Your opinions please.
I’ve been told time and time again that threesomes are basically for younger people who aren’t going to do anything long term, no strings attached rather than something for committed relationships.
What’s your opinion, polyamory aside. There’s a difference between sex and love but the lines get blurred so often.
They’re definitely not just for young people. I’ll bet that it’s much more common for people who have passed 35 to have threesomes that don’t end in hurt feelings, insecurities, suspicion and so forth than it is for people who haven’t yet passed 25.
It’s not just a fun and carefree thing. For most people, it requires maturity and readiness. If you’re not one of those people, good for you. A lot of us are.
I’ve never had a threesome, but I do have a story to tell that illustrates the difference between fantasy and reality. I went to a swinger’s club a couple of times with my then girlfriend. The first time we went we had decided not to have sex with anyone else yet but just try out the experience. The second time, we were a bit more open, going there to see what happened.
At one point, I told her that if she felt like making out with this one woman she had said she thought was attractive, it was OK by me. I mean, what redblooded nongay male wouldn’t like to see that, right? But then we were having sex like a foot away from that woman and her husband, and my girlfriend had only to move a little bit to be able to start kissing her. How did I feel about that? Incredibly excited, can’t wait to see it? Nope. I regretted giving her permission.
And I was a guy who was in a relationship where we regularly talked about other people we found attractive and what we’d like to do to them with no jealousy or suspicion. We often talked about having threesomes. In theory, it sounded great. In reality, while I don’t doubt we’d have done it eventually and with minimal problems if we’d stayed together, it was very different.
That’s my two cents.
Been there, done that as a married man age 30 and a young kid age 19. When I was 19 there were no rules at all, nobody cared and there was no jealousy (I have done it numerous times).
As a married man the rules were different as I/we wanted to preserve our marriage. (Everyone has different rules and some have no rules). For us it was two women, one man and it benefited my wife more than me. I did not touch the outsider and she did not touch me. It has worked perfectly each time. And I have found it to be beneficial meaning we have found more partners who were willing to join us, not having to worry about some guy they don’t know touching them.
My benefit? Well, I get to watch and see my wife having the time of her life.
In the gay community, they’re common. I’ve probably done at least 100 of them in the past. They’re sex, not love. Still, a lot of fun.
Well, my last one was when I was 36 (I’m 37) and it was the best one so far. With someone I’m in love with and someone I just met (he knew her). I admit, given the circumstances I had certain moments of jealousy. But mostly just took pleasure in…his pleasure.