# Young married couples single inlaw parents hook up with each other. Illegal or just oogy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 19, 2009, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143 "2009-11-19T14:21:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/41 "2009-11-19T19:18:00Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > I’m imagining a bunch of 50-foot tall triangles marauding around downtown Manhatten, stomping people and knocking over buildings. “I am almightly Isosceles! Bow before me!” Triangle man, triangle man Triangle man hates person man They have a fight, triangle wins Triangle man ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/42 "2009-11-19T19:22:40Z")
What if I marry a woman who already has a son, and her son hits it off with my mom? Is it oogy yet? ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/43 "2009-11-19T19:31:40Z")
Is anyone else finding the use of the word “oogy” to be, well…oogy? ---
**Author:** ![Rick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@Rick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/44 "2009-11-19T19:36:17Z")
So when I was a kid the 64 year old guy across the street married an 18 year girl. A few months later his adult son (in his 40s) started dating the bride’s mother (also in her 40s) they didn’t get married but just think of who would have been related to who if they had. ---
**Author:** ![filling\_pages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9bd4f/32.png) [@filling\_pages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/filling_pages)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/45 "2009-11-19T19:37:40Z")
Happened in my family as well. Mom’s mom was divorced, step dad’s dad was widowed, they hit it off and got married. Yep, that makes my mom and stepdad step brother and sister. Cue redneck jokes. (I also dated my sister’s husband’s sister for a while. The less said about that the better.) ---
**Author:** ![shorin-ryu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3d9bf3/32.png) [@shorin-ryu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shorin-ryu)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/46 "2009-11-19T19:41:18Z")
My mother’s father’s mother (a widow) married my mother’s mother’s father (a widower). They met when her parents got married. Never seemed particularly oogy to me. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/47 "2009-11-19T19:56:41Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > Oh sure, fine. Let them have _two_ famous wanton monsters. Here I am, trying to give the good ol’ U.S.A. something we can be proud of, and you’ve gotta go stomp it all to hell. Why do you hate freedom? Why? No, no. The wonton monster is in Beijing. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/48 "2009-11-19T20:38:48Z")
Why on earth would you think it was illegal? Did you mean immoral? It would make for a great slapstick movie if it was illegal though. Imagine two enemies whose parents are set to marry. They hate the idea of being related so much that they rush to marry each other first. Then they find true love. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/49 "2009-11-19T21:13:14Z")
> [@Heart\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > IANAL, but based on the fact that a [pair](http://www.suncommercial.com/articles/2009/10/30/entertainment/doc4ae102c98c7ef372855400.txt) of [siblings](http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/5270314/Sisters-marry-brothers-on-the-same-day.html) can marry another [pair](http://www.bostonimages.com/blog/2009/07/30/ryoko-gordon-mariko-shotaro-twin-sisters-marry-brothers/) of [siblings](http://www.shropshirestar.com/2008/10/30/two-sisters-marry-two-brothers/), I can’t imagine that it would be a problem. Two of my classmates had identical full names: two-word firstname, first lastname and second lastname. They had different hair colors, so we used that to tell them apart. Apparently the two sisters who’d married two brothers from their same village and gotten pregnant with boys within 24h of each other just had to go and give the two boys the same firstname… ---
**Author:** ![myskepticsight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@myskepticsight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/myskepticsight)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/50 "2009-11-19T21:22:22Z")
I think it’s oogy. If my parents were not together and my SO’s parents were not together, then a mixture of our parents got together I would find it very awkward and creepy. I guess I think there should only be one relationship consisting of people from 2 nuclear families. To me, if you show up at the same family function because of who you are related to, then you should not fuck (obviously marriages excluded). Luckily my parents and my boyfriend’s parents are both still married and would make the WORST couples ever they are so completely different. I haven’t even made an effort for them to meet yet because I am pretty sure they will not like each other. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/51 "2009-11-19T22:36:27Z")
> [@Heart\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > IANAL, but based on the fact that a [pair](http://www.suncommercial.com/articles/2009/10/30/entertainment/doc4ae102c98c7ef372855400.txt) of [siblings](http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/5270314/Sisters-marry-brothers-on-the-same-day.html) can marry another [pair](http://www.bostonimages.com/blog/2009/07/30/ryoko-gordon-mariko-shotaro-twin-sisters-marry-brothers/) of [siblings](http://www.shropshirestar.com/2008/10/30/two-sisters-marry-two-brothers/), I can’t imagine that it would be a problem. Oh, I forgot to mention the fact that my paternal grandmother and her sister married my paternal grandfather and his brother. So my paternal grandmother (the only grandmother I ever knew) was first married to her own brother-in-law. Then widowed, and remarried to the father of her daughter-in-law (my mother). Then widowed again . . . and had the good sense to remarry a total stranger this time. ---
**Author:** ![Shmendrik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Shmendrik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shmendrik)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/52 "2009-11-19T22:49:12Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I don’t think it’s oogy at all, and if it’s illegal anywhere other than Bronze Age Palestine, it shouldn’t be. It wasn’t illegal in Bronze Age Israel/Judea, if you’re referring to the Old Testament. ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/53 "2009-11-19T23:08:11Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I don’t think it’s oogy at all, and if it’s illegal anywhere other than Bronze Age Palestine, it shouldn’t be. Not even there. Leviticus allows for FIRST cousins, even! ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2009, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/54 "2009-11-19T23:35:13Z")
> [@Giles](#): > > That is, Miki’s mother marries Yuu’s father, and Miki’s father marries Yuu’s mother. Something like this almost happened with my parents. Mom and Dad split up. Mom married Stepfather. For a while, it looked like Dad was going to marry Stepfather’s Ex. It didn’t happen, but if it had, I would have referred to it as ‘the knot in the family tree’. And another thing… I have two friends M and D. Buddies, known each other for years, worked together, etc, etc. M marries C. D marries C’s daughter B. So these two friends are also son-in-law/father-in-law. I think. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/55 "2009-11-20T00:11:21Z")
At my school we have 6 kids that are all double cousins to each other: 2 brothers married 2 sisters and each had a kid a year for three years in a row, so now there are 2 freshmen, 2 sophomores, and 2 juniors, all with the same last name and a strong family resemblance. ---
**Author:** ![thirdwarning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecccb3/32.png) [@thirdwarning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thirdwarning)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/56 "2009-11-20T01:10:28Z")
I think my father had two sets of double cousins. Two of his mother’s siblings married two of his father’s siblings. I don’t know if the cousins resembled each other, or not, because I never met them that I know of. It was a long time ago. ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/57 "2009-11-20T02:38:15Z")
A girl in my younger brother’s grade married her stepbrother (who was one grade above my brother) Not oogy in principle, but there’s more. They got married about three months after graduation, and she had a baby about three months after that… do the math. That’s kind of oogy. He got her knocked up while they were both living together, under their parent’s roof, as “brother and sister”-ish. Ick. ---
**Author:** ![Darryl\_Lict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7cd45c/32.png) [@Darryl\_Lict](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darryl_Lict)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/58 "2009-11-20T03:27:32Z")
I don’t think this has been mentioned yet, but Bill Wyman of the Rolling Stones has had an interesting relationship. According to this [site](http://www.celebrityrockstarguitars.com/rock/wyman.htm): > [@](#): > > At age 47, Bill Wyman, began a relationship with 13-year old Mandy Smith, with her mother’s blessing. Six years later, they were married, but the marriage only lasted a year. Not long after, Bill’s 30-year-old son, Stephen, married Mandy’s mother, age 46. That made Stephen a stepfather to his former stepmother. If Bill and Mandy had remained married, Stephen would have been his father’s father-in-law and his own grandpa. This is a bit oogy to me, but apparently not illegal (I’m not sure about the age of consent in the U.K. but I don’t think he was ever arrested.). ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/59 "2009-11-20T04:52:32Z")
> [@astro](#): > > If a young married couple’s single parent in laws are introduced to each other. Say the married husband’s (single or divorced) mother and the married wife’s (single or divorced) father and these single in-law parents take a shine to each other and start having a physical relationship, is this illegal in any way? I apologize for the drive-by posting, but you’ve just described a reality in my family. My mother’s mother married my stepfather’s adopted father – though the older couple married first, so it was more like my mother met her stepbrother and then they got married. Now that my step-father and my mother are divorced, well, it’s kind of an issue. When a social worker disclosed to my family the fact that my step-father had abused me, my mother’s mother would not hear it and still hasn’t taken it in nearly a decade later. Why would she? She’s married to his Dad! She has my stepfather over for dinner regularly. He is a member of my family forever. And I will probably have to see him at my grandfather’s funeral, which really sucks because I would be happy never to have to see him or hear about him for the rest of my life. I realize my family had no way of knowing how complex and messed up this issue would get, but I’m generally opposed to these kind of pairings for basically that reason. It’s not illegal. ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143/60 "2009-11-20T05:06:43Z")
> [@astro](#): > > If a young married couple’s single parent in laws are introduced to each other. Say the married husband’s (single or divorced) mother and the married wife’s (single or divorced) father and these single in-law parents take a shine to each other and start having a physical relationship, is this illegal in any way? I have friends who did this. Husband and wife got married; her mother and his father (both widowed) started dating and later married. > [@Ferret\_Herder](#): > > I wouldn’t find the OP’s situation oogy. Oogy would be your single parent trying to hook up with the sibling of your spouse. I used to work with a woman in this situation. Her daughter got married, and my co-worker started dating her new son-in-law’s brother. They ended up getting married. She liked to joke about her daughter also being her sister-in-law. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/young-married-couples-single-inlaw-parents-hook-up-with-each-other-illegal-or-just-oogy/518143.md?page=4)