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Old 10-10-2005, 08:51 AM
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What, to you, is a circle jerk?

I guess this is for guys but ladies are always welcome.


It recently came to my attention that some people think a circle jerk is a group of young boys, (all straight presumably) standing in a circle and masturbating into the center.

However, I've only know a circle jerk to be a prank. All of the boys except one will know that it is a prank. The lights are turned off, a few choice sound f/x are made and then a bit later the lights come on to the horror of the victim as he is the only one with his pecker out.


Although I have never participated in either kind and it was only a rumor about the prank version. (UL?)


Anyway, what did you think of when you read the words 'circle jerk'?
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Old 10-10-2005, 08:55 AM
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Old 10-10-2005, 08:56 AM
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The definition I heard -- I tyhink from Reuben's book "Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex * But Were Afraid to Ask" was that it was a group of males sitting in a circle, each masturbating the boy next to him. The Magazine National Lampoon had a spoof picture of Boy Scouts sitting around a circle in a campfire, with the clear implication that this is what they were up to.


I've never heard any other definition, or the prank. I've also never heard of anyone actually doing this.
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Old 10-10-2005, 09:13 AM
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All of the boys except one will know that it is a prank.
Is he the one they call the "pivot"?

Hell of a funny prank when he takes off the blindfold.

I've always known it to mean a circle of boys but actually never considered if they were all straight or not. Where/when I grew up we were all a bunch of ignorant blue collar homophobes and the very notion of "crossing swords" or accidentally witnessing some other guys business for more then 2.7 seconds we figured would have probably made us gay on the spot. So this activity was pretty much an urban legend....or myth of some sort.

Even now it doesn't make sense and I think the gay boy is the one pranking the others so you may be onto something.

Later on I found that it could mean any type of activity that was going haywire or got fouled up "this trip has turned into a complete circle jerk" on par with cluster fuck and likewise not actually a circle of boys or a pile of sex.
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Old 10-10-2005, 09:41 AM
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It always meant, to me, a bunch of guys in a circle jerking off the next guy. Not that I think it ever really happened.

There was always some doofus who claimed that "choice of guys from next town" did that, once. But, they were probably saying it about us.

Related to : ookie cookie

Definition: group of guys jerks off onto a cookie. Last one to come, eats it.
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Old 10-10-2005, 09:59 AM
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I've heard it used to describe many of the things mentioned in this thread. We also use it casually around the office to describe a meeting that wastes time for all involved. As in, "That brainstorming session was a TOTAL circle jerk."
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Old 10-10-2005, 12:29 PM
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All of the boys except one will know that it is a prank. The lights are turned off, a few choice sound f/x are made and then a bit later the lights come on to the horror of the victim as he is the only one with his pecker out.
This happened twice at the college I went to, once that I heard about and once that I witnessed. The premise was telling the intended victim that ...a circle jerk is a group of [fellows] standing in a circle and masturbating into the center.

The first patsy was a naive lad, and it happened a few years before I arrived. Although the story came up around the guys' dorm, no one seemed to hold it against him and I never heard of anyone ribbing him about it. The second was widely regarded to be obnoxious and arrogant, and lots of folks figured he got what was coming to him (no pun intended). He came across as a hipper-than-thou know-it-all, and there was amazement that he fell for it. The story spread like wildfire around the whole campus, and a few people ridiculed him to his face. He left at the end of the semester.
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Old 10-10-2005, 01:10 PM
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... and then the last guy has to eat the bread!

J/k
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Old 10-10-2005, 01:12 PM
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Related to : ookie cookie

Definition: group of guys jerks off onto a cookie. Last one to come, eats it.
Ah, the old 'spit on the biscuit' trick, eh?

Not that I've ever played that.

So what if I went to prep school?
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Old 10-10-2005, 01:32 PM
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The last faculty meeting I went to certainly qualifies....
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Old 10-10-2005, 02:08 PM
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Old 10-10-2005, 05:11 PM
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It always meant, to me, a bunch of guys in a circle jerking off the next guy. Not that I think it ever really happened.
This is mentioned by Stephen Fry in the semi-autobiographical The Liar as "the Daisy Chain Club", although the narrator alludes to it in a subversive school magazine rather than actually engaging in it or witnessing it.

The other thing's also named "the Biscuit Game" or "Soggy Biscuit" and is allegedly a hazing pastime in the Royal Marines, though I'd be the last to ask one of Her Majesty's Jollies if there's a word of truth in it.
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Old 10-10-2005, 06:48 PM
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It always meant, to me, a bunch of guys in a circle jerking off the next guy. Not that I think it ever really happened.

There was always some doofus who claimed that "choice of guys from next town" did that, once. But, they were probably saying it about us.
Actually, there is a website devoted to variations of this. I certainly won't post the link because it is way not safe for the workplace, but if you wanted to find it, you might try jerk off buds dot com on google and then go to the galleries section and find the buds section. There are only a few pictures of larger groups, so unless you are so inclined to, ahem, peruse the site for awhile to find said group photos, don't bother.

Not that I have ever gone to that site or submitted photos or anything...I, uh, read about it in a book. Really. No kiddin'. Never been there, nor done that, no sirree Bob.
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Old 10-10-2005, 07:06 PM
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I've heard all the defs listed here, but I've most commonly heard it used to generally describe the act of male group masturbation, not necessarily standing in a circle or giving anyone a "helping hand".
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Old 10-10-2005, 08:00 PM
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The definitions told here are pretty much what I have heard.

It's a common urban legend told to fraternity pledges. Kind of like the one about the pledges being told to fuck a sheep and the one that does gets de-pleged for being a sheep fucker or the guy who climbed the cell tower drunk, fell, and hit every beam on the way down (as told in Dazed and Confused).

The only thing I can think of is that a) it doesn't happen or b) it occassionally happens in order to build a bond of mutual humiliation.

Or maybe it's to prove you are so straight you can grab a guys cock, jerk him off, eat his spooge and not even like it.
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Old 10-10-2005, 08:01 PM
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I always thought a circle jerk was a meeting in which everybody was busy congratulating each other for how fantastic they were.
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Old 10-10-2005, 08:18 PM
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I always thought a circle jerk was a meeting in which everybody was busy congratulating each other for how fantastic they were.
In fairness, planning meetings are even more of a circle jerk.
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Old 10-11-2005, 10:01 AM
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I always thought a circle jerk was a meeting in which everybody was busy congratulating each other for how fantastic they were.

That is true. The term has come to mean a non-productive or useless activity that results in a negative or undesired outcome. Also see cluster-fuck.
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Old 10-11-2005, 10:54 AM
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I always thought a circle jerk was a meeting in which everybody was busy congratulating each other for how fantastic they were.
Me too. Kind of the like the famous line delivered by Harvey Keitel in Pulp Fiction: "Well, let's not start sucking each other's dicks just yet. "
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Old 10-11-2005, 12:17 PM
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I always thought a circle jerk was a meeting in which everybody was busy congratulating each other for how fantastic they were.

That is true. The term has come to mean a non-productive or useless activity that results in a negative or undesired outcome. Also see cluster-fuck.
Yes, the distinction between these two, somewhat opposite, terms has sadly begun to blur.

Shalmanese has it exactly right: a circle jerk is all about over-the-top mutual praise and congratulations. Productivity, or lack thereof, is not the important thing; an eyebrow-raising absence of criticism is.

A clusterfuck is entirely different. It's an activity involving several parties that is passively disorganized, at best, or actively hostile, at worst, that results in little or no positive results. Here the lack of productivity is usually key.

It is too bad these terms are being used interchangably, because they are both powerful yet subtle in the way they descibe their own very different contemputous business situations, albeit in a vugar way. And the vulgar terms themselves -- circle jerk and clusterfuck -- trip off the tongue so easily because of their internally-rhyming vowel sounds. I love 'em both.
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Old 10-11-2005, 01:36 PM
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I thought a clusterfuck was a series of little fuckups that combine into a huge fuckup. Like a clusterbomb but with fucks replacing the bombs.
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Old 10-11-2005, 03:27 PM
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I only knew the meaning of "circle jerk" in the sense of "mutual hands on" type behavior (and heavily influenced by that National Lampoon cartoon). I've never even heard anyone ever tell any story what so ever of any group activity of this kind.

But note how one would interpret the alegorical meaning based on your interpretation of the original phrase.

If you think it means "mutual hands on" then you think in terms of a bunch of inflated ego types mutually congratulating themselves.

If you think it means "independent self gratification" then it covers, e.g., meetings where each manager is talking because he/she likes to hear themselves talk.

Clusterf**k became popularized by 'Nam vets. (Although it goes farther back.) Think in terms of a whole lot of little stupid decisions by morons that adds up to other people getting messed over badly. It would be very unusual for a single meeting to contain a clusterf**k.
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Old 10-11-2005, 04:09 PM
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No, no, no, imagine 20 people getting together and trying to fuck in a giant cluster. You can imagine that there are going to be some rather serious slip ups and flying lube.
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Old 10-11-2005, 04:15 PM
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When I was very young and nerdy one of the older members of the wrestling team asked me if I wanted to come to their circle jerk. I had no idea what that was, but wanted to fit in, so I said "sure." He said "Good, you can be the pivot man." Everyone laughed. I was a big enough nerd to still have no idea what the hell he meant, so one of my friends explained that a circle jerk involved a group of males standing in a circle jerking off. Inside that circle was a person (male or female) who was the pivot man. It was that person's job to "pivot" whenever one person of the circle reached his orgasm and catch the result in his mouth.
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Old 10-12-2005, 12:52 AM
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Goddammitt! I read through this whole thread for the sole purpose of stating that the only circle jerks I've personally witnessed have been in GD or The Pit!

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I always thought a circle jerk was a meeting in which everybody was busy congratulating each other for how fantastic they were.
Yeah, that's the type I was talkin' about.
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Old 10-12-2005, 01:04 AM
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It's kind of a sexual version of the dining philosophers problem. Especially the ookie cookie version.
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Old 10-12-2005, 09:21 AM
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I think of a band from the eighties.
Notably, a punk band. One of the bands in The Decline of Western Civilization and who played in the bar in Repo Man. And, they're still in action.
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Old 10-12-2005, 10:11 AM
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Actually, there is a website devoted to variations of this. I certainly won't post the link because it is way not safe for the workplace, but if you wanted to find it, you might try jerk off buds dot com on google and then go to the galleries section and find the buds section. There are only a few pictures of larger groups, so unless you are so inclined to, ahem, peruse the site for awhile to find said group photos, don't bother.

Not that I have ever gone to that site or submitted photos or anything...I, uh, read about it in a book. Really. No kiddin'. Never been there, nor done that, no sirree Bob.
I hate how I read this, and was like "Hmm, that's interesting, I wonder who posted it? Ah, DMark! I had better go check it out."
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Old 10-12-2005, 12:30 PM
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I hate how I read this, and was like "Hmm, that's interesting, I wonder who posted it? Ah, DMark! I had better go check it out."
>>DMark looks down, casually rubs toe in the dirt and blushes<<

So, uh - did ya find what you were lookin' fer?
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Old 10-12-2005, 02:26 PM
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Well, I don't remember what your face looks like, because I don't think that you EVER post in the picture threads. Or maybe you do, and I've forgotten. That, and I'm certainly sure that couldn't pick your genitals out of a lineup, and I was on a public computer when I read this thread earlier.

If you wanted to provide me with a direct link, that would make things easier. In fact, I think that every other gay male doper that I've stalked to any appreciable degree needs to.
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