The thread police - get a life

[mipiace]

DOn't you hate people who think thay have to police everyone else's threads? I am not talking about moderators, I mean this:

Originally posted by jarbabyj
No problem at all. Just wondering when I'm going to open up the Boards without people cleverly disguising flirt threads as 'honest questions about relationships'

Of course I don't have to read them, but when they take up a third of the 'most recent threads' page, I feel like speaking up.

And since the SDMB goes in cycles, I'm just assuming this is the 'where can I get a good fisting/ I love blowjobs/ men can't get enough of my big tits" cycle that Nature experiences every spring.

Carry on.

Originally posted by jarbabyj
So when is this frigging SDMB rutting season going to be over?

Okay so this person is minding his or her own business when someone sends her a link saying someone is posting sex related threads. Even though the thread wasn't started by the person he or she feels compelled to monitor, he or she checks it out anyway and feels further compelled to post. Then has to explain that they weren't actually interested in the subject, they simply felt compelled to police the subject matter because all these sex related threads are muddying 1/3 of the board that I have the audacity to be new at and he or she finds the subject matter boring enough to have to have someone send updates to him or her to make sure that no one is talking about sex. Boring enough to go and check it out herself, and boring enough to be compelled to "speak up" .

Get a life. If you don't want to read it - dont' read it but don't "speak up" to other people.

[hebesphenomegacorona]

THOUGHTCRIME!

[tiny ham]

Boy you've got me pegged. Jarbabyj: the gal who hates people talkin' about sex.

That's me. I'm so...shamed.

[World Eater]

I don't see Jar doing anything wrong. She's not entitled to bitch?

[friedo]

Originally posted by hebesphenomegacorona
THOUGHTCRIME!

BIG FONT VIOLATION!

[Guinastasia]

Oh, come off it, jar, we all know you're the prude of the SDMB!

[porcupine]

First, it's good form to [url="http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=182532"]provide a link[/ur] so people know what the fuck you are talking about.

Second, "someone sends her a link"? Why do you think that's the case? I'm sure she found the thread just like most people do, just like I did, but browsing the boards.

Third, I can't really say I blame jarbaby. The number of threads that degenerating into flirt-fests lately make me think it's rutting season as well. And that jar, she's a prude, all right.

[lel]

I've begrudgingly taught myself not to read threads when I can figure out from the title that they'll be flirt threads. On the other hand, I'm avoiding more threads than usual around here lately, and there are some threads where you just can't tell what they'll be.

If it's going to be a flirt thread, I don't see a problem with perhaps asking that they be labeled in a way where we know they're going to be flirt threads.

[porcupine]

Fixed Link

[tiny ham]

porc, someone did send me a link, in the midst of a private discussion about the prevalence of sex threads lately, particularly davebear's sex threads. THe link said "davebear's at it again!" so I checked it out.

[mipiace]

Doesn't matter to me if you are prudish or not but you can generally tell that the subject matter is going to be along the adult/TMI vein......can't you? I certainly can. If you want to avoid then do so. I LIKE rutting season, I purchased a license. If I find some of them offensive, i will just avoid those. I am not going to go in and cry and complain (unless it is here in the BBQ pit where it is much more appropriate. )

For that matter the person who sent you the link should get a life too.
)

[Hamlet]

I’ve never thought of jarbabyj, sex, and police together before.


Jarbaby


Sex


Police


Hmmm.


Jarbaby, Sex, Police....




I’ll be right back.

THUMPA THUMPA THUMPA THUMPA THUMPA TH_UMPA



SLAM!!!!!!!



I’M COMBING MY HAIR!!!!!!

[porcupine]

Sorry, jar, I missed that part. The rest of my post stands. You are a prude.

[hebesphenomegacorona]

Originally posted by friedo
BIG FONT VIOLATION!

I DON'T CARE!

[size=1] I HAD to do that...

[mipiace]

Originally posted by porcupine
First, it's good form to [url="http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=182532"]provide a link[/ur] so people know what the fuck you are talking about.

Second, "someone sends her a link"? Why do you think that's the case? I'm sure she found the thread just like most people do, just like I did, but browsing the boards.

Third, I can't really say I blame jarbaby. The number of threads that degenerating into flirt-fests lately make me think it's rutting season as well. And that jar, she's a prude, all right.

Sorry porcupine. My bad, I thought I had posted all of her ingenious quotes that would have explained what the fuck I was talking about. But at least Jarbabyj did corroborate my story taht I did in fact know what the fuck I was talking about, so now you too can knowwhat the fuck i am talking about.

However the fuck you want to explain it, it is weird.

[tiny ham]

well said.

[BoBettie]

Originally posted by mipiace
. If you don't want to read it - dont' read it but don't "speak up" to other people.

Well then don't YOU speak up about her speaking up about it..and..and...and....

Ah fuck it- not even worth the trouble.

[lel]

Originally posted by mipiace
For that matter the person who sent you the link should get a life too.

Wait, what's the problem with people sending each other threads privately and commenting on them? Should we now monitor our e-mails? I didn't know that was now a sign of having no life, I guess I must give up my thread sending and commenting ways.

(FTR, I had nothing to do with the sending of the thread referred to in this thread.)

[mipiace]

Originally posted by lel
Wait, what's the problem with people sending each other threads privately and commenting on them? Should we now monitor our e-mails? I didn't know that was now a sign of having no life, I guess I must give up my thread sending and commenting ways.

(FTR, I had nothing to do with the sending of the thread referred to in this thread.)

Okay you have a good point there...I wouldn't want to become the email thread sending police...AAAACck (She runs from teh room with her hair on fire)

Anyway, yep I took it to the pit but I didn't jump into her thread. I f you don't like something take it to the pit. I did (after I got done rutting of course)

[Velma]

I agree that if it's clear what a thread is about in the title, then people who complain about the topic in the thread are stupid. That said, I don't know if that's the case here. I opened that thread too, and didn't expect it to be another big flirt fest, but it was. I was annoyed a little too, just because it seems like a lot of threads are turning that way by the same people.

I think it is just a case of too much at once. If it happens once in a while people tend to think it's not a big deal, but it's kind of hard to ignore right now, there's an awful lot of threads like this lately. So I feel jarbabyj's annoyance. People of course are free to not care that I am annoyed and carry on.

I also think it's hilarious that jarbaby is getting pitted for raining on people's sex parade.

[mipiace]

Originally posted by Velma
I agree that if it's clear what a thread is about in the title, then people who complain about the topic in the thread are stupid. That said, I don't know if that's the case here. I opened that thread too, and didn't expect it to be another big flirt fest, but it was. I was annoyed a little too, just because it seems like a lot of threads are turning that way by the same people.

I think it is just a case of too much at once. If it happens once in a while people tend to think it's not a big deal, but it's kind of hard to ignore right now, there's an awful lot of threads like this lately. So I feel jarbabyj's annoyance. People of course are free to not care that I am annoyed and carry on.

I also think it's hilarious that jarbaby is getting pitted for raining on people's sex parade.

That is a very intelligent opinion Velma and one that might make one pause for thought.....thank you for raising the standard of the SDMB.

[Velma]

Originally posted by mipiace
thank you for raising the standard of the SDMB.

You're welcome. Now with that done,

:flashes the thread:

[Maastricht]

Don't you think the main reason the thread police (jarbabyj being an excellent example) are so damn annoying to some people, is because they hit the nail right on the head?

[Bippy the Beardless]

So Jar
How are you doing?

[lel]

Originally posted by mipiace
AAAACck (She runs from teh room with her hair on fire)

Ooh, look! A fire extinguisher lying about a Pit thread, how handy!

[mipiace]

Originally posted by lel
Ooh, look! A fire extinguisher lying about a Pit thread, how handy!

Well duh - it's for all the flaming!

[NoClueBoy]

How you doin?

[FordPrefect]

Originally posted by Hamlet
Jarbaby, Sex, Police....

I know I shouldn't, and this would be my first time, but Band Name?!?

[mipiace]

Originally posted by NoClueBoy
How you doin?

GASP! Is that a cleverly disguised flirtation? Call the thread police!!!!! AAARRRGH!

[LolaCocaCola]

Thanks to this thread, I can't get damn Cheap Trick outta my head.

"'Cause they're waiting for me
Looking for me
Every single night
(They're) driving me insane
Those men inside my brain...

[Giraffe]

On the one hand, I agree with jarbabyj.

On the other hand, damn, girl, you are lookin' fine! Mmmm-MMM! Me so horny!

[Heloise]

Well, personally, I think that if the person who said she wants to have vaginal intercourse with my boyfriend seems to have an issue with the sex threads, she may have a point.

[mipiace]

Originally posted by Heloise
Well, personally, I think that if the person who said she wants to have vaginal intercourse with my boyfriend seems to have an issue with the sex threads, she may have a point.

?? Okay ..... do you want to elaborate on that? or will this turn into a TMI?

[chula]

Isn't a person who starts a thread to pit someone for having no life someone who needs to get a life her/himself?

[Heloise]

The thread.

[mipiace]

Originally posted by chula
Isn't a person who starts a thread to pit someone for having no life someone who needs to get a life her/himself?

YEah I had one on order but it was out of stock. Until then I have to life my life vicariously by criticizing others' stupidity.

[Davebear]

Can someone just explain, in a clear, calm fashion, exactly what is so offensive about flirting in MPSIMS threads? Because, with one exception that I know of, no one seems to complain about it happening in Pit threads. Yes, it's somewhat different; it's light-hearted and friendly, whereas what I've seen of Pit flirting tends to be caustic and sarcastic. But, it's the same thing.

Do the Pitizens really think they're any less offensive, when they do it, just because no one stomps into their threads and calls them disgusting? Or, is it just okay for them to do it, but not for others?

[mipiace]

Originally posted by Heloise
The thread.

Oh got it so jabberjar doesn't mind the sex part as long as it is spelled out in plain and no uncertain terms and in no way includes any innuendo. Got it.

Well this has been fun gang I really enjoyed the prickly convo this afternoon I was feeling very bitchy and wanted to engage.

Sorry to jabybaby - it's really nothing personal you just stepped in when I felt like poking fun at someone. I'd love to continue but my life just came in and i am on my way to a naked twister game so I gotta' jet.

I'll be back tomorrow if anyone wants to complain about me complaining about them complaining....or something like that.

Ciao and don't keep your chastity belt locked down too tight.

[hebesphenomegacorona]

But it's on fire, too....

[lel]

Originally posted by Davebear
Can someone just explain, in a clear, calm fashion, exactly what is so offensive about flirting in MPSIMS threads? Because, with one exception that I know of, no one seems to complain about it happening in Pit threads. Yes, it's somewhat different; it's light-hearted and friendly, whereas what I've seen of Pit flirting tends to be caustic and sarcastic. But, it's the same thing.

Do the Pitizens really think they're any less offensive, when they do it, just because no one stomps into their threads and calls them disgusting? Or, is it just okay for them to do it, but not for others?

To me, the objections primarily appear to be to the amount of flirting. It appears that there is much more flirting in MPSIMS than in the Pit as a function of total number of threads in each forum. This is to be expected. However, over time, people come to expect that a certain percentage of threads in MPSIMS and the Pit will be flirt threads. When that percentage is greatly exceeded, people may begin to think there is too much flirting. It appears that that percentage, which is higher in MPSIMS than in the Pit, has been exceeded in MPSIMS, but not in the Pit.

Some people have a higher tolerance for flirting than others. My tolerance for such is fairly low. Oh well, I just have to deal with it. However, once the percentage of flirting exceeds the tolerance of most, it might not be bad to go flirt at other venues. (IM? Email?)

[flybynight]

Originally posted by porcupine
Third, I can't really say I blame jarbaby. The number of threads that degenerating into flirt-fests lately make me think it's rutting season as well.

I'm not going to disagree with this at all. However, in the thread that started this particular thread, where the fuck is the flirting everyone is pissed off about? You could name about 10 other threads that have degenerated into silly flirt-fests, but this one? I re-read it again just to make sure, and I still don't know what the fuck people are talking about. Does the subject sound suspicious? Yes, it does - oh, and Davebear posted to it. It must be a flirt-fest. But there isn't anything in that thread that I can construe as flirting, especially compared to some of the other threads around here. If you're going to bitch about it, at least choose one that gives you more ammo. Then we can start having fun.

[Primaflora]

Davebear

I dislike flirting and cybersex threads intensely. I'm perfectly happy to delete them. I think I read one or two of the threads begun by you but now I know you've got nothing to say which I want to read.

Yes, I am a prude . I'm totally fine with people flirting and carrying on in threads which are clearly labelled but dontcha think you're overdoing it in MPSIMS? It's not all about you and your coterie of little cybermates and other people would like to carry on conversations without you lot wandering in there and making sure you think you all are hot and everso sexy.

It's the quantity of rutting threads which gets me. Why don't you all take it to a chatroom or is voyeurism what you enjoy? The thrill of knowing people are reading?

[Catfood Purrito]

I don't have a problem with flirt threads. Just as long as the flirting stays in the flirt threads.

I'm certainly no prude, but what really annoys me is when a perfectly interesting thread is hijacked by the flirt brigade and you have to wade through their inane spoutings to get to the interesting content.

[FranticMad]

So people are flirting and want to get laid? Where, where, where!!

Pick me! Pick me!

[Primaflora]

FranticMad, just join any thread where Davebear, Branwen and whatever RhinosHoney is now calling herself.

Mention whichever sex act you feel you are most proficient at (lie if you feel the need) feel up some virtual boobies and just generally let fly with your libido.

You'll fit right in I'm sure .

[Honeydew]

Jesus get over yourselves already !!!!!! Flirting is a bit of fun.... its not life or death ya know.....

And since when is this thread all about Davebear cos it seems to suddenly have turned on him. There is stuff going on in people real lives that makes it sometimes nice to come in here and have a laugh.

If you want more serious, topical or whatever threads..... then START THEM. Nobody is putting a gun to your head to read... I don't read all the threads because I know some things I'm not interested in. I don't go bitching and whining about it.

Since when did having some fun become such a crime??????

(warning in very pissed off mood anyways so this struck a nerve even more with me).

[Bryan Ekers]

Shouldn't this be in IMHO?

[Primaflora]

Having some fun got to be a crime when it impinged on other people's right to have fun I think. If person A and person B come to the SDMB to have a cheerful little exchange about something utterly unrelated to sex and person C and person D wander into the thread and begin cybermasturbating all over the place, there's a problem.

Basically it comes down to courtesy (yeah I know it's hard when the rutting hormones are overtaking any consideration for anyone else's use of the SDMB, but try and stay with me here) starting a thread entitled Watch Me and My Mates Exchange Funny Sex Stuff To No-One But Us is OK but waddling into a thread entitled Funny Duck Calls I have Heard and sexing it up isn't OK.

[Michael Ellis]

I liked Diane's term:

"I need to get fucked badly and can't so I'll do the next best thing and jizz all over myself with the help of the SDMB"

[Miller]

On the one hand, I can sympathize with Jarbaby. I don't know how many times I've clicked on a thread title that sounded interesting, only to find yet another incredibly dull and pointless sports thread. There was one a little while back called, "The Quest for the Grail has Begun!" which turned out to be about hockey. Now, as boring, pointless, and embarassingly juvenile as flirt threads may be, they don't hold a candle to hockey. So, I wasn't happy about being "tricked" into reading the thread by the misleading thread title.

On the other hand, I somehow was able to resist bitching at the people in the thread for enjoying a pastime that leaves me cold. See, it turns out that the SDMB isn't actually here just to amuse me, and there'll probably be a lot of stuff about things I don't like. And while complaining about it might endear me to the few other Dopers who are as sports-phobic as I am, for the most part I'll just end up looking like a dick. So when I open a thread that turns out to be about sports, I just shrug and hit the back button, and let those poor deluded sports fans have their poor deluded sports fun.