The main premise of my story/question is, how can fairness be assured in child support scenarios?
The story: You all may remember my past stories about “Greg” and “Susan.” Greg is my boyfriend and Susan is his ex-wife. This story is about them.
Greg & Susan have three sons, ages 14, 13 and 11. They’ve been divorced since 2003. Greg pays child support to Susan.
Susan had three more children (ages 6, 4 and 2) with her second husband, who is now in prison serving a 3-year term. Susan is divorcing him.
Susan recently started dating “Mark,” and within about 1-2 months of dating, they were engaged and Mark moved into Susan’s small rental apartment with his 3-year-old son who he has half-time custody of. Mark is also in the middle of a divorce.
Susan is not employed outside of the home (and never has been her whole adult life; She is 34). Her only income is Greg’s child support, which is $2,500/month. Susan gets no child support from her second husband because he is in prison. She is on food stamps and her three youngest are on Medicaid and that is the only public assistance she gets.
Mark, the new boyfriend, is unemployed. He was previously making $8.88 hourly at a job as a cook, but we just learned (via legal documents) that he is now unemployed and on “state disability insurance.”
So doing the math, we see that there are 2 adults and 7 children living on $2,500 + food stamps + some other small unknown amount from Mark’s disability.
That brings us to the problem, which is: Isn’t Greg essentially financially supporting the whole group, not just his three kids? And is this fair?
From what I have always understood, the child support money is to be used for the benefit of the child, for housing, utilities, food, clothes, travel, etc. We have no complaint about the full amount of the child support money going towards Greg’s 3 kids. And I even understand that by going toward housing and electricity, Susan may herself benefit from this to some extent.
Clearly, Susan is operating a household of 9 people with basically no other significant income sources. Using logical reasoning, one can only deduce that Susan is also supporting herself, her boyfriend, and her other three kids, mainly on Greg’s money.
So I would like to explore this issue with you guys, in a logical and rational sense, and try to understand how to reconcile myself with this situation and its (in my opinion) essential unfairness. Advice or thoughts or similar stories are welcome. Please ask questions if something is not clear or more information is needed.
I am really struggling with this (not on a material level, since I am not financially involved in any way, but on an emotional level). Also I am not asking for legal advice, although if you have thoughts or stories to share with a legal angle, that is welcomed.