# Your GF/Wife passes out during mid coitus: D you finish? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 22, 2015, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601 "2015-05-22T16:52:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![Rune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e68b1a/32.png) [@Rune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rune)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2015, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/141 "2015-11-06T18:09:07Z")
> [@Melaradark](#): > > Sorry to revive a bit of an old thread but I voted other, being a lesbian woman about to get married to another woman. > > From a ‘woman on woman’ perspective…fuck! Of course I’d stop! See, that’s the reason Lesbian Bed Death is a thing. You girls just aren’t giving it your all. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2015, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/142 "2015-11-06T19:14:46Z")
I picked Other, because there was no option that said “one or two pumps is more than is usually involved so it doesn’t really matter”. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2015, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/143 "2015-11-06T20:16:09Z")
**Your GF/Wife passes out during mid coitus: D you finish?** My problem was that my ex’s stone cold passed out persona and her fully engaged in sex persona were exactly the same and I wasn’t interested in either one. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2015, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/144 "2015-11-06T20:59:55Z")
No way this could apply to me, I never have sex in pumps. ---
**Author:** ![Punoqllads](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d2c977/32.png) [@Punoqllads](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Punoqllads)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2015, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/145 "2015-11-07T02:28:04Z")
I would drink a cup of tea. [Cite](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zXju34Uwuys) ---
**Author:** ![Melbourne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5e925/32.png) [@Melbourne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melbourne)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2015, 10:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/146 "2015-11-07T10:08:27Z")
Bloke here. If I was having fun fooling around with a woman, of course I’d stop. Having fun, fooling around with a woman, is something you do with a concious woman. But 3 or 4 pumps from completion? At that point, I’m not fooling around: I’m an out-of-control locomotive, and it’s gonna take superman to stop me. If my brain was in control, yes, I’d stop. But it’s not my brain, and it’s done far stupider things than that before. ---
**Author:** ![lance\_strongarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/87869e/32.png) [@lance\_strongarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lance_strongarm)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2015, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/147 "2015-11-07T17:59:55Z")
If continuing after she falls asleep for a few seconds (in this scenario where she’s your wife or long-time girlfriend) is rape, then continuing when she is AWAKE, without asking every three or four seconds, if you have her consent to continue to have sex with her could be considered rape. In other words, we’re on the edge of absurd. ---
**Author:** ![joemama24\_98](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ce7236/32.png) [@joemama24\_98](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joemama24_98)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2015, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/148 "2015-11-08T16:08:36Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > Well, I’m half Scottish…and I do have a pet ewe. Well, she’s more of a [nudge nudge]companion[/nudge nudge] than a pet, if you know what I mean. But, I really don’t understand the point you’re trying to make? I can’t help but think of a joke I once heard about what things may have been of the Rolling Stones were Scottish. Instead of “Hey, youm get off of my cloud” we’d have "Hey, MacCleod, get off of my ewe! (sorry) ---
**Author:** ![BigAppleBucky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigapplebucky/32/178_2.png) [@BigAppleBucky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigAppleBucky)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2015, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/149 "2015-11-08T23:15:08Z")
It would be a total squick for my wife to pass out mid-coitus. A real mood killer. I’d (perforce) quit immediately. If she did it frequently, I’m sure it would be a problem that needed to be addressed medically. ---
**Author:** ![lance\_strongarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/87869e/32.png) [@lance\_strongarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lance_strongarm)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2015, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/150 "2015-11-08T23:46:49Z")
> [@BigAppleBucky](#): > > It would be a total squick for my wife to pass out mid-coitus. A real mood killer. I’d (perforce) quit immediately. You just haven’t been married long enough.😃 ---
**Author:** ![lance\_strongarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/87869e/32.png) [@lance\_strongarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lance_strongarm)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2015, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/151 "2015-11-08T23:48:47Z")
Here’s another way to think of this. I trust my wife when I’m asleep and she’s awake. I trust her to make medical decisions for me when I’m under anesthesia. I trust her to go through my stuff, and have access to my bank account. And vice versa. I think she’d trust me in this situation. So if this question is about consent, it’s a no-brainer. ---
**Author:** ![katpohl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b782af/32.png) [@katpohl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/katpohl)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2015, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/152 "2015-11-15T21:21:50Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > Keep in mind, this is your GF or Wife. The two of you have had consensual sex hundreds of times. > > For whatever _non-life-threatening reasons_, your wife/gf passes out mid coitus\* You’re confident you only have about two or three pumps left before you get yours. > Do you finish? > \*Before anyone starts in on me: The word coitus is quite fitting for this particular hypothetical. After reading a few posts in your '15 year old girl ’ thread and the first page of this thread. Here is what I’m thinking , you need to stop having hypothetical. sex , let go of the mouse, push away from the key board , get dressed , wash your hand ,find your wallet . Go out and find a ’ for hire ’ new friend . After just one for 'real 'time , that hypothetical. sex just can’t cut the mustard , ---
**Author:** ![Derleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Derleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Derleth)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2015, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/153 "2015-11-15T21:53:43Z")
> [@lance\_strongarm](#): > > Here’s another way to think of this. > > I trust my wife when I’m asleep and she’s awake. I trust her to make medical decisions for me when I’m under anesthesia. I trust her to go through my stuff, and have access to my bank account. And vice versa. > > I think she’d trust me in this situation. > > So if this question is about consent, it’s a no-brainer. I approach it from the same way: If I’m in a relationship that’s progressed to the point of being sexual, I’m being trusted to exercise some normal, reasonable judgment in the best interests of my partner, which includes looking after their health in the case of what could be an emergency situation. Frankly, pumping away on someone who’s suddenly no longer conscious is the exact opposite of that level of care. It would be possible to convince me that she really and truly wasn’t in any kind of danger, at which point it’s just a matter of her consent and my mood. In that case it’s a solid “maybe”, but probably not. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2015, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/154 "2015-11-15T22:42:20Z")
> [@katpohl](#): > > After reading a few posts in your '15 year old girl ’ thread and the first page of this thread. Here is what I’m thinking , you need to stop having hypothetical. sex , let go of the mouse, push away from the key board , get dressed , wash your hand ,find your wallet . Go out and find a ’ for hire ’ new friend . After just one for 'real 'time , that hypothetical. sex just can’t cut the mustard , We already went through all this five months ago: > [@Grrr](#): > > For those interested, I’ve made a formal apology [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=18384973&postcount=17). > > Sorry for my offensive OP, and my subsequent defensiveness afterwords. I’ll make it a point to do better in the future. Now this thread is returning to teach me a valuable lesson in starting stupid threads. THEY COME BACK TO HAUNT YOU! Lesson learned. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![katpohl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b782af/32.png) [@katpohl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/katpohl)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2015, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/155 "2015-11-16T00:23:07Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > We already went through all this five months ago: > > Now this thread is returning to teach me a valuable lesson in starting stupid threads. THEY COME BACK TO HAUNT YOU! Lesson learned. :smack: :o My bad, I didn’t realize this thread wasn’t a recent / new one. I’ll make a point to check dates in the future .:o ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2015, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601/156 "2015-11-16T00:29:51Z")
I’m a guy; no. If she’s unconscious, something might be seriously wrong. In any event she’s no longer able to give consent. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-gf-wife-passes-out-during-mid-coitus-d-you-finish/720601.md?page=7)