was honored she trusted me enough to be honest. We’ve gotten closer because of it. ---
**Author:** ![Uncle\_Brother\_Walker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f08c70/32.png) [@Uncle\_Brother\_Walker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncle_Brother_Walker)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/27 "2011-07-22T22:52:20Z")
> [@jz78817](#): > > w/o getting into specifics, I’ve learned that as far as “friends” go, nobody has my back, and as a result nobody hangs out either. Amen to that. I won’t tell tales out of school, but I’ve recently dissolved friendships with two couples and my best friend. These relationships are 10+ years old. It sucks to find out what a person’s true colors are. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/28 "2011-07-22T22:59:07Z")
> [@TreacherousCretin](#): > > A Friend With Weed Is A Friend Indeed. Preach ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/29 "2011-07-22T23:47:57Z")
I actually just told this to someone yesterday (a lucky Doper, in fact ;)): A friend of mine didn’t just help me move, she pretty much moved for me. She was like a tiny little moving machine who seemed to make all of my items teleport into efficiently packed labeled boxes, helped clean, and --this is the real shit-- cleaned my toilet. That is love, dude. Also, while I was going through pretty much the worst break up ever (okay, maybe not Ever, but it completely consumed me), as horrible as I felt every moment, going home alone every night was killing me inside. My friend dutifully invited me over everyday for weeks just so I didn’t have to be alone. I finally started turning down the invitations soon before the need to be next to someone ended just because I felt like I was intruding. I cannot even measure how much that helped, and it’s easily the kindest thing anyone has ever done for me. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/30 "2011-07-23T01:02:22Z")
When you let me (a straight woman) go on a week’s vacation with your husband and think nothing of the fact that we’ve got to share a king-sized bed. Did it 2 weeks ago, and that married couple are totally my very best friends. Not one ounce of jealousy or inappropriate thinking amongst us 3. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/31 "2011-07-23T01:22:12Z")
Stolen from Chris Rock, “when you’re broke and someone still wants to hang out with you, that person really wants to hang out with you.” ---
**Author:** ![dada2fish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ccd318/32.png) [@dada2fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dada2fish)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/32 "2011-07-23T01:24:11Z")
I think I’m pretty much friendless then. I don’t think I have one person who’d help me in a pinch. My family, yes. Friends, no. I had long term friends in the past that I decided to cut out of my life because they weren’t the friends I thought they were. One of these ex-friends I had known since we were 2 years old. In our early 30’s, an incident happened that showed didn’t have such a deep relationship like I thought we should have after knowing each other for so long. Maybe I have higher standards for what a friend is. Naively, I thought I could easily find more people to become friends with, but I haven’t. Just like the other thread, the older you get the harder it is to find people you enjoy hanging out with. ---
**Author:** ![Lissla\_Lissar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lissla\_Lissar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissla_Lissar)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/33 "2011-07-23T01:49:37Z")
We have totally awesome friends. A real friend will take care of you when you have swine flu, regularly clean your fridge for you (okay, that friend is a little OCD), hold you during your epidural, clean your bathroom, help bring up your kids, go to diabetes education with to learn to take care of your kids, help you move, help pull you through depression, come over and make dinner when you’re too exhausted/sick to move, organize meals brought during bedrest. Yeah. Best friends ever. Erm, this sort of makes it sound like we do nothing but let our friends wait on us hand and foot. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/34 "2011-07-23T01:56:00Z")
Your real friends are the ones you can call at three in the morning. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/35 "2011-07-23T01:57:04Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > When you let me (a straight woman) go on a week’s vacation with your husband and think nothing of the fact that we’ve got to share a king-sized bed. > > Did it 2 weeks ago, and that married couple are totally my very best friends. Not one ounce of jealousy or inappropriate thinking amongst us 3. Ok so … REALLY??? “No inappropriate thinking” as in there was no swinging going on? Is this a gay married couple or something? Seriously - how? Why? Really?? _wanders off, confused …_ Hansel? HANsel? ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/36 "2011-07-23T02:00:42Z")
No, really. We’re 3 30-somethings who have been a trio of best friends almost as long as they’ve been dating-then-married. I don’t like him “in that way” and he’s only got eyes for her and she is not jealous of me. He’s more like my girlfriend than she is. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/37 "2011-07-23T02:50:26Z")
Ok, that part I get … I’m just trying to wrap my head around the whole sharing-a-bed thing. I mean … were there no rooms with two beds? Some kinda mishap when the reservations were made? ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/38 "2011-07-23T02:59:14Z")
> [@PandaBear77](#): > > Ok, that part I get … I’m just trying to wrap my head around the whole sharing-a-bed thing. > > I mean … were there no rooms with two beds? Some kinda mishap when the reservations were made? Last minute business trip for him, on which I tagged along as a sightseer. They said “sorry only king rooms available” and he said “ok, no prob.” ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/39 "2011-07-23T22:45:47Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > The traditional answer concerns a snake-bite on your penis that needs to have the venom sucked out immediately… I normally don’t put a price on friendship…and yet here we are. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2011, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938/40 "2011-07-23T23:09:01Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > Stolen from Chris Rock, “when you’re broke and someone still wants to hang out with you, that person really wants to hang out with you.” Would that still apply to a pretty girl and a guy with a paycheck in his pocket. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-know-who-your-real-friends-are-when/589938.md?page=3)