# Your GF/Wife passes out during mid coitus: D you finish? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 22, 2015, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601 "2015-05-22T16:52:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![wolfman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a8b319/32.png) [@wolfman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfman)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/121 "2015-05-24T01:54:05Z")
I guess I’m the only one, but if I’m really within 2 or three thrusts of finishing I’m not sure I’d notice. At that point in the proceedings, my attention has a pretty narrow focus and the awareness of my surroundings is somewhat compromised. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/122 "2015-05-24T05:22:09Z")
> [@jharvey963](#): > > If she has a habit of passing out at orgasm, it’s happened before and been checked out and there is no problem with it, and you’ve discussed it (should you finish?) with her beforehand, you finish. If any of these things don’t hold true, you stop. She no longer has the capacity for consent. Capacity for consent is academic. She has already given 100% consent. For sex. She didn’t give conditional 96% consent. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/123 "2015-05-24T13:41:31Z")
So, out of curiosity, have people out there run into a situation where you’re 99% of the way done, and a woman has decided to cease consent for sex? ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/124 "2015-05-24T13:43:44Z")
Yeah, but I really shouldn’t have called out her mother’s name. Rookie mistake, really. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/125 "2015-05-24T14:03:09Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > Well, I’m half Scottish…and I do have a pet ewe. Well, she’s more of a [nudge nudge]companion[/nudge nudge] than a pet, if you know what I mean. But, I really don’t understand the point you’re trying to make? Scottish jokes about fucking sheep are about as common as as any other ethnic joke cliche. ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/126 "2015-05-24T18:32:05Z")
Old joke about how you know the passion is gone: Her: “If I’m asleep when you’re done, would you pull my nightie back down?” Him: “Sure.” It’s amusing to me that in the poll, the women have been roughly 50/50 all along as to whether it would be okay for the guy to continue, while it’s been the men who’ve been going ballistic about how skeevy, rapey, etc., the idea is. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2015, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/127 "2015-05-24T19:28:17Z")
> [@Starving\_Artist](#): > > It’s amusing to me that in the poll, the women have been roughly 50/50 all along as to whether it would be okay for the guy to continue, while it’s been the men who’ve been going ballistic about how skeevy, rapey, etc., the idea is. That’s because it’s a very different question to a man and to a woman, given the way the poll is phrased. ---
**Author:** ![Riv1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Riv1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riv1)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2015, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/128 "2015-05-25T05:30:53Z")
What if the husband/BF passes out? ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2015, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/129 "2015-05-25T06:16:36Z")
He’ll wilt. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2015, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/130 "2015-05-25T06:29:32Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > No actually, I think there is a worth while conversation to be had here. > > Right now the poll reads that an overwhelming majority of men would stop. Yet the few women who have participated in this thread are split 50/50. > > That indicates to me that there is a gap of communication between men and women. So, ya’ know, maybe this conversation is worth having. And maybe it doesn’t merit your threadshits. “Honey, if you pass out mid coitus but I only have a few pumps left and I’m certain your passing out wasn’t life threatening because reasons, could I continue?” “What an interesting hypothetical. I can already tell this is a conversation worth having.” “Well, I figured it’s best to ask ahead of time rather than risk the 50% chance of raping you.” “That’s very considerate of you.” “It’s why we work so well as a team.” ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2015, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/131 "2015-05-25T14:23:24Z")
> [@kunilou](#): > > I’m a guy, and eww. > > If there’s anything that’s going to kill my mood faster than a woman who just lays there, without enthusiasm, it would be a woman who just lays there, without conciousness. This. I don’t fool around with drunk women for the same reason. ---
**Author:** ![Melaradark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecd19e/32.png) [@Melaradark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melaradark)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2015, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/132 "2015-10-30T16:18:15Z")
Sorry to revive a bit of an old thread but I voted other, being a lesbian woman about to get married to another woman. From a ‘woman on woman’ perspective…fuck! Of course I’d stop! And if I passed out I’d expect her to stop too! If it was a known medical condition (such as syncope brought on by orgasm) then we’d time/arrange our activity in advance to take that into consideration, but I sure as hell wouldn’t be continuing on with an unconscious partner, even for just a few seconds, just so I could ‘get mine’. For crying out loud! :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Kevbo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e47774/32.png) [@Kevbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kevbo)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2015, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/133 "2015-10-30T19:19:02Z")
This isn’t exactly a hypothetical for me. When I was very young I knew a woman who would sometimes respond to my efforts with more or less continuous orgasms. Apparently it was difficult to breath when that was going on, which tended to heighten the effect…until she would pass out. So the procedure was to stop, keep my weight off of her, make sure she was breathing (not sure what I would have done if the answer was not) and wait for her to recover consciousness. Then we would have a little laugh and finish up at a less vigorous pace. This happened only 3-4 times over the course of 3 years or so. We didn’t think it was necessarily a good idea, but she was pretty strong about encouraging it when the planets aligned to make it possible. And yeah, my ego approved. ---
**Author:** ![watchwolf49](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e9c0ed/32.png) [@watchwolf49](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/watchwolf49)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2015, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/134 "2015-10-30T19:58:27Z")
How does your wife fall asleep screaming at the top of her lungs? ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2015, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/135 "2015-10-30T20:45:00Z")
Just jab her in the heart with adrenaline (Pulp Fiction style) and ask her. ---
**Author:** ![Kevbo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e47774/32.png) [@Kevbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kevbo)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2015, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/136 "2015-11-05T16:01:04Z")
> [@watchwolf49](#): > > How does your wife fall asleep screaming at the top of her lungs? Not asleep exactly. Being absorbed with “screaming” (and various other vocalizations) one can apparently neglect to breath sufficiently to remain conscious. ---
**Author:** ![octopus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/octopus/32/3716_2.png) [@octopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/octopus)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2015, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/137 "2015-11-06T16:35:29Z")
> [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > What the everlasting fuck? How is this even a question? > > Edit: and you see how the women responders have a 50/50 chance? So yeah, you’d have a 50/50 chance of continuing sex with someone who doesn’t want you to. How do you like them odds? > > Just my humble opinion, of course, but this question is appalling. It’s only 50/50 if you don’t know her preferences which is highly unlikely of you have been intimate with this woman for 100s of times. People communicate and he’d probably know her preference. 1-3 “pumps” and knowing for a fact she’s fine and doesn’t care. Why not? ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2015, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/138 "2015-11-06T16:38:04Z")
Why continue? It’s the perfect opportunity to rummage through her purse. ---
**Author:** ![octopus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/octopus/32/3716_2.png) [@octopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/octopus)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2015, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/139 "2015-11-06T16:44:08Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > I’ll go a step further and say the chances of anyone having a spouse who can turn into a zombie, at will, is 0%. > > But, interesting questions can be gleaned from impossible scenarios (e.g. I don’t believe Einstein actually rode on a beam of light, but he teased a few interesting things out of that hypothetical). > > I don’t believe there are many people who would actually continue intercourse after their spouse passed out, with or without consent, despite the ~30% of men and women polled who indicate that it’s _ok_. Perhaps they would if it was just a few seconds to _“completion”_, and they are running on auto-drive and not thinking clearly. But, any longer than that and I think most of those 30% would stop for a combination of being concerned for the welfare of their spouse, and not enjoying having sex with someone who is unconscious. Immoral? That’s a fuzzier reason to stop. > > So, I think the more interesting question isn’t whether you would do it, or enjoy it, but whether you consider it to be immoral (or even illegal) for others to do it, with mutual consent. > > IOW, is it more the ambiguity of premeditated consent that you find questionable, or is it the act itself that you find repulsive or immoral? Is it immoral if you find it immoral, but the two consenting adults doing it don’t find it immoral? > > Should it be illegal? Well, certainly it is without consent because that’s rape. But, what if a police officer happened upon a couple having sex in a secluded area of, say, the forest, and the woman was obviously passed out. After the officer wakes the woman, she tells him that she passes out often, but that she has always given consent to her husband to finish his _business_ if that’s what they’re doing when she passes out. > > Except for both possibly getting a ticket for indecent exposure, should the man be charged with a crime? > > Liver? With or without fava beans: yech. It’s not a crime. If it were my wife would be a rapist as she has performed oral to wake me up in the past. Now I won’t wake her up that way because she awakens in a different state of mind than I do. ---
**Author:** ![octopus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/octopus/32/3716_2.png) [@octopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/octopus)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2015, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/140 "2015-11-06T16:46:35Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > There are quite a few posters on the forum who will insist that it is. They firmly believe that consent has to be given at the time, every time, after a drug test, a psychological evaluation and a peace officer all ensure that there is no compromised consent. Once the notary verifies everyone’s signatures and birth certificates, you’re good to go. Everything about sex for those posters is hypothetical though. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601.md?page=8)