# Your longest bout of celibacy... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 6, 2003, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-longest-bout-of-celibacy/153303 "2003-02-06T20:53:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![The\_Calculus\_of\_Logic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/aeb1de/32.png) [@The\_Calculus\_of\_Logic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Calculus_of_Logic)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2003, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-longest-bout-of-celibacy/153303/101 "2003-02-11T05:36:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by qts \* > \*\*I’m 36 and as far as romance is concerned, I’ve yet to manage so much as a kiss. I am not happy about the situation, but have learned to accept it. I’ve given up actively looking for a partner. \*\* I can relate completely. ---
**Author:** ![Hallo\_Space\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Hallo\_Space\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hallo_Space_Girl)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2003, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-longest-bout-of-celibacy/153303/102 "2003-02-11T06:34:48Z")
lessee I’m still a virgin (hurray for catholic dogma actually working!). my friend wants to have sex with me and I kinda want to have sex with him but uh yeah he has a girlfriend. he’s baaaaad. ---
**Author:** ![vivalostwages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@vivalostwages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivalostwages)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2003, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-longest-bout-of-celibacy/153303/103 "2003-02-11T06:39:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by JThunder \* > \*\*People can live without it, you say? I heartily agree. > > \*\* * * * They/I certainly can. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Calculus\_of\_Logic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/aeb1de/32.png) [@The\_Calculus\_of\_Logic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Calculus_of_Logic)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2003, 11:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-longest-bout-of-celibacy/153303/104 "2003-02-11T11:11:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by mswas \* > \*\* > For those that go for years, I’d be definitely curious as to why that is. I’ve seen some major freaks out there with dates, this info has led me to believe it’s all a matter of will. > > Anyone that wants to go into more detail about it I’d love to hear what you have to say. > Erek \*\* Me too, i should start a new thread about that. for me its a mixture of things. 1. a serious inferiority complex in issues of interpersonal sexuality. I don’t feel inferior to people in general, just that i am not good enough for a sexual relationship with a woman. 2. I am shy. I don’t like approaching strangers and looking for excuses to talk about things i don’t find interesting. Due to my shyness i also have no social network (no social network & no way of meeting new people = no people at all to pick from). 3. I’ve always believed that this culture kindof has an ‘american pie’ perspective to male/female sexuality, where the women are bratty attention-addicts who get annoyed when men approach them and the men are pathetic & lose control of their minds when any woman shows any interest in them. The idea of being seen/feeling like a sucker who will do anything for a piece of poon (no matter how bitchy, selfish or whiny the owner is) and who will end up being verbally abused for attempting to do so isn’t something i am willing to put up with/risk. Shit, i know chubby single mothers who make $6 an hour who get hit on 10 times when they go out in a club. The idea of being seen as/feeling like ‘desperate sucker number 11 for a strange woman to use as a tool to boost her self esteem’ isn’t something i look forward too doing. Those are probably the main reasons. Yes i have issues, thanks for noticing ---
**Author:** ![amarinth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@amarinth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amarinth)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2003, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-longest-bout-of-celibacy/153303/105 "2003-02-11T17:21:39Z")
Nearly 3 years. Hated every second of it. And it’s getting worse. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by mswas \* > \*\*For those that go for years, I’d be definitely curious as to why that is. I’ve seen some major freaks out there with dates, this info has led me to believe it’s all a matter of will. \*\* I’ve also seen them. And then it hits me, no matter what I might think, they must still be more attractive than I am. Which sucks. Trust me, if it were a sheer matter of will - than I would not be in the situation I’m in now. ---
**Author:** ![Innanna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ecd19e/32.png) [@Innanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Innanna)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2003, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-longest-bout-of-celibacy/153303/106 "2003-02-11T18:03:32Z")
6 years–by choice for the first 5, by circumstance and inertia for the last year (or so)… and ambivilent about it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/your-longest-bout-of-celibacy/153303.md?page=5)