# You're all being really weird about this **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 28, 2018, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718 "2018-02-28T01:56:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_other_waldo_pepper/32/12370_2.png) [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Other_Waldo_Pepper)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/81 "2018-02-28T05:09:52Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Thank you, rational questions! This is the entire conversation: > > My girlfriend: Hi, is this the bus to the airport? > > The driver: I don’t know. (An obvious lie. There is no way she would not know. Look at the Google Maps link I’ve posted.) > > Us: _Stunned silence_ > > Me, tentatively: I have the map here… > > The driver: I don’t know. I’m not a cab driver. > > Us: _More stunned silence_ > > Her: I’ve just been to the airport. (Technically true, but definitely intended to make us believe it was the wrong bus.) > > I start to move aside so the queue can start moving while I double check on my phone (I don’t have data on my phone, it’s expensive here, i just have the map loaded up). > > The driver: You have to give me tickets or get off the bus. > > I’m still stunned. I move towards the second door because there is a queue of people behind us. > > She asks where I’m going. > > I’m still stunned. I sheepishly answer that I was going to get out the second door. > > She says to get out the front door. I brush against everyone waiting and we go out. > > We walk to the airport. > > She drives by us, on that tiny road. She doesn’t stop. > > This was either racism or random cuntiness; in both cases, she should be fired. > > Deny my logic or call me a liar. Gladly. Like I’d said above, it’s possible that _policy_ is to have the drivers not say where they’re going — just make the stops, and never be the one who gave a guy what he claims is incorrect advice about a destination — in which case, the driver’s replies wouldn’t have been racism or random, but prescribed and routine. That’d also explain why she eventually gave the answer about where she’d just been: if she’s not _allowed_ to say anything about where she’s going, and so came up on the fly with the solution of (a) saying where she’d just been, while (b) hoping that you’d get the hint by realizing she drives a back-and-forth circuit. ---
**Author:** ![lucid-nonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/2acd7d/32.png) [@lucid-nonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lucid-nonsense)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/82 "2018-02-28T05:09:58Z")
Listen, this crosses the fucking line. You can call me crazy, I don’t care. You saying my girlfriend getting kicked off public transportation RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME is not a big deal, that’s beyond the fucking pale. This conversation is over. Fuck you and everybody who thinks like you. Maybe one day you’ll love someone like I love her, but I doubt it will happen, since you’re obviously SUCH A FUCKING ASSHOLE. ---
**Author:** ![snfaulkner](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snfaulkner/32/433_2.png) [@snfaulkner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snfaulkner)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/83 "2018-02-28T05:11:15Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Okay then, I suppose you have a competing theory. What else could explain her behavior? And this is why people are calling you irrational. Have you not read any of the responses? There are several competing theories mentioned that are far more sane. > [@](#): > > … > Also I’ve been having AN INCREDIBLY STRESSFUL WEEK AND THIS BITCH TRIED ME AT THE WRONG TIME… This sounds exactly like you are coming off amphetamines (and over reacting to everything). ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/84 "2018-02-28T05:12:07Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Seriously, I sound crazy to you? This is rambling? Extremely very much so, yes. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/85 "2018-02-28T05:16:39Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Listen, this crosses the fucking line. You can call me crazy, I don’t care. You saying my girlfriend getting kicked off public transportation RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME is not a big deal, that’s beyond the fucking pale. This conversation is over. Fuck you and everybody who thinks like you. Maybe one day you’ll love someone like I love her, but I doubt it will happen, since you’re obviously SUCH A FUCKING ASSHOLE. I told ya earlier, it wasn’t your girlfriend getting kicked off, it was YOU for acting like a psycho. Stop pathologising this as racism when it was your own rancid dumbfuckery that brought it on. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/86 "2018-02-28T05:21:34Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Okay then, I suppose you have a competing theory. What else could explain her behavior? You ever stop and think that maybe the BUS DRIVER was having a bad day? Maybe SHE was in a bad mood? Maybe someone in her family died. Maybe she found out she had a serious illness. Maybe she just broke up with her boyfriend. And she really wasn’t in the mood to be pleasant and smiling, and she started snapping at riders. The point is, YOU DON’T KNOW. Is it right? No. But it happens. Hey, I had three seizures today – trust me, I’d much rather be kicked off of a bus. You don’t see me telling everyone to fuck off. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/87 "2018-02-28T05:27:25Z")
What does the girlfriend think of this? Have you showed her these threads, and your other social media? Now, if you haven’t, DON’T. If she’s been sheltered from your obsessiveness, leave her in her innocence. Because she may very well think “This guy is a whack job, I’m out of here!” But in a week, after much sleep and counseling and hopefully some perspective and emotional maturity, you’ll hopefully be over this. Then you can laugh about how you overreacted. Wouldn’t that be much better than how you’re feeling now? ---
**Author:** ![lucid-nonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/2acd7d/32.png) [@lucid-nonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lucid-nonsense)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/88 "2018-02-28T05:30:47Z")
If I come up to you and candidly admit that something put me in the hospital, don’t ever say it’s not a big deal, come on. Just pretend. If it’s not a big deal to you, you don’t have to let me know. Just don’t say anything. Anybody who says it’s not a big deal gets instantly put on ignore. Sorry. But come on. Anyway, moving on. Would you say I got a warm welcome here at the SMDB? Reread all the threads. If you think so, ask yourself why I can only post in the Pit? Where you can call me crazy? ---
**Author:** ![lucid-nonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/2acd7d/32.png) [@lucid-nonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lucid-nonsense)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/89 "2018-02-28T05:32:03Z")
> [@digs](#): > > What does the girlfriend think of this? > > Have you showed her these threads, and your other social media? > > Now, if you haven’t, DON’T. If she’s been sheltered from your obsessiveness, leave her in her innocence. Because she may very well think “This guy is a whack job, I’m out of here!” > > But in a week, after much sleep and counseling and hopefully some perspective and emotional maturity, you’ll hopefully be over this. Then you can laugh about how you overreacted. Wouldn’t that be much better than how you’re feeling now? You can’t be serious. Of course she knows! She thinks it’s awesome! I’m doing all of this for her! ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/90 "2018-02-28T05:38:48Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Anyway, moving on. Would you say I got a warm welcome here at the SMDB? Reread all the threads. If you think so, ask yourself why I can only post in the Pit? Where you can call me crazy? Nobody said you could only post in the Pit, just that you could only rant about this particular issue in the Pit. That’s all. Please, for your own sake, go get some sleep. You won’t be much good for her if you’re sleep-deprived. And once again, you need to be patient. I know it sucks, I know it doesn’t seem fair, I know you hate it, I know you think she was a complete psycho twat. But these things don’t happen over night. Otherwise, if you keep hounding them, they WILL be more likely to ignore you, actually. Four days is way too soon for anything to happen. Give it a week or two. Patience, grasshopper, patience. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Oh, and did I mention get some sleep? ---
**Author:** ![lucid-nonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/2acd7d/32.png) [@lucid-nonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lucid-nonsense)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/91 "2018-02-28T05:41:08Z")
Hey, hey, this thread started over the treatment I received here at the SMDB. Why were my threads blocked in the first place? Discussing the actual events is a hijack. Have a mod reopen the original thread if you want to discuss the events. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/92 "2018-02-28T05:42:06Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > You can’t be serious. Of course she knows! She thinks it’s awesome! I’m doing all of this for her! :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![lucid-nonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/2acd7d/32.png) [@lucid-nonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lucid-nonsense)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/93 "2018-02-28T05:43:23Z")
> [@digs](#): > > But in a week, after much sleep and counseling and hopefully some perspective and emotional maturity, you’ll hopefully be over this. Then you can laugh about how you overreacted. Wouldn’t that be much better than how you’re feeling now? I mean, my girlfriend hasn’t slept in 24 hours either, without drugs. What’s the difference between us and you? Do you think we’re both crazy? I’m sorry, I know I haven’t been answering everyone, but there is only one of me. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/94 "2018-02-28T05:43:34Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Am I swearing? Am I shouting? Sorry, I guess this is over text, but I’m trying to sound calm? I’m not sure why you think I’m freaking out or something. I’m not sure how to convince you that I am thinking rationally right now? I’m sorry I shared that incident about the mental institution, I swore not to sleep before she got fired, maybe not the best idea, I agree. But try doing something crazy for someone you love once, maybe you will actually like it. > > Sorry, I know I said I would stop posting, but some people seem to want me to stop (snfaulkner and that mod) for good, some to stop for now (cochrane and wolfpup), some not to mind one way or the other (Guinastasia). But no one actually wants to hear my story? Really? I haven’t given you any background info about my experiences as part of an interracial couple. It’s pretty crucial to understanding why I’m convinced it was racism. But mostly, this story is about a POWER CUNT who happens to be racist. I mean, we’ve seen racists before, don’t you think? We’ve been dating for three years and we’ve traveled all over the world. This woman was special. I mean, I’ve dated mostly French-Canadian girls with light brown skin and now I’m dating an English woman with dark brown skin – just calling a spade a spade here, snow is white, coal is black, skin is shades of brown or shades of pink. I should be well-placed to speak, no? > > Seriously, I sound crazy to you? This is rambling? Yes, you do sound crazy. You keep calling the bus driver a cunt. You’re not even treating her like a human being, yet you demand the same respect for yourself and your girlfriend. Do you expect to gain any sympathy by calling the bus driver a demeaning name based on her gender? ---
**Author:** ![Dallas\_Jones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dallas_jones/32/3277_2.png) [@Dallas\_Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dallas_Jones)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/95 "2018-02-28T05:45:06Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > I’ve slept the entire night at the hospital and a complete night after. I am in full possession of my faculties. Look at my previous thread on free will and ask yourself if I am crazy? I think I’m shockingly articulate for a crazy person, but… They always do, they always do. Tell me, what color was the dog? It’s more important than your story. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/96 "2018-02-28T05:45:12Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > :dubious: :dubious: indeed. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/97 "2018-02-28T05:51:50Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Okay then, I suppose you have a competing theory. What else could explain her behavior? > > I’ll concede I’m expecting results too quickly. Still, explain the defensiveness I’m encountering EVERYWHERE I go. Why am I only getting canned messages and stalling for time? Why aren’t my concerns being taken seriously? Why is it immediately assumed that I’m crazy or lying? This is a pretty big deal, no? > > As to the strength of my reaction, imagine how humiliating it was for me. If we both had been from Canada, it wouldn’t have been as bad. But imagine. I love this woman. I bring her here to my own country and this happens. How do you think I feel? > > Also I’ve been having AN INCREDIBLY STRESSFUL WEEK AND THIS BITCH TRIED ME AT THE WRONG TIME. > > I shit on your mother’s grave. I’d shit on your grave, but I hate standing in line. ---
**Author:** ![lucid-nonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/2acd7d/32.png) [@lucid-nonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lucid-nonsense)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/98 "2018-02-28T05:55:27Z")
Yesh guys, I think some serious soul-searching is in order. Where are Clothahump and Bricker? Come on, gloat over the obvious hypocrisy of the well-thinking liberals! We hate racism! But it doesn’t exist! Don’t be crazy! IT’S IMPOSSIBLE _LALALALA PLUGS EARS_ YOU’RE CRAZY ---
**Author:** ![lucid-nonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/2acd7d/32.png) [@lucid-nonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lucid-nonsense)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/99 "2018-02-28T05:56:28Z")
Why were my threads blocked in the first place? Discussing the actual events is a hijack. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2018, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718/100 "2018-02-28T05:58:20Z")
> [@lucid-nonsense](#): > > Why were my threads blocked in the first place? Discussing the actual events is a hijack. They were closed because you were ranting. Rants belong here, in the BBQ Pit. That doesn’t mean you can’t continue to discuss the actual events here. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/youre-all-being-really-weird-about-this/809718.md?page=6)