# Your GF/Wife passes out during mid coitus: D you finish? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 22, 2015, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601 "2015-05-22T16:52:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2015, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/81 "2015-05-22T23:48:07Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Read post three. I have, in fact, though not before my earlier post. My point still stands. Your question is not simply absurd, but also prurient , stupid, offensive, implicitly misogynistic, and overall indicatie of a need for electroshock. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/82 "2015-05-23T00:13:03Z")
For those interested, I’ve made a formal apology [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=18384973&postcount=17). Sorry for my offensive OP, and my subsequent defensiveness afterwords. I’ll make it a point to do better in the future. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/83 "2015-05-23T00:15:18Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Look, my ex wife has woken me up with BJs. does that mean I was raped? I didn’t give consent. Also, I’ve seen this before, and there’s a hugely important difference. Waking up a partner with sex–especially oral sex–is done with the intent and expectation of giving the recipient a delightful surprise. It’s extraordinarily unlikely someone would continue the act for their own personal pleasure if the recipient remained unresponsive. The expectation is that the recipient will wake up soon into the process and be appreciative and enthusiastic. Someone who completed oral sex on an unresponsive partner, for their own pleasure, would be incredibly creepy. Continuing to have sex with a partner who went unconscious is a purely selfish act. It’s done for the perpetrator’s pleasure in complete disregard for the recipient’s pleasure. There’s no expectation that the recipient will at any point be happy about the proceedings. The first one is somewhat risky behavior: you better know your partner won’t freak out. The second one is selfish asshole behavior: you better hope your partner won’t press charges. ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/84 "2015-05-23T01:17:44Z")
Yes, I don’t understand the hesitancy. No, actually, I do understand, but, still, I believe the OP’s question does raise an interesting conundrum, and it can go in any direction gender-wise: what if your spouse tells you, before the fact, _“honey, as you know, I’m prone to getting drunk and passing out at the drop of a hat. I know you have a high libido. You have my blessing to ravage my unconscious body to your hearts content in the event I’m passed out, and you’re horny. In fact, it will turn me on to hear about your exploits the following morning."_ Still rape? Still something reprehensible? Why, or why not? Actually, this is very close to a hypothetical I was thinking of posting myself a while back: What if you found your “soul-mate” and he, or she, likewise believed they found their “soul-mate” in you—with every important marriage criteria, except for one: one future-spouse likes sex; the other abhors it. But, the future spouse who abhors sex has a magical ability: he or she can, at will, become a zombie, and engage in sex indistinguishable to a non-zombie, but in actuality be completely non-conscious of the sexual act. The zombie-enabled future spouse tells the other: _“I love you. I know you love me. I know you want sex, but I can’t stand it. I don’t want that single criterion to ruin our prospects for a happy marriage. When you want sex, I’ll turn my consciousness off. In essence you will be having sex with a decerebrate, but you won’t know the difference because my body responds to sexual arousal autonomically, and you will have my blessing to proceed."_ Questions: would you marry your “soul mate” under this condition? Would you have sex with him or her? Would you enjoy it? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/85 "2015-05-23T02:08:49Z")
_meh_ Women routinely pass out when I do them. ---
**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/86 "2015-05-23T02:32:44Z")
If I’m willing to do her at all when she’s in such a condition that she might pass out mid-coitus, I ain’t gonna let that eventuality stop me. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/87 "2015-05-23T02:36:12Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > For those interested, I’ve made a formal apology [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=18384973&postcount=17). > > Sorry for my offensive OP, and my subsequent defensiveness afterwords. I’ll make it a point to do better in the future. Thanks dude. Seriously. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/88 "2015-05-23T02:38:59Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > Yes, I don’t understand the hesitancy. > > No, actually, I do understand, but, still, I believe the OP’s question does raise an interesting conundrum, and it can go in any direction gender-wise: what if your spouse tells you, before the fact, _“honey, as you know, I’m prone to getting drunk and passing out at the drop of a hat. I know you have a high libido. You have my blessing to ravage my unconscious body to your hearts content in the event I’m passed out, and you’re horny. In fact, it will turn me on to hear about your exploits the following morning."_ > > Still rape? Still something reprehensible? Why, or why not? > > Actually, this is very close to a hypothetical I was thinking of posting myself a while back: What if you found your “soul-mate” and he, or she, likewise believed they found their “soul-mate” in you—with every important marriage criteria, except for one: one future-spouse likes sex; the other abhors it. > > But, the future spouse who abhors sex has a magical ability: he or she can, at will, become a zombie, and engage in sex indistinguishable to a non-zombie, but in actuality be completely non-conscious of the sexual act. > > The zombie-enabled future spouse tells the other: _“I love you. I know you love me. I know you want sex, but I can’t stand it. I don’t want that single criterion to ruin our prospects for a happy marriage. When you want sex, I’ll turn my consciousness off. In essence you will be having sex with a decerebrate, but you won’t know the difference because my body responds to sexual arousal autonomically, and you will have my blessing to proceed."_ > > Questions: would you marry your “soul mate” under this condition? Would you have sex with him or her? Would you enjoy it? I think your hypothetical, as posed, is so completely outlandish, as to be dismissed out of hand as overthinking a very niche situation (i.e. none that may ever exist). ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/89 "2015-05-23T02:39:48Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > Yes, I don’t understand the hesitancy. > > No, actually, I do understand, but, still, I believe the OP’s question does raise an interesting conundrum, and it can go in any direction gender-wise: what if your spouse tells you, before the fact, _“honey, as you know, I’m prone to getting drunk and passing out at the drop of a hat. I know you have a high libido. You have my blessing to ravage my unconscious body to your hearts content in the event I’m passed out, and you’re horny. In fact, it will turn me on to hear about your exploits the following morning."_ > > Still rape? Still something reprehensible? Why, or why not? > > A Nope, and I said so to GrumpyBunny:_And in this case, since you as partners know, understand and are both good with it, it’s not a issue._ but as I also said: _But the rest of us are thinking of a unknown and unplanned passing out. No way does any sane person continue on._ ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/90 "2015-05-23T02:58:19Z")
You pass out when you find your GF/wife mid-coitus. Does she finish? ---
**Author:** ![tnetennba](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7993a0/32.png) [@tnetennba](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tnetennba)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/91 "2015-05-23T03:08:38Z")
OK, now this: what do you do if your wife passes out during sex, then your friend’s daughter comes storming in and tries to have her way with you? ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/92 "2015-05-23T03:10:13Z")
Dudes, can we give the Op a break now? He apologized. ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/93 "2015-05-23T03:17:46Z")
Apologized? No, he backpedalled, promising to tone down the skeeve in the future. Not the same thing. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/94 "2015-05-23T03:19:34Z")
> [@MichaelEmouse](#): > > How would you be getting yours in those circumstances? Well, since you asked, because I orgasm from intercourse easily and pretty quickly. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/95 "2015-05-23T03:27:52Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > Yes, I don’t understand the hesitancy. > > No, actually, I do understand, but, still, I believe the OP’s question does raise an interesting conundrum, and it can go in any direction gender-wise: what if your spouse tells you, before the fact, _“honey, as you know, I’m prone to getting drunk and passing out at the drop of a hat. I know you have a high libido. You have my blessing to ravage my unconscious body to your hearts content in the event I’m passed out, and you’re horny. In fact, it will turn me on to hear about your exploits the following morning."_ > > Still rape? Still something reprehensible? Why, or why not? No, not rape. That is an adult discussing acceptable boundaries with his/her partner. People should do more of that. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/96 "2015-05-23T05:58:06Z")
Is it Rape Month already? ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/97 "2015-05-23T07:28:05Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > The zombie-enabled future spouse tells the other: _“I love you. I know you love me. I know you want sex, but I can’t stand it. I don’t want that single criterion to ruin our prospects for a happy marriage. When you want sex, I’ll turn my consciousness off. In essence you will be having sex with a decerebrate, but you won’t know the difference because my body responds to sexual arousal autonomically, and you will have my blessing to proceed."_ > > Questions: would you marry your “soul mate” under this condition? Would you have sex with him or her? Would you enjoy it? If I wanted sex with an inanimate object I’d either buy a rubber doll or a piece of liver. So, yech. ---
**Author:** ![Rune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e68b1a/32.png) [@Rune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rune)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/98 "2015-05-23T08:12:00Z")
Pussy is pussy. And at least you don’t have to be bothered by her stupid moaning. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 8:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/99 "2015-05-23T08:16:13Z")
Obvious troll is obvious ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 9:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/100 "2015-05-23T09:39:20Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > There are quite a few posters on the forum who will insist that it is. They firmly believe that consent has to be given at the time, every time, after a drug test, a psychological evaluation and a peace officer all ensure that there is no compromised consent. Once the notary verifies everyone’s signatures and birth certificates, you’re good to go. And that’s just for a handshake. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601.md?page=6)