Okay, so someone help me out here. A friend of mine has been talking about this new HBO show called Big Love that is supposded to be a cross between DH and Six Feet Under. I love both of those shows and I saw this post card for it that read “I Dooo” (with three wedding rings)…does anyone know anythinbg about this…anything more about what its about??
I hear Bill Paxton is the main character…gimme something here people.
What’s DH?
Here’s the description from HBO.com:
I’m sorry, but there’s nothing “cool” about polygamy. I don’t see how a character like this could be sympathetic.
Polygamy wouldn’t work for me either, but I’m definitely interested in the show. As most HBO series are pretty well-done (can’t wait for the new Rome season). It’s quite an interesting concept, I can’t recall any other shows broaching this topic.
If, in the context of the show, the main character and his wives are all “on-board” and have no problems with it, then there’s no harm. There is a distinct difference between polygamy and cheating on a spouse. In the former, all parties are aware of the goings on and are ok with it. Many people practice polygamy quite happily.
You might not find it, or the show, cool, and that’s fine, you don’t have to watch it. But many people are intrigued by the idea, and might be able to sympathize with the main character.
I’m looking forward to it.
I don’t condone “the family practices” but I watch The Sopranos. I’m not a drug dealer or a criminal but I loved “The Wire.” Never been to jail but “Oz” was one of my favorites.
I don’t think that polygamy is cool but a show about it just might be.
The fact that some women might (superficially) seem to accept being degraded in such a fashion does not make the practice less degrading to them. It’s also a crime.
I just can’t feel any sympathy for a guy who would treat women this way and I shudder to think what it does to any children.
I know this isn’t Great Debates, so I’ll leave the thread. A show about a guy with harem just isn’t my cup of tea.
They’re all agreeing to it. Why are you singling out the man? If they’re all willing participants, what’s the problem?
I’m guessing that the “DH” in the OP stands for “Desperate Housewives”.
Women only agree to crap like that if they were raped as toddlers or something. It’s not healthy or normal. People make the same excuse about women who do porn. They seem to be doing it voluntarily but the majority of them are reenacting some kind of childhood trauma. A normal, healthy woman would normal self-esteem does not want to be part of a harem.
If you had a daughter would you want her to be some dickhole’s wife number 3?
I really think HBO does a wonderful job with their Original Series and their movies (Angels in America, etc.), so count me in as looking forward to another great story line. I agree that having a show about something doesn’t necessarily glorify a practice some people find unpalatable, I think this will be another welcome learning experience for me (and many others) who are not privy to this type of family style.
I’m a daughter, and I’m a third wife. Only difference is that I’m in a sequence rather than coincidental (or whatever the word should be).
The world is full of families who share spouses, moms, dads, grandparents. I trust HBO to come up with something thought-provoking about family structure, trust, cooperation and competition, dealing with jealousy, etc.
It must be very convenient for you, knowing how every woman thinks, even if they don’t. How is it that you’re not getting laid every minute of the day?
Wow, that’s quite an inflammatory comment.
Apparently I’ve stepped into an alternate universe where it’s now acceptable to treat women like property again. I didn’t realize that respecting women as equals was considered to be “immflammatory” around here.
Like I said, this isn’t GD. I’m just going to leave the thread now.
That’s not the same thing and you know it. Is it ok if your husbnd get’s another wife right now? Would you want your own daughter to be part of a harem?
Do you only watch shows with characters that have high morals? Shows have lead characters in them that do horrible things all the time. Treating women as non-equals is bad, cheating on your spouse is bad, murdering another person is bad, stealing is bad, but Tony Soprano, for example, does these things all the time.
Flawed characters are what make interesting characters. A show or book or movie that can take highly flawed characters and show a human side to them, all the while never candy-coating the obvious flaws, make some of the best entertainment. Can you at least agree upon that?
I don’t think anyone here is saying polygamy is good, or that treating women like property is good. We’re talking about a fictional character on a TV series. Creating, and subsequently watching, a TV series with flawed characters doesn’t mean you endorse the flaws.
I’m definitely going to check out that show.
In the meantime, I’ve started a GD thread on the polygamy issue.
You’re right. It’s absolutely unecessary to have to like the characters in order to enjoy a show. Many of the the shows I enjoy the most have unsavory characters (including a couple of other HBO shows, The sopranos, and Deadwood). In fact, i would go so far as to say that amoral or even evil characters are almost always more interesting than “good” characters.
My initia impression with reading the (albeit sketchy) description of the show was that this particular lifestyle was being portrayed as “cool” or at least acceptable. My reflex was that it struck me as creepy male fantasy. It doesn’t have to be “moral” to be good, obviously, but I guess I don’t find the subject inherently interesting at any level. I don’t enjoy relationship dramas and unles there’s going to be lot of violence or something I just think I would be bored by this.
I’m not sure. I wouldn’t reject it out of hand. That’s why I’m looking forward to HBO’s take on it.