During the first eight years of our parents marriage, we were born: 1951, 1953, 1954, 1956, 1957, 1958(miscarriage).
We were in our teens when we learned of our mother’s miscarriage, but it wasn’t until my father’s death that my mother told us of our father’s vasectomy in 1958.
I was in my late teens before my dad admitted to me that my mother was “with child” when they got married. As if I couldn’t do the math and see that I was born a scant 7 months after the wedding.
Heh. My husband’s great-aunt told us about the wives’ tale that the first child could be born any time- it was only subsequent babies that had to take the whole 9 months to be born!
My aunt waited until my grandmother died before adopting a chinese kid with her female “housemate”. Who had lived with her for ten years. And they had lots of dogs and cats. And they both wear birkenstocks…
My friend’s brother, at the age of 19, found out that he’s actually about 6 months older than his parents had always told him he was. Bit of a shocker, that.
A few years ago I saw a special on the History Channel about the Great Northeast
Blackout of 1965, I acutally saw this before the 2003 blackout, and realized …
hey November 9, 1965 … November to December 1 month … December to
January 2 months … ect August 4, 1966 Ding
Hey Mom & Dad Me and my twin brother are Blacout Babies!!
I was in college before I realized the true nature of my aunt’s relationship with her roommate. They’d lived together for at least 10 years by then, the woman always came to our family get-togethers and holidays, and she wore those ankle boots that zip up on the side. How could I not have known?? I only figured it out because she wrote a letter to me alluding to her “lifestyle choice”.
I was in my midtwenties before I figured out that one of my older relatives is gay, even though we all visited each other regularly, she had a very short list of long-term female “roommates,” uses a unisex nickname instead of her rather flowery given name, plays a lot of sports, looks and dresses rather like a man . . . But then again, even though my family is a bunch of bigots, NOBODY talks about it. Ever. No gay jokes ever, either. It’s the elephant in the room that nobody talks about, not even her.
So I had zero gaydar when I was a kid and young adult. I only recently learned about the lesbians who lived in our dorm in college. Hung out with them regularly and had no clue.
Okay, what is with the “lesbian aunt” thing? I have one too! A great-aunt, actually. Very butch, never married… and I had no idea. She even had the short nickname for a very feminine given name.