Lissa, a word, if I may

The BBQ Pit
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Hey there, dearie. I’m not starting this to ream you out, honest, but do you think, maybe, you could post say, one whole week, without mentioning that your husband works in a prison? I mean, if it’s a thread about prisons, I can understand it, but dropping it into a thread about the onset of female “unattractiveness” is a bit much, don’t you think? The connection was pretty tenuous, it made me go “huh?”

In fact, while I realise you love him very much and like talking about him, I, for one, would much rather hear about you, and your experiences. Hell, IMHO, your job is ten times more interesting than his. I love museums!

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Seriously. I think of her as Lissa-whose-husband-works-in-a-prison.

That said, she’s provided interesting information on the topic, so it’s not that bad.

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Lissa’s husband works in a prison? Wow.

<hijack>
Hey Lissa: How long has he worked there? Does he work with really mean killer types or Enron Exec’s? Does he get to check cakes for files and if so do they mind if he has a slice? Could you ask him if anyone tried to escape by hot air balloon? Or trained monkeys on motorcycles?
</hijack>

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I dunno…I’m attracted to all things incarceration. I don’t care if it’s Quagdop or Lissa or who. If you’re showcasing the underbelly of society…I’m there, baby.

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Meh, if you are going to have a pitting you better come up with more than one example.

Lissa is one of my favorite posters and I have to admit that I didn’t know her husband worked in a prison until this thead, so I don’t think it comes up as often as you think.

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<Ahem>

Rumour has it that a very famous Cape Town prison is now a museum.

<ducks and runs>

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I really don’t think the intent was to “pit” Lissa in the classical sense.

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I despise one-trick ponies, but I never noticed this with Lissa. I love her posts, even though we disagree on a few things, and I will open a thread just to see what she has to say. In the example you gave, I think she had a valid reason for bringing it up because she used it to illustrate how much that we think is instinctual is culturally based. I guess I give her a pass because she actually knows what she is talking about and doesn’t do drive-bys.

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I’ve definitely noticed this about Lissa. Not to the point where I mind,necessarily , but enough that I’ve found it curious. Does she do this perhaps for the benefit of newer members who might not know this fact about her life? Does she even realize she does it?

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One trick pony? Not that I’ve seen. Further, her posts in the OP’s link were the most interesting, informative posts in the whole thread, and were not entirely off-topic. All in all, this is a very lame-asss pitting.

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"Ratel" - you know, that made me laugh!

August, I can find other examples, but this really isn’t an antagonistic pitting. I don’t think of her as a one-trick pony, it’s just a little irritance, and the “little-irritance” Pit thread wasn’t immediately visible, and the “New Thread” button was.

Mostly, it is done in prison threads, and that’s fine. It isn’t so much the fact that Lissa brings it up reasonably often that bugs me (she’s not as bad as Siege, f’rex.), it’s that it’s always pretty formulaic: “My husband works in a prison and …”, “My husband , the prison guard…”. Second-hand anecdotes and second-hand experience just don’t impress me as much as first-hand (so, for instance, since QtM was mentioned, , think what it would be like if elfbabe often jumped into threads with “Ya know, my dad’s a prison Doctor, and here’s what his experiences make me think about the human condition”).

kimera, I think that’s my problem with that thread - she doesn’t work in a prison, her husband does. So what she “actualluy knows” is coloured by his perceptions etc. Fine for facts about the life of a prison guard, not so much for the internal workings of the criminal mind, I reckon.

Again, don’t mean to be ragging on her, but like EE said, I’m starting to think of her as “Lissa-with-the-prison-guard-husband”, and I’d much rather think of her as Lissa, full stop. Like I said, I think her job is seriously cool, and I have no beef with her (I don’t have a beef with her husband’s job, either, but I think he should get his own account, ya know?).

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Like I said, not a flameful pitting, nor was I pitting her overall participation in that thread, just the “my husband is a the prison screw” schtick. I din’t say she was a OTP, just that that particular thing is noticeable and bugs me. That’s all.

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So this is a non-pitting in the BBQ pit?

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Where should it go? You can’t say mean things in MPSIMS. Maybe IMHO? “Do you guys think Lissa mentions her husband too much?” Yeah, I see that staying out of the Pit for five, maybe ten minutes.

GQ: How many times has Lissa mentioned her husband this month?
GD: If Lissa stops mentioning her husband, does he still exist?
CS: If a movie were made of Lissa’s life…

Not every Pit has to be a Pitting of a whole person. I think Pitting a trait is fine, though like others I don’t agree that this trait is particularly bothersome.

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I read Lissa’s post in the thread you linked to, and it made sense to me. She was not specifically addressing the topic of the thread but rather a tangent that had come up, as tangents often do in Board discussions. I didn’t find her mention of her husband’s profession to be gratuitous.

Even if the OP’s point is correct, which I don’t concede, a tendency to mention one’s husband excessively strikes me at being a great example of a quirk that easily could be overlooked. Perhaps you, Mr Dibble, have not had the dubious honor of finding your name at the top of a Pit thread, but it isn’t pleasant, and a “friendly” advisement that others find your comments tiresome is not, in fact, very friendly. Frankly, to pit someone for something so piddling serves as more of a comment on your posting style than hers.

Just for your consideration, dearie.

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Jodi!!! damn good to see you!!! I’m still at the same email if you have it.

sorry - saw the name and had to shout out!

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Honestly, that sounds more like something you need to deal with, than something Lissa needs to deal with.

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The only thing that confuses me is that she has also said her husband teaches at a college. Is this somehow connected to the prison?

:confused:

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[Ralph Wiggum] What’s a prison? [/RW]

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Ok, I’m not the only one who noticed that. I’ve got no interest in pitting Lissa, but if she drops by, I’d like to hear about that.