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Of course this is racism, if anything is. But is it good racism? The obvious reason to allow mate racism is that people enjoy mating better when they better like their mates, and people think they care about the race of their mates. But this same argument applies to allowing racism by firms, schools, and clubs. Firms are full of people, including employees, customers, suppliers, and investors, any of which might care about the race of folks with which they would have to deal, mingle, associate, etc… At schools, the teachers, students, and ultimate employers of those students may also care about race.
Yes people may be mistaken about how much they care about the race of their associates, and perhaps this justifies government policies forbidding overt racism at firms, schools, or clubs. But why doesn’t this apply just as well to mating? Sure it is impossible to legislate away all racism in dating, but the same is true for hiring etc. Why don’t we at least forbid overt mating racism, such as race-based searches? We could even collect stats on the race of folks that people contact at dating sites, just as we check now on rates rates in hiring at firms, etc.
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[li]One explanation is that we mistakenly intuit that imposing rules on firms only hurts those abstract entities, not the people associated with them. Or we think such rules only hurt investors and managers, who we don’t care about. [/li][li]Perhaps we only dislike racism that changes incomes, not happiness — yet mates often change income a lot. Another explanation is that we only don’t care about racism in the “personal” sphere, though this just changes the question to what exactly is “personal” and why do we care differently about such things. [/li][li]Another possibility is that everyone is dating-racist, while only a few people are hiring-racist, if only because only a few people are in charge of hiring decisions. People, especially non-hirers, can carp about hiring-racism to lower the relative status of particular people or groups they don’t like. By contrast, nobody is unusually devoid of dating-racism, so there’s no critical mass of status-seeking castigators. [/li][li]Or perhaps we just turn a blind eye to abysmal evil behavior as long as it’s done for love. So, while we may mouth pretty egalitarian lies in our daily lives, we’re ruthlessly Darwinian where it matters: when it comes to procreation, and we’re okay with that.[/li][/ul]
What do you think?