# Your child - planned? \[edited title\] **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 2, 2011, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527 "2011-05-02T23:51:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2011, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527/81 "2011-05-05T21:15:32Z")
Two, both quite planned (adoption again). Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![maggenpye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecc23a/32.png) [@maggenpye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggenpye)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2011, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527/82 "2011-05-05T21:24:48Z")
I’ve said it several times before, but it bears repeating - She’s the best surprise I ever got. ---
**Author:** ![YaraMateo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/58f4c7/32.png) [@YaraMateo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaraMateo)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2011, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527/83 "2011-05-05T21:29:51Z")
> [@soulmurk](#): > > My wife became pregnant with our son within weeks of our starting dating… so yeah, unplanned. Turns out I wasn’t that great at the withdrawal part of the withdrawal method. Probably had something to do with all the beer… > > Our daughter was also unplanned, but I strongly suspect I was the only one not planning for her. We were pretty successfully using the rhythm method, but I believe my rhythm was deliberately thrown off. > If you were wondering, or laughing, we use protection now. I insist. She’s always said she wants three… She’s certainly crafty. hehe ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Woo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7c8e57/32.png) [@Dr.Woo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Woo)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2011, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527/84 "2011-05-05T21:36:46Z")
One child, definitely not planned. Sixteen year-olds don’t plan for shit. My two siblings and I were also not planned and were born in spite of three different birth control methods. Nature bats last, people. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2011, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527/85 "2011-05-05T22:10:33Z")
One child, planned. And to be fair, we didn’t experience any fertility issues, we were newlyweds when I got knocked up, I I know _EXACTLY_ when I ovulate. (I get pretty bad cramping on one side or the other and then 14 days later - period.) Sooo, even though we were having sex pretty well every day (newlyweds) we knew exactly when I was ovulating and had, erm, more sex then. Happened the second time we tried. I attribute it not happening the first time to the fact that I was taking ibuprofen for pain relief at the time and read on here that its regular use can make conception difficult so I stopped for a month and BLAMMO! Blammo is now 9 months old. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2011, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527/86 "2011-05-06T03:14:32Z")
Really bad planning. My husband and I talked before we were married and thought having three would be just right. So we had twins 13 months after we got married. Didn’t think it would happen that quickly. When they turned four we thought we’d get that third one in just as the twins started school. Pain and Heartache are 24 years old now and we are still waiting for that third kid. ---
**Author:** ![sinjin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ebca7d/32.png) [@sinjin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sinjin)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2011, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527/87 "2011-05-06T03:40:47Z")
> [@YaraMateo](#): > > It depends on how you define planned. If planned means the couple wanted a child and was in a good place for them, many of my friends and coworkers fit planned child/children. However, if you’re taking planned to mean every time prior to impregnantion, it was the goal of their love making, then I don’t know anyone personally who fits this who didn’t have some type of fertile problem. Even then, that’s only one couple I know personally. \ Heh, we fit into your second group without the fertile problem. Must be the engineering mindset. Didn’t want kids, used birth control. When we wanted kiddies we went for it. For the first kid we were told we had to wait two months after stopping bc to start trying. It took us, OMG, two whole months after that to conceive. (Read somewhere that every other day is better than every day and went on that schedule, oh the pain of those other days.) For the second kid, we weren’t using the bc pill so when the time was right we stopped the other kind of bc and went back on the every other day schedule. Within one cycle I was preggers, w00t. One day after the second kid’s birth I got a tubal ligation. Life is good. ---
**Author:** ![ENugent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/4af34b/32.png) [@ENugent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ENugent)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2011, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527/88 "2011-05-06T05:42:31Z")
First, planned. Second, planned like the royal wedding - IVF and nine weeks in the hospital at the end leading to a scheduled C-section. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-child-planned-edited-title/580527.md?page=4)