I’m not talking about the gross, gawking guy who stares at your chest. But what about all the rest of us straight guys? I mean, we all tend to notice your breasts…does it bother you?
There’s one cow-worker of mine who always wears low tops. When I talk to her, I don’t try and look at her (ample) bosoms, but it does happen. There’s another woman at my office with a prodigious rack (I’m talking really huge, as in she is “Shannon with the boobs” even among the other women). When I talk to her, my eyes again tend to take a glimpse.
I respect and admire both women, and certainly don’t talk to them merely because I want to peek at some boobage. But I wonder, as my inner voice yells, “Look at her eyes, dipshit!”, if I’m offending them, even as I enjoy a fleeting perusal of their torso.
I akin a low cut top with visible cleavage to a fine work of art within a nice frame hanging in the Louvre. Why show them if it’s not meant to be looked at? Which isn’t to say I stare or anything, and I certainly maintain eye-contact if I’m talking to the woman, but yeah, I’ll look from across the room or if she passes me by. Any woman who gets upset over that needs to stop wearing clothes that will encourage it. If you wear a low-cut top, men will look at your cleavage. It’s a fact of life.
I used to be super-skinny, and had almost no boobs at all. After gaining 30 pounds, I now have some cleavage to look at, and it kind of gives me a little thrill. Here I am over here trying to be all feminist and forward-thinking and non-objectified, and yet I have to admit that it’s kind of cool to have something to look at. I guess just because my cleavage wasn’t looked at for most of my post-pubescent life, and now it is. Right now in the process of losing that additional 30 lbs., and I know that they will go away again, and I’m kind of sad. But they’re not worth being chubby.
Depends on what I’m wearing. If I’m wearing something tight or low-cut, I think I can hardly get mad/offended if someone looks at my breasts.* I* look at women’s breasts. Breasts are interesting. If I am wearing something not revealing or whatever AND a man can’t seem to look at my face at all, that’s a bit annoying. But hey. They’re breasts. Men are supposed to like them. (I mean, unless they don’t.)
Unless all of the conversation with me is spent staring at the girls or the cleavage they create, then I don’t have a problem with anyone looking at my cleavage (or my boobs, for that matter). They’re big and are going to catch most folks’ attention, male and female alike.
If no conversation is involved, then all I ask is that you don’t stare. I don’t mind looks, especially if I sense that the “looker” is appreciating what they see.
Hell, I like the looks of my cleavage and breasts, especially when I’m wearing a blouse that I like. How can I fault someone else for the same?
In my early twenties, I wore low-cut shirts everyday. I often received comments (not from strangers) about how I shouldn’t show any cleavage. I noticed that my slimmer friends never got these comments, even when they wore equally low shirts. Even my big busted slim friends didn’t seem to get this feedback.
It just made me rebel more. As a big mama with a huge bust, I make it a point not to hide my cleavage. I admit that I do keep them covered pretty well on a day to day basis. But when I hit the night clubs, I set them free!
If guys check it out, good. I like to check out a guy’s walk, his style, and that thing they do…you know, when they lick their lips? So if I can admire them, they can admire me too.
My figure is such that I can “dress” my chest to be noticed or to just be there. If I want them to be noticed, you’ll notice them. And that was the point.
As spooje noted, as long as you’re not obvious about it, or should I say, glaringly obvious about it, then (for me) - yeah. You could think of it that way. I know that you’re most likely kidding, but I like to be noticed in an appreciative way. It makes me feel good.
Interestingly enough, my husband also does not mind other men giving me an appreciative look. In fact, he’s told me of several instances when he’s noticed someone else enjoying the view.
What do I think? I think he’s a hetero guy who likes my tits. I should be upset by this? Heck, I’m a butt and package checker myself, I have no grounds to object to a cleavage peeker!
Why would I wear something low-cut, only to be upset if men looked? I thought that was the point of low-cut tops. Don’t tell me I’ve been doing this all wrong…
I don’t wear things that show off cleavage very often (never to work; I think it’s unprofessional to show up to your job dressed like Lisa Cuddy), but when I do it’s will full awareness that the outfit will attract attention. I lack empathy for women who are falling out of their tops and also upset that a guy stared at them. How could he not?!
In my case it’s the butt that draws the eye, so in a way those who look at the boobs are at least staying on the front area…
I’m fine with people whose eye strays to any part of mine so longs as it’s, you know, not a leer, not a fixed stare… so long as they occasionally remember that my face is up here and on the front.
I don’t usually wear low-cut tops, but when I wear tight or low-cut tops or painted-on jeans it would be pretty stupid of me to yell if someone looks.
I’m a hetero guy who has an amazing knack for not noticing knockers. It is usually a woman who points out the boobery of other women. I really don’t notice. But then, breasts don’t really do it for me. They look like lumps of flesh mushed together. Soft, hairless flesh, which is good, but the ladies also got that all over their faces.
Once someone says something about cleavage/boobs on display by a particular woman, however, I do look. Even then, it’s a glance out of curiosity, along the same lines as if someone said “Look at how long her fingernails are.” In such a case, you can’t help but look.
Absolutely. I like the way my chest looks and yes, I do dress in such a way to flatter areas of my body that I like. So, if you want to look, go ahead, make my day and make me feel attractive for a while…
Admittedly you’d probably be hard pressed not to notice, my propensity for V-neck tops and a drop pendant probably don’t detract attention away…
A brief look? It tells me you’re a normal guy. Guys look. It’s what they do. I’m not offended if you notice I’m a woman with secondary sexual characteristics.
If we’re having a conversation you better look at my face. You may look at the tits, but it is inappropriate to talk to the tits in public situations.
Another one here saying slack-jawed stares and drooling are inappropriate, but you already know that and it’s not what you’re talking bout about.
