# You tried to kill my dog you horrific, awful person **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 29, 2005, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047 "2005-08-29T02:31:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Leviosaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/439d5e/32.png) [@Leviosaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leviosaurus)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/21 "2005-08-29T15:07:58Z")
> [@Leviosaurus](#): > > Fair question. No, I’ve never given her any shit at all, and I’ve been nothing but polite but firm whenever I’ve talked to her since - including the time I sent her an email telling her the cops were out looking for her. > > If anything, I’ve been way too nice, which is what results in her trying to get back in contact with me every few months to restart our relationship. Something I’m certain she will do again shortly. I thought of a post script to this - even if I were polite, she still potentially would have felt like a loser who was unable to care for the dog. So it was emotionally easier on her just to kill it then, huh? ---
**Author:** ![Leviosaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/439d5e/32.png) [@Leviosaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leviosaurus)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/22 "2005-08-29T15:17:31Z")
> [@mischievous](#): > > Can you ask the pound to contact the new owners, and see if they would be willing to give you your dog back? I’m sure the pound would not give you the new owners’ phone number, but they might be willing to get in touch on your behalf. If you explain your emotional attachment and offer to repay their adopting fees, the new owners might well agree to return the dog to you. > > Good luck. > > mischievous I have to be honest with myself - the reason I haven’t adopted a new dog is because I work crazy hours and am out of town a lot. If I got my dog back, I’d explain to my boss that I needed to make a lifestyle change to take care of him better, but I bet the poor guy would end up home alone more than he would like. The dog owners at my work actually bring their dogs to work and keep them in their cars. (The lot is covered, no sunshine, so don’t freak out.) They walk their dogs at lunchtime and on breaks and the rest of the time the dogs wait in the car. I suppose that’s technically better than leaving your dog at home in a crate all day, but I just won’t do that. A dog should have room to run. My ideal solution would be to give him to the four year old down the street who worships him. That way I could stop by and take him jogging with me every day and take him hiking on the weekends, and the rest of the time he’d be playing with a group of little kids who would think he was awesome. I imagine that would be doggy heaven (although I bet the little girl would make him wear a dress occasionally and sit at a tea table with her stuffed animals. Hey, everybody’s got a cross to bear.) Since I’m being honest with myself, I couldn’t in good conscience take him away from a family that already saved him once. I sure wish I knew who they were, though. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/23 "2005-08-29T15:22:15Z")
You sound like the sort of person who should have a dog just because you know why you shouldn’t right now. That sucks. I don’t have one right now for several good reasons, and I really really really really want one. I’m glad the doggy is okay. She couldn’t have called you? Even if you couldn’t have kept him, you were the other person involved. Sheesh. ---
**Author:** ![Leviosaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/439d5e/32.png) [@Leviosaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leviosaurus)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/24 "2005-08-29T15:26:25Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > Sorry, just the vibe I got from the thread was a bit intimidating in favour of crucifying the ex Everyone who has come down on the side of crucifying the ex, thanks for commiserating! I feel better knowing I’m not the only one who feels this way. For you two who aren’t in favor of crucifying the ex, what the hell are you thinking? If I wanted her side of the argument rationalized, I certainly wouldn’t be posting this in an online forum, and I sure as HELL wouldn’t be posting it in the BBQ pit! I posted here for some gratutious flameage in my ex’s direction! Take your rationality, your objectivity and your stupid logic to GQ or something! danged lousy pit moralists… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Leviosaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/439d5e/32.png) [@Leviosaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leviosaurus)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/25 "2005-08-29T15:38:30Z")
> [@whiterabbit](#): > > You sound like the sort of person who should have a dog just because you know why you shouldn’t right now. That sucks. I don’t have one right now for several good reasons, and I really really really really want one. > > I’m glad the doggy is okay. She couldn’t have called you? Even if you couldn’t have kept him, you were the other person involved. Sheesh. Thanks, **Whiterabbit**. I understand exactly where you’re coming from. I’m lucky I’m close to a good offleash dog park, where I can go and play with random dogs occasionally. I’m going to start going more regularly, that’s my best bet for running into my dog and his new owners 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Dante](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dante/32/9673_2.png) [@Dante](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dante)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/26 "2005-08-29T16:17:01Z")
> [@Leviosaurus](#): > > If anything, I’ve been way too nice, which is what results in her trying to get back in contact with me every few months to restart our relationship. Something I’m certain she will do again shortly. When she does, tell her you’ve thought it over, and you’d love it if you, she, and Fluffy could be one happy family again… ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/27 "2005-08-29T16:28:09Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > At least she did the righteous thing and took the dog to a shelter. If she was the complete bitch you make her out to be, she would have dumped him. Why is taking the dog to a pound, where he is very likely to be euthanized, the righteous thing to do when a much better option was available? > [@the OP](#): > > You could have given him [to] your best friend whose main hobby is _adopting and_ _finding homes for unclaimed pets_ fer crissakes. She’s a bitch, and deserves the ration of shit she got here. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/28 "2005-08-29T17:12:22Z")
> [@Dante](#): > > When she does, tell her you’ve thought it over, and you’d love it if you, she, and Fluffy could be one happy family again… I can see this leading to sitcom like hijinks when she tries to find a doggy replacement. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/29 "2005-08-29T18:59:49Z")
> [@Leviosaurus](#): > > For you two who aren’t in favor of crucifying the ex, what the hell are you thinking? What were you thinking in leaving the dog with her? I read your OP over a few times after my initial time in getting it wrong. Looks to me like it was a disaster you knew was in the making. ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/30 "2005-08-29T19:10:41Z")
> [@Monty](#): > > What were you thinking in leaving the dog with her? I’d say something like, “Let’s get this nutcase out of here ASAP!” ---
**Author:** ![GrizzRich](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7ba0ec/32.png) [@GrizzRich](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrizzRich)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/31 "2005-08-29T19:54:01Z")
GAH! I mean…gah! ---
**Author:** ![Leviosaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/439d5e/32.png) [@Leviosaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leviosaurus)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/32 "2005-08-29T22:15:04Z")
> [@Monty](#): > > What were you thinking in leaving the dog with her? I read your OP over a few times after my initial time in getting it wrong. Looks to me like it was a disaster you knew was in the making. Fair comment. It was an extremely difficult decision. one that I’ve been paying for in grief ever since. I wish I could have seen a different way out of it but I couldn’t. I certainly didn’t anticipate her intentionally doing something like this, but this is a criticism I fully accept. Now that’s out of the way, can we proceed with the crucifixion? ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2005, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/33 "2005-08-30T00:35:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Now that’s out of the way, can we proceed with the crucifixion? Oi. Can one of youse pop down to the hardware store? Seems we’re bung out of nails 'ere. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2005, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/34 "2005-08-30T00:56:04Z")
> [@Dante](#): > > When she does, tell her you’ve thought it over, and you’d love it if you, she, and Fluffy could be one happy family again… I would pay money to hear how she responds to this. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2005, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/35 "2005-08-30T01:30:03Z")
> [@Leviosaurus](#): > > Fair comment. It was an extremely difficult decision. one that I’ve been paying for in grief ever since. I wish I could have seen a different way out of it but I couldn’t. I certainly didn’t anticipate her intentionally doing something like this, but this is a criticism I fully accept. > > Now that’s out of the way, can we proceed with the crucifixion? Which crucifixion? I look at the OP and I see you reacting to a lot of rumor also. ---
**Author:** ![Tenar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@Tenar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tenar)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2005, 7:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/36 "2005-08-30T07:22:41Z")
> [@Leviosaurus](#): > > Since I’m being honest with myself, I couldn’t in good conscience take him away from a family that already saved him once. I sure wish I knew who they were, though. Perhaps you could, as posters above suggested, ask the pound to ,mail the adoptees an (unsealed, so they could review it) letter from you thanking them for saving your former pet and giving them your name and address so they could contact you in case some kind of emergency forced them to part with your him/her **in the future**. That way, you wouldn’t be disrupting his new home, and you would be helping to ensure that he would never be threatened with the pound again. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2005, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/37 "2005-08-31T14:12:19Z")
> [@Monty](#): > > Which crucifixion? I look at the OP and I see you reacting to a lot of rumor also. I think **Leviosaurus** means the crucifixion of his ex. ---
**Author:** ![lorinada](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b5e925/32.png) [@lorinada](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorinada)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2005, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/38 "2005-08-31T14:25:40Z")
I’m just wondering…why the cops would be looking for her for a five-figure debt…when being in debt hasn’t been a crime in, like, a century? Can anyone 'splain that to me? ---
**Author:** ![Leviosaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/439d5e/32.png) [@Leviosaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leviosaurus)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2005, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/39 "2005-08-31T15:40:33Z")
If you don’t pay your debts at all and don’t respond to creditors, it’s fraud. Let me put it this way: suppose I ask you to loan me $50,000. Then suppose I don’t pay it back, or ever intend to. Is that legal? ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2005, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047/40 "2005-08-31T15:54:35Z")
Huh? When I worked for a credit bureau, I distinctly remember the only recourse the creditor having was not a charge of fraud, but rather a civil suit regarding unpaid debts. So, when’s the last time someone got arrested for an unpaid debt? Or did you just pull that out of your hat? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/you-tried-to-kill-my-dog-you-horrific-awful-person/319047.md?page=3)