A gem in Dan Savage’s postbag deserves a wider audience:
In response, Mr. Savage writes that it’s perfectly healthy but a bit TMI, in his opinion. The chap concerned is going to ‘make other people sick’ (a kind of vicarious gag reflex?) if he seeks a wide audience for his ‘strange behavior’.
But, Dan, I have a question of my own for you (perfectly normal, I swear). If, as you put it, ‘no one needs to know’ about this conduct, why are you, um, publishing it in syndicated columns across the globe?
I rant only about whingeing New Zealanders and billionaire rock stars who choose to name themselves with the same number of words as number of brain cells they possess. Typos comes way down on my list of rantable subjects, somewhere between the walking habits of Hong Kongers and why no socialist will ever explain what he or she means by ‘equality’.
Speaking of the walking habits of Hong Kongers, are they sidewalk hogs? That is, when you’re walking along on the very edge of the sidewalk, and others are coming from the opposite direction, do they move over just a bit to accommodate you, or do they force you off the sidewalk?
Oh, and the person in the OP is a nutjob. What kind of responsible person would tell another that that kind of behavior is “healthy”?
I think moving *at all * is considered showing that you have concern for someone with whom you have no relationship of blood or commerce. Therefore, it isn’t done. I once saw it have a nasty consequence on a coastal path with a drop (not too high - but at six feet enough to cause cuts and bruises) onto rocks. A group of people were walking towards a single hiker, and he (probably new to HK) anticipated the ones on his side would move across and tuck in behind their colleagues.
If you don’t want to end up the same way, you either have to announce your presence - I’ve seen one group training for a trail-race blow a whistle! - or stop and let groups pass.
Sometimes I wonder if we are not allowing ourselves to be taken through the looking glass.
I’m a lesbian and I use tweezers to lift pubic hairs off the bowl after a woman has used it…
I’m a hetero male, and I like to enter the Unisex restroom at our local disco after a woman in order to take away some of her pubic hairs…
I’m a hetero female who works as a cleaner in male toilets. I like to put on my rubber gloves and take away pubic hairs…
That this “letter” was published shows the problems of taking legalism as your benchmark and ignoring all other considerations, such as appropriateness and a sense of style.
Um, collecting material from public toilets and then sticking them in your MOUTH? Good god, do you have any idea of the filth crawling in those urinals? That’s just begging for some kind of bacterial infection. shudder
It means that if someone is talking about taking a stranger’s pubic hairs and putting them in his own mouth so he can get off while masturbating and then writing into an internationally syndicated advice column to talk about it, the most relevant question is not, “Well, you’re sterilizing them, right?”
Are you actually serious, or just taking the standard PC mentality to a ridiculous extreme, and calling any comment that this behavior is indeed fucked-up, nothing more than an “attack?”
But no, you’re going to demand an actual explanation of how the behavior is unhealthy. Where to start?
Obsessing over a stranger instead of pursuing a real relationship.
Dependence on masturbation instead of pursuing a real relationship.
Needing a kinky and elaborate process to be able to achieve orgasm.
Invasion of the stranger’s privacy – keeping a lock of someone’s head hair is obsessive and stalker-ish; putting their shed pubic hair in your mouth, no one should need to explain.
Need for approval, asking a newspaper columnist to reassure you that your behavior is “normal.”
Need to hide and sneak around to get what you need to orgasm, implying shame in what you’re doing.
Do you need me to go on? Where, exactly, does the “anything goes” mentality stop?
