In another thread, Tremorviolet pointed me to SDMBconfession, a livejournal site where people comment, particularly on other posters. She said I had a ‘fan club’ (not trying to be snarky about what you said, Tremorviolet. I did notice some folks who staunchily defended me )
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I didn’t realize how much people had it out for me! I mean, I know some posters have called me on my whiny posts, but I figured since I haven’t been specifically pitted yet (I did get lumped with even sven in terms of the SDMB whiner’s club once). However, I wasn’t too upset about the negative things. In fact, reading the whole thing was quite a riot.
I do appreciate some people standing up for me. But I’m also willing to admit that yes, some of my rants/posts were whiny. I’m not going to deny that. I would have been a lot better off keeping my mouth shut about anything that remotely bothers me about my coworkers, nobody wants to hear about my cruise ship escapades, et cetera. Well, it is a new year, so I might as well make a positive change.
There is a balance on messageboards (particularly the SDMB) between taking other people’s feedback to heart, and also understanding that it is just a messageboard. But I also believe that the folks at SDMB are helping me become a better person, even if much gnashing of teeth or accusations of self-inflicted crucifixtion are made.
Who cares what anonymous cowards think? If they don’t have enough balls to say what they feel here (where their words will be attached to their username, and where their words will come under scrutiny), then screw them. They are just the lowest common denominator, feeding off each others’ gutlessness.
Ooooops, I forgot that was there. I’m really sorry. The part you wanna see is this [ LINK DELETED BY MODERATOR, AT REQUEST OF POSTER ]. (caution, bad words, and I’ve probably just broken some SDMBconfess secrecy code and will be murdered in my sleep) Anyway, evidently, a lot of anonymous female (and possibly male, I dunno, I mena, they’re anonymous) find you very attractive…
Don’t sweat the griping. They do it to everyone and I think it’s almost flattering to get sniped. That means you’ve been noticed.
You’ve not broken any sort of SDMBConfess code as there are none but you’ve most likely broken an SDMB one. I wouldn’t be surprised to see this thread locked down in the next few hours.
As for the subject matter, it’s best to just ignore it. I’ve been the topic of at least three or four threads, – I’m apparently a transsexual attention whore that takes advantage of people’s generosity – but it’s really no big deal. If you’re in the public, you’re going to piss someone off, no matter who you are.
Yeah, I was thinking even mentioning that place was probably a mistake (which is why I didn’t link in the othe rpost). I’m definitely not one trying to stir up any trouble and I’m already regretting posting that link. Hmmm, I think I’ll ask the mods to delete it.
tremorviolet, if there is something you wanted to show me but aren’t allowed to, feel free to e-mail me or better yet message me as I’m on AIM right now.
Incubus, having seen your picture (when you linked to your personal ad), trust me, you DO have a well-earned fan club!
Anyways, please, do not give That Place one iota of your thoughts. It’s a nasty, nasty, NASTY bunch over there, and if you think you got roasted, you should see some of the crap they’ve thrown at others. It’s not so much the insults as the fact that they take very personal information from LJ and SDMB threads and use it to bash others. Yes, people do open themselves up when they post personal information, but I don’t think that’s a valid excuse for some of the stuff that goes on over there.
I used to let it get to me (apparently, I’m a basement dwelling freak who mooches off of my family. Oh, and I have teeth like an orc.) Then I realized these people like to hurt others, and they feed off of it, so now if I say anything, it’s usually just a flippant remark. Don’t even bother trying to defend yourself, just remember it’s THEM, not YOU.
(Waits for the next “Guin is a LOOOOOSER” thread. Anyone wanna take bets on it?)
While they do seem to follow certain events of the SDMB, it almost seems like they draw some name out of a hat and dig up every little bit of dirt about that person to bash them.
Yeesh, its almost like an internet equivalent of a Klan meeting over there, with everyone hiding behind masks of anonymity. :eek:
It sure is. What a pathetic group. It seems like they have way too much time on their hands, too. The thing that is curious is—because they are gutless cowards, we don’t know who they are. They are amongst us, “pretending” to be normal (well, as normal as Dopers get ;)) people, but all the while they are these loser bottomfeeders. Kind of depressing.
Exactly. I mean, I can see some people wanting to discuss things anonymously, for example, ask an embarassing question, or want to find out what went on behind the scenes and can’t ask here, but doesn’t want to be known.
But like Incubus said, they’ll dig up dirt from five freaking years ago, and use it to completely trash a person. They’ll trash people over mental illnesses, for their looks, their children, etc. Very personal, very much below the belt.
However, they’re too chickenshit to face up to it, so they hide behind their little “Anonymous” tags. And fail to realize that all they’re doing is making them look like a bunch of middle school clique leaders hiding out in the bathroom trashing the latest loser.
I may be pathetic, but dammit, at least I have the metaphorical balls to be own up to it. They can’t even do that.
Apparently, I’ve gotten Bitch-Pitted there myself. I found out long after the fact, and couldn’t find the thread later so I never saw exactly what they were saying, but I have to say… Damn, that was an ego-boost. I’m not accustomed to feeling superior to other people. But those cowards? Oh yeah. I’m so much better than any of those losers. Seriously, the only reason I can think of for posting shit like that about another poster anonymously is fear. There are people on this board who are afraid of me. And not because I’m going to beat them up, because I can’t. I don’t know where they are, even. They’re just afraid I’m going to say mean things about them. How much does that rock?
Welcome to the club, Incubus. And, don’t worry about it. Guin’s right. These people don’t know you. They know one little detail about you.
The only way they can feel good about themselves is by ripping other people to shreds. Ignore it.
When this thread first started I wondered if it was a wise choice (I kind of thought Aesiron was right about it—I’m still ambivalent), but perhaps it’s not so bad for people to express how they really feel about such behavior.
Exactly. It’s fear, gutless fear, that prevents them from saying those things here. They’re too afraid that they’d be called the spiteful, pathetic, petty jerks that they are. They haven’t got the guts to deal with the heat.
I noticed on one of the threads that they accused me of trashing (behind her back) another Doper. What the hell? I have no idea what they are talking about. (And the Doper they accuse me of trashing is actually someone I like.) Unlike these gutless losers, I’ve never never snarked at anyone anonymously, never anywhere. I have (very rarely) discussed something about these boards in email, but that’s it. So not only are these people gutless losers, they either are making shit up, or simply have no clue.
To amplify a little, please do not bring your disagreements with other people/organizations over here. There is a longstanding SDMB policy against this sort of thing. Argue with them somewhere else.
As for taking anything posted anonymously on a website dedicated to trashing people and giving that real consideration as anything worthwhile or meaningful . . . gotta consider the source.
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