# Your GF/Wife passes out during mid coitus: D you finish? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 22, 2015, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601 "2015-05-22T16:52:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 9:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/101 "2015-05-23T09:41:09Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I have, in fact, though not before my earlier post. My point still stands. Your question is not simply absurd, but also prurient , stupid, offensive, implicitly misogynistic, and overall indicatie of a need for electroshock. If **Skald** says you’re doing hypotheticals wrong, you’re definitely doing it wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 10:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/102 "2015-05-23T10:55:47Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > Surely you’ve read all the legal forms, had both your attorneys give them a once over and carefully looked over any addendums or riders before signing your Coitus Agreement? That matter is surely in one of the sections—page 7 or 8, I can’t recall exactly. https://www.youtube.com/embed/f--u_puzhGs?feature=oembed&wmode=opaque&list=RDf--u_puzhGs ---
**Author:** ![Rune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e68b1a/32.png) [@Rune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rune)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 11:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/103 "2015-05-23T11:59:28Z")
[![](https://img.youtube.com/vi/urS8GmwmeWQ/hqdefault.jpg "Cherry 2000 Dating") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urS8GmwmeWQ) ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 12:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/104 "2015-05-23T12:39:14Z")
> [@Rune](#): > > Pussy is pussy. And at least you don’t have to be bothered by her stupid moaning. That must get annoying. “Ohhhhhhh Rune… we musn’t! _Jeg er din mor_!” ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/105 "2015-05-23T14:31:55Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > I think your hypothetical, as posed, is so completely outlandish, as to be dismissed out of hand as overthinking a very niche situation (i.e. none that may ever exist). I’ll go a step further and say the chances of anyone having a spouse who can turn into a zombie, at will, is 0%. But, interesting questions can be gleaned from impossible scenarios (e.g. I don’t believe Einstein actually rode on a beam of light, but he teased a few interesting things out of that hypothetical). I don’t believe there are many people who would actually continue intercourse after their spouse passed out, with or without consent, despite the ~30% of men and women polled who indicate that it’s _ok_. Perhaps they would if it was just a few seconds to _“completion”_, and they are running on auto-drive and not thinking clearly. But, any longer than that and I think most of those 30% would stop for a combination of being concerned for the welfare of their spouse, and not enjoying having sex with someone who is unconscious. Immoral? That’s a fuzzier reason to stop. So, I think the more interesting question isn’t whether you would do it, or enjoy it, but whether you consider it to be immoral (or even illegal) for others to do it, with mutual consent. IOW, is it more the ambiguity of premeditated consent that you find questionable, or is it the act itself that you find repulsive or immoral? Is it immoral if you find it immoral, but the two consenting adults doing it don’t find it immoral? Should it be illegal? Well, certainly it is without consent because that’s rape. But, what if a police officer happened upon a couple having sex in a secluded area of, say, the forest, and the woman was obviously passed out. After the officer wakes the woman, she tells him that she passes out often, but that she has always given consent to her husband to finish his _business_ if that’s what they’re doing when she passes out. Except for both possibly getting a ticket for indecent exposure, should the man be charged with a crime? > [@Voyager](#): > > If I wanted sex with an inanimate object I’d either buy a rubber doll or a piece of liver. > So, yech. Liver? With or without fava beans: yech. ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/106 "2015-05-23T14:56:42Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > “Just where can I get away with sticking my dick?” Pro-tip: toaster= Bad Idea. ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/107 "2015-05-23T15:33:53Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Is it Rape Month already? Every month is rape month. Except October, which is “how come there’s no white history month, huh ?!” month. ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/108 "2015-05-23T15:51:24Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > That must get annoying. > > “Ohhhhhhh Rune… we musn’t! _Jeg er din mor_!” Probably more like; “Oh **Rune** , you should have been a dentist, I didn’t feel a thing.” ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/109 "2015-05-23T16:10:34Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > Liver? With or without fava beans: yech. Just trying to add a [literary flavor](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Portnoy%27s_Complaint) to this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Rune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e68b1a/32.png) [@Rune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rune)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/110 "2015-05-23T16:51:04Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > That must get annoying. > > “Ohhhhhhh Rune… we musn’t! _Jeg er din mor_!” I’m not Danish, I’m Faroese. Danish is a language for dogs and donkeys. No where near as bad as English of course, but still pretty bad. ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/111 "2015-05-23T16:57:09Z")
> [@Voyager](#): > > Just trying to add a [literary flavor](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Portnoy%27s_Complaint) to this thread. Thanks :mad:. I was going to make liver & onions, gravy, mashed potatoes and peas tonight. Not now. I’ll make a nice mutton stew, instead. There’s no sexual connotations with regard to sheep are there? > [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > _meh_ Women routinely pass out when I do them. Hmm, I thought only the readers of your posts did that. kidding 😃 ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/112 "2015-05-23T20:29:38Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > Thanks :mad:. I was going to make liver & onions, gravy, mashed potatoes and peas tonight. Not now. I’ll make a nice mutton stew, instead. There’s no sexual connotations with regard to sheep are there? Apparently you’re not Scottish. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/113 "2015-05-23T20:30:25Z")
I have experienced the hypothetical. For a couple of years in highschool, I dated a person who sometimes (but not always) had seizures/terrors when approaching orgasm, but had no recollection when she regained consciousness. She’d ask “Why’d you stop?” It took a few incidents before she started accepting that this was happening, and a few months before she got up enough courage to see her doctor, but there was never any diagnosis, so we don’t know if her limbic system was dysfunctional, or if some arteries were constricting, or if she had previously suffered abuse. She felt poorly that I would stop, and was adamant that I should keep going and finish, but I could never bring myself to continue. The best I could do was learn not to avoid sex with her just because sometimes it would end with her going off. We went on with our separate lives in separate places after high-school. Now, nearly forty years later, when we occasionally visit each other, we keep our clothes on and don’t get sexual. We hug a great deal, sleep cuddled up together, and often spend an entire day of our visits in bed together holding each other and talking, but we don’t go down the sex path. She wishes I would, and I wish I could. I don’t know if we’ll ever have sex again, but I expect that if we ever live in the same region again, we’ll work on it. C’est la vie. ---
**Author:** ![Subterraneanus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Subterraneanus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Subterraneanus)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/114 "2015-05-23T20:35:04Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Keep in mind, this is your GF or Wife. The two of you have had consensual sex hundreds of times. > > For whatever _non-life-threatening reasons_, your wife/gf passes out mid coitus\* You’re confident you only have about two or three pumps left before you get yours. > Do you finish? > \*Before anyone starts in on me: The word coitus is quite fitting for this particular hypothetical. What the fuck is wrong with you? ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/115 "2015-05-23T20:52:04Z")
> [@Muffin](#): > > I have experienced the hypothetical… Whooo… I was afraid you meant the zombie one for a second there. Seriously though, that’s sort of a sad tale. ---
**Author:** ![Belowjob2.0](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Belowjob2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Belowjob2.0)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/116 "2015-05-23T20:56:26Z")
Of course you finish. She’s your wife, that’s what she’s there for. Then you slap her in the face with your dick to wake her up. (How can she blow you if she’s not awake?) What do I win? ---
**Author:** ![desertmonk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/898d66/32.png) [@desertmonk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/desertmonk)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/117 "2015-05-23T21:11:16Z")
> [@Belowjob2.0](#): > > Of course you finish. She’s your wife, that’s what she’s there for. > > Then you slap her in the face with your dick to wake her up. > > (How can she blow you if she’s not awake?) > > What do I win? A tandem bicycle for you and your wife! ---
**Author:** ![Belowjob2.0](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Belowjob2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Belowjob2.0)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/118 "2015-05-23T21:21:12Z")
> [@desertmonk](#): > > A tandem bicycle for you and your wife! As long as she’s riding upfront. That way, she has to reach back to strangle me! ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2015, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/119 "2015-05-23T21:22:20Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > Apparently you’re not Scottish. Well, I’m half Scottish…and I do have a pet ewe. Well, she’s more of a [nudge nudge]companion[/nudge nudge] than a pet, if you know what I mean. But, I really don’t understand the point you’re trying to make? > [@Muffin](#): > > … She’d ask “Why’d you stop?”… C’mon now, bite-size mini **Muffin** … in reality she asked, _“Why didn’t you start”_, isn’t that right? ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/120 "2015-05-24T01:36:45Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > Thanks :mad:. I was going to make liver & onions, gravy, mashed potatoes and peas tonight. Not now. I’ll make a nice mutton stew, instead. There’s no sexual connotations with regard to sheep are there? \ What breed? \ 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601.md?page=7)