Second the advice to watch “Judge Judy.”
When my son and his GF decided to rent a place together, I had a serious talk with the boy. I explained to him what the financial commitment meant, and he was literally STUCK there for the life of the lease.
I then got blunt: Okay let’s say you two decide that it’s not gonna work out. Can YOU afford the whole rent payment by yourself?
Let’s face it, on a one bedroom apartment, you’re not gonna find a roommate!
Apparently, that was a theoretical situation he had actually considered! And he said yes, it would be tight, but he could pay it solo.
Son and GF recently bought their own HOUSE, and are getting married in May! Sometimes it DOES work out!
Too many times, though, it doesn’t.
Two friends sharing an apartment don’t have the same emotional commitment that a BF/GF. ASK your son if they have truly discussed what sharing a home means! Who will clean? How will the bills get paid? Who buys food? If each buys his own food, will they agree to stay OUT of the other guy’s food? Who buys toilet paper? Do they have a vacuum? (Young men are pigs. TWO young men are a barnyard!) Will they take turns taking out the trash?
Just because they both like the same music doesn’t mean it’s a match made in heaven!
Another thing: if this will be your son’s FIRST job, you will have to explain to him about taxes and Social Security and all the other crap that will be taken out of his check. The very first paycheck of a young adult always gives me comedic relief. “WHERE DID ALL MY MONEY GO?”
A kid figures, I’m making ten bucks an hour, I work a 40-hour week, my check will be $400.
Uh huh. If those two sign a lease on an $800/mo apartment, and each one is supposed to pay $400 a month just for rent, a ten dollar an hour job won’t cut it.
~VOW