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Old 10-27-2008, 03:53 PM
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Memorial thread for Doper Askia (1970-2007)


I really enjoyed his posts and I haven't seen him in a very long time.
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Old 10-27-2008, 04:55 PM
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Wow. I was just realizing that the other day as well. I checked, and it's now been over a year since he posted. No goodbye that I saw. Pity.
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Old 10-27-2008, 04:57 PM
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Did he go anywhere with his online comic? If that ever made it public we can probably see what he is up to. I miss him too.
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:31 PM
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Damn!


Also, his father was Atlanta radio personality Ebon Dooley.

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Old 10-27-2008, 09:36 PM
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Oh damn indeed. That is really sad.

Fellow members the link is to his Memorial services back on October 11, 2007.

He was only 36.
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:43 PM
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Dammit. He seemed like such a good person, what a shame.

Edit: Found this tribute via Google, which says it was a heart attack.

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Old 10-27-2008, 09:44 PM
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Askia was always one of my favorite posters. That's really too bad.
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:46 PM
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Oh shit, I had no idea. He posted normally and just happened to die young- what a shame. He was a really interesting poster with a different take on things to say the least. I thought he was one of the guys who got lost in the shuffle or just found his priorities were taking him elsewhere. I wish that'd been the case.

With the OP's permission I'll change the thread title to indicate that this is a memorial thread.
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:51 PM
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I'm glad you asked that Marley, I was just going to ask about a title change myself. Ferret Herder, thank you for finding and sharing that tribute.
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:55 PM
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:01 PM
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Sad news. I always enjoyed his posts.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:04 PM
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I thought this was one of his best and most interesting threads: Way to kill my blowing off steam, cute lil' white boy

I was refering to this thread in my first post: So... did I mention I'm starting a webcomic? (FAQ Q&A FWIW) . There are links to his webcomic artwork.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:06 PM
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:11 PM
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I don't think I even knew he was sort of a neighbor, with Orangeburg ties. Damn, that's sad.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:23 PM
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Not just Orangeburg ties, but he used to come to Columbia every once in a while, while he was in college in Orangeburg. I mentioned to him to come drop by Longhorn some evening when he was in town and chit-chat, but, unfortunately, that never happened.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:38 PM
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Askia was my number one favorite poster of all time.

It is because of him that I fell in love with this place. Long before I was able to post, I lurked longingly at his posts, pretty much a full out groupie. R.I.P.
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Old 10-27-2008, 11:52 PM
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Well, that's a kick in the head.
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Old 10-28-2008, 12:00 AM
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Damn. That sucks. I thought he was still around! Could have sworn I saw a post by him the other day
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Old 10-28-2008, 12:26 AM
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Damn. I never got to meet him in person, but in his posts he came across as someone worth getting to know.

R.I.P. Askia
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Old 10-28-2008, 12:49 AM
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A very sweet and engaging poster. I liked his style a lot. He is missed, badly, around here.
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Old 10-28-2008, 02:13 AM
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Through his posts and perspective, he touched people he never met, even people he's never interacted with and are known by no one on these boards...like me. :/ I'll miss him a lot.
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An etiquette question: is it ever too late to drop a condolence note? Askia's mother's address is in the linked obit--I was wondering if, beyond a point, condolence notes become reminders of something survivors would rather not have brought up. Or is it always okay? Even from people who never knew him IRL? I don't want to suggest that his friends and fans drop such notes en masse without putting this question into high relief.
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Old 10-28-2008, 05:50 AM
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Shit.

I saw this thread for ages without clicking on it. Sorry I did now, as I thought he was just another one who had moved on from what is still only a website.

But still only a a website or not, he was one of us. I didn't have a lot to do with him, but I enjoyed his presence here - some great posts.
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Old 10-28-2008, 06:25 AM
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Shit. He was a brilliant, provocative, funny writer. I know he must have had a tremendous effect on folks IRL. His death is a giant loss.
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Old 10-28-2008, 06:51 AM
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Oh my god! He was such a great poster. Why couldn't this have happened to (insert your least favorite banned poster here) instead?

Fuck...

How do you have a heart attack at 36, anyway? Big guy? Bad heart?

This is so sad.

e: I had no idea "Askia" was his real name. What a cool name! ...

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Old 10-28-2008, 06:56 AM
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Oh my god! He was such a great poster. Why couldn't this have happened to (How do you have a heart attack at 36, anyway? Big guy? Bad heart?(
I don't know anything about his health, but he once posted about trying to lose weight by bicycling, and I think he said he was about 5'6" and 250 lbs.
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Ouch. That's ten inches less and sixty pounds more than me. I guess that'll do it.
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Old 10-28-2008, 07:11 AM
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Fuck. I never heard anything about this. This really sucks; Askia was good people.
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Old 10-28-2008, 07:17 AM
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An etiquette question: is it ever too late to drop a condolence note? Askia's mother's address is in the linked obit--I was wondering if, beyond a point, condolence notes become reminders of something survivors would rather not have brought up. Or is it always okay? Even from people who never knew him IRL? I don't want to suggest that his friends and fans drop such notes en masse without putting this question into high relief.
I was thinking the same thing. Maybe one note, with a link to this thread, so she can read it if she wants or ignore us? I don't know. It is just past the one year anniversary of his death, so one can assume he's been on her mind a lot lately anyhow...

I'm shocked and saddened, too. I adored Askia, and assumed he'd left after, y'know, board stuff drove so many people away.

I suppose, just for old time's sake, I should add one final: Dude, Askia's BLACK?!*







*In-joke, just in case Mom Askia does come by. Askia was never shy of mentioning his race, but it never seemed to stick in anyone's head. So whenever he'd say something about his black culture, school or experience, at least one person would experience the revelation, sometimes for the second or third time, that Askia was a black dude.
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Old 10-28-2008, 07:24 AM
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I think he was the only poster who liked The Boondocks more than me. I guess he didn't get to see the second season.
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Old 10-28-2008, 07:59 AM
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I thought this was one of his best and most interesting threads: Way to kill my blowing off steam, cute lil' white boy
That's the one that made me remember his name, which is a big deal for a sievehead like me. Damn.
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Old 10-28-2008, 08:07 AM
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I've wondered about him from time to time, but figured he just got tired of the boards. He was one of the people I'd hoped would show back up when we returned to free posting. This is sad news indeed.

My condolences to his family and friends. RIP
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Old 10-28-2008, 08:10 AM
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An etiquette question: is it ever too late to drop a condolence note? Askia's mother's address is in the linked obit--I was wondering if, beyond a point, condolence notes become reminders of something survivors would rather not have brought up. Or is it always okay? Even from people who never knew him IRL? I don't want to suggest that his friends and fans drop such notes en masse without putting this question into high relief.
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I was thinking the same thing. Maybe one note, with a link to this thread, so she can read it if she wants or ignore us? I don't know. It is just past the one year anniversary of his death, so one can assume he's been on her mind a lot lately anyhow...
It is never too late to send a condolence letter -- just say "I've only just now heard of the death."

And condolence letters are one form of communication where pen and paper is infinitely better than an email. Pen and ink, people, handwritten. It doesn't have to be long, it doesn't have to be complicated -- just "he was a good guy, he touched my life, he is missed."
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I don't think it's ever too late. In fact, it might be better than sooner, in some ways - a lady I work with was just talking about how when her husband died and people stopped talking about him all the time, she kept bringing him up constantly because she was afraid that people had started to forget him, and when the anniversary of his death came she was kind of hurt that there was no weeping and wailing and rending of clothing and gnashing of teeth in the street. We were talking about the way my grandmother always tells these incredibly depressing stores about Grandpa ("Dad never got to go back home to our place after the stroke...") and what she said really made me think.

I agree about pen and ink.
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Old 10-28-2008, 08:27 AM
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This is very sad indeed!

I often wonder if any of our past posters have disappeared for a similar kind of reason.
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Old 10-28-2008, 08:34 AM
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I only knew him here for a short time, but he touched me - I didn't expect this at all when I started this thread. Shit.

I can't believe how this is affecting me - I'm really crying here at my desk at work. I'll send a condolence note to his mother.

Dopers: I love you guys - I never said it to him, but I have the time to say it to you.
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I agree about pen and ink.
Goes without saying. We have an address from the obit, but not an e-mail for Askia's mom.
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Old 10-28-2008, 08:51 AM
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indeed it is never to late to send a note. perhaps his family didn't know he posted here.

i would think that a mom would like to know people think of her son and remember him.

may askia's memory be eternal.
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That's depressing, but still kind of nice that over a year later dopers would track it down and find out.
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Old 10-28-2008, 08:53 AM
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I just figured that he was outta here for whatever reason. He was a really great guy. So young.

I liked his stories, but I also liked that he could disagree and not have to get nasty with it. We need more Askias in the world.
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Damn.

Do you think TPTB would see fit to give him a special board title posthumously?
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Goes without saying.
Actually, I don't think it does, given the huge number of people on this board who consider thank-you notes, of any persuasion, so obnoxious a burden that they'd rather not receive a gift at all. Which to me indicates that such people, if they felt compelled to indicate their sorrow, would prefer to do so via text message, IM, or email -- none of which would bring much comfort to Askia's mom, I don't think.
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Old 10-28-2008, 09:38 AM
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Do you think TPTB would see fit to give him a special board title posthumously?
We've had conversations about that before. I think it'd lead to confusion for newer members, and it's probably a better tribute that deceased posters are always members, as they were, instead of putting something like "R.I.P." under their user names.
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Old 10-28-2008, 09:47 AM
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Well, it's been said numerous times, but yes if anyone is compelled to send a condolence note, it's certainly not too late! I'm sure his family would be touched!

In Askia's memory, I'd like to say that he was a wonderful Doper his aim always seemed to educate, to illuminate an issue, to offer good constructive thoughts to the topic at hand. I also made sure to read any thread he started, and if I noticed he was the last poster to a thread, I'd make sure to read that too, knowing that if the subject provoked Askia's interest, it would surely be of value.

Askia, like so many of you reading this, enriched my life. My thanks to him, and thanks to all of you.
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Actually, I don't think it does, given the huge number of people on this board who consider thank-you notes, of any persuasion, so obnoxious a burden that they'd rather not receive a gift at all. Which to me indicates that such people, if they felt compelled to indicate their sorrow, would prefer to do so via text message, IM, or email -- none of which would bring much comfort to Askia's mom, I don't think.
And how exactly are you going to learn Askia's mom's e-mail addy, or any of that stuff? My point was that all we have AFAIK now is her mailing address.
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I only knew him here for a short time, but he touched me - I didn't expect this at all when I started this thread. Shit.

I can't believe how this is affecting me - I'm really crying here at my desk at work. I'll send a condolence note to his mother.

Dopers: I love you guys - I never said it to him, but I have the time to say it to you.

Aw, Jali. You are so sweet. I think we should indeed tell people that we like that we like them while there is time.

Someone made a thread about 'say something good' about dopers, and I thought that was a really nice idea.

I do remember that I was sure to mention my appreciation for you in that thread.
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Old 10-28-2008, 10:29 AM
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Blast and bollocks!

This sucks. I always enjoyed reading Askia's posts and he won my heart with his thread about the dancing lil white boy. I'm sorry that I hadn't noticed his disappearance before this.

He is missed.
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Damn, I was just thinking of Askia because a recent CS thread asked "does the black guy always die?"

Because he obviously created Askia's Law AKA, the Sacrificial Negro rule of movies. Damn I miss him, the man knew his stuff and was an asset to this board.
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Old 10-28-2008, 11:16 AM
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Wow. This is really really really sad news.

I linked to Askia's Law in the above-mentioned thread. And I was thinking that he hadn't posted for a while.
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Aw, man.
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